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Yes, your family honor has been besmirched! |
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#51 | ||
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Tanx again for the opinions/insight. It was a helpful vent, and I did apologize to dude (and church lady) already, if that wasn't clear. I pretty much said my piece, and he got to sweat my mighty wrath for a couple days, so I might as well drop it with a little grace.
Perhaps most helpful or interesting were the opinions of children/relatives of clergy. Thanks! Aside from just the personally interesting aspect, when I thought about it for a half-second I realized the obvious implications of this guy being a Catholic priest, and having (little or) no family. I'm sure that probably contributed to his lack of empathy. ...oh, and I learned I should never dictate the word 'profusely' to anybody again, nobody seemed to like that very much (except me).
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#52 |
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Heheh
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#53 | |
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Join Date: Dec 2002
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I was kinda hoping Clergy Killers was a rap song.
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You and the Monsignor are both wrong
![]() First, you: the email was sort of nuts, and when I receive an email like that, I ignore it--and while I think it was tactless for the Monsignor to insinuate that you are a lunatic and deranged, that email certainly gave that impression ![]() Still, the monsignor ought to have replied--given that he chose to reply--that he understood that your family was dealing with grief, and that emotions were running high, which would explain the stridency of the email. I was an altar boy who attended something like 300+ funerals. Some priests did a nice job with their eulogies, personalizing them and reaching out to the bereaved. Some had a single, canned sermon that they gave over and over and over again, and even as a 13-year-old, I found those to be disheartening. Best solution: a family member should deliver the eulogy at a funeral; or, if the family member is too stricken with grief to speak, a family member should write a eulogy and have a family friend deliver it.
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#55 | |
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That dick phoned it in. |
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For whatever it's worth, this particular Monsignor/church recently stopped 'allowing' personal eulogies at their funeral services.
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I'll echo that both of you were wrong. However, I can understand your sense of anger at the flubbing of your aunt's name. I mean its a traumatic time and sometimes our passions get the best of us, even if it is in an email written slightly after the event.
However, the monsignor's email starting with the "Clergy Killers" book was definitely out of line. I can understand the frustrations that clergy must feel when they flub something, but the response should be an apology, even when its not fully sincere (though God knows it should be - but God also knows that we fall short of His Glory all the time) with no snark. As for the discussion of 12 year old understanding of faith being sufficient, I think the issue is that we must have the faith of children, but the reason and intelligence of adults and they should exist in tandum and bounce off each other to further glorify God (when studying God with adult reason and intellect we must remember to have faith in His design and purposes). This is, of course, IMO.
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Am I the only one that read this like Monsignor Rambo threw a big knife through Toddzilla to stop his post? Or have I seen too many action films recently?
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Join Date: Oct 2002
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Really, "dick", and "smug asshole"? I don't know if you attend church but I think there's a chapter about you in that clergy killers book. Being in the clergy is such a shitty job, I know they're having huge problems filling vacancies with young pastors in the Lutheran church. Low pay, angry parishioners. The ones 70+ should really cut back on their obligations, but if they turn anyone down, they're assholes for that too. Last edited by molson : 12-13-2011 at 02:27 PM. |
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Now I think I have to buy that book, if only out of a pure Pavlovian reaction. Just to be clear, there is at least one chapter about nunchucks, right?
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Yeah, it is an interesting career, that's for sure, and must take a huge emotional toll on pastors and families. I can almost understand the Catholic concept of removing even the option of a family from the picture, and saying you have to commit fully to this life in order to take the roll, because you're going to be affecting so many people's lives....but it seems antiquated and ridiculous (to outside eyes) at the same time. I think the term 'shitty job' covers it pretty well....partly because that's probably exactly what it must be for the majority of the mundane work (though it must carry great reward as well), and maybe partly because you're not even allowed to really acknowledge that fact.
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