Online dating - Page 22

Lathum · 02-18-2013, 03:16 PM

I would find that very encouraging. Especially since you got more than a courtesy " me too". You should shoot her back a text that says something like " have fun on vaca, can't wait to see the new shoes when you get back"

DaddyTorgo · 02-18-2013, 04:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Lathum

I would find that very encouraging. Especially since you got more than a courtesy " me too". You should shoot her back a text that says something like " have fun on vaca, can't wait to see the new shoes when you get back"

Well played sir.

Danny · 02-18-2013, 05:10 PM

Real men don't talk about shoes, send the same message but say bikini wax instead of shoes

Danny · 02-18-2013, 05:12 PM

Though in seriousness I would actually type out vacation unless you are in college or something. I find women usually like it when a man talks like they are educated and not like a college frat guy

DaddyTorgo · 02-18-2013, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Danny

Though in seriousness I would actually type out vacation unless you are in college or something. I find women usually like it when a man talks like they are educated and not like a college frat guy

Well of course.

Lathum · 02-18-2013, 05:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Danny

Though in seriousness I would actually type out vacation unless you are in college or something. I find women usually like it when a man talks like they are educated and not like a college frat guy

Meh. IMO using shorthand in a text is perfectly fine. Ymmv.

Danny · 02-18-2013, 05:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Lathum

Meh. IMO using shorthand in a text is perfectly fine. Ymmv.

It's fine, but I think being thoughtful enough to not text like that helps set you apart a little bit.

It's also a pet peeve of mine so any of you who are trying to woo me, remember to use full words

Lathum · 02-18-2013, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Danny

It's fine, but I think being thoughtful enough to not text like that helps set you apart a little bit.

It's also a pet peeve of mine so any of you who are trying to woo me, remember to use full words

NP

hoopsguy · 02-18-2013, 07:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Danny

It's fine, but I think being thoughtful enough to not text like that helps set you apart a little bit.

It's also a pet peeve of mine so any of you who are trying to woo me, remember to use full words

TL;DR

Galaxy · 02-18-2013, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Lathum

I would find that very encouraging. Especially since you got more than a courtesy " me too". You should shoot her back a text that says something like " have fun on vaca, can't wait to see the new shoes when you get back"

Smooth...just smooth.

M GO BLUE!!! · 02-18-2013, 08:13 PM

you could always tell her to have fun on holiday.

it's that british thing. chicks dig a british text accent.

Comey · 02-18-2013, 10:36 PM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

Well I shot her that last night (bout 3-4 hours after getting home) - she got back to me at lunchtime (which is also normal I suppose), to respond "Hi! It was nice getting to know you better as well. I did have success (a little too much)! Hope you do not work too hard today!"

Success = shoe shopping after our date (she had just broken her foot and was headed off on vacation this coming friday).

So I guess we won't be able to do anything until she gets back, but presumably since she got back to me at all it didn't go horribly. So that's encouraging.

I'd say that's progress. That's about when I heard from my girlfriend after our first date. Then Sandy came along.

Izulde · 02-19-2013, 05:33 AM

3 exclamation points in a cellophane politeness text. Weird.

SkippyDies · 02-19-2013, 09:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Comey

I'd say that's progress. That's about when I heard from my girlfriend after our first date. Then Sandy came along.

Hey bro we just a invite to the wedding! Glad stuffs still going well for you!

Comey · 02-19-2013, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by SkippyDies

Hey bro we just a invite to the wedding! Glad stuffs still going well for you!

Danke. Been four months, and we've won each other over, it would appear. So, that's progress.

M GO BLUE!!! · 02-19-2013, 06:20 PM

I just heard that men supposedly have commitment issues.

This is untrue. I have no commitment issues.

No commitments, no issues.

Galaxy · 05-08-2013, 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by M GO BLUE!!!

it's that british thing. chicks dig a british text accent.

Sounds like a great app concept.

Galaxy · 05-10-2013, 03:55 PM

General question, do you guys list your incomes? Is it tacky when a female does it?

Young Drachma · 05-10-2013, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Galaxy

General question, do you guys list your incomes? Is it tacky when a female does it?

There is zero reason to do this unless you're trying to compensate for some flaw or some such. But no, there's nothing tacky about a woman doing it. I mean, if she makes a lot and she's online clearly not having any luck. And if she doesn't make a lot and is posting it, she doesn't care.

But again, absolutely no reason to do this unless you want to impress a particular kind of woman and even then, seems like if you make enough, there'd be other options with a higher degree of success.

M GO BLUE!!! · 05-10-2013, 04:06 PM

Right now I don't even have pics up... I'm just a browser.

DaddyTorgo · 05-10-2013, 04:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Galaxy

General question, do you guys list your incomes? Is it tacky when a female does it?

I don't think either party should. I honestly wouldn't even look at that line on somebody's profile...although I would look to see what their job is (just because that's usually something you can work into a conversation).

cuervo72 · 05-10-2013, 06:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Young Drachma

There is zero reason to do this unless you're trying to compensate for some flaw or some such. But no, there's nothing tacky about a woman doing it. I mean, if she makes a lot and she's online clearly not having any luck. And if she doesn't make a lot and is posting it, she doesn't care.

Martha should do it for kicks.

Galaxy · 05-10-2013, 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by cuervo72

Martha should do it for kicks.

Well, Match only allows you to select the $150,000+ level as the highest bracket. I remember reading she had her date "preference" at $150,000+.

Galaxy · 06-10-2013, 02:05 AM

I know this article is two years old, but I had to laugh at it:

Why Do Smart Men Date Less Intelligent Women? - Uri Friedman - The Atlantic Wire

"CNBC's Nicole Lapin doesn't think Carney's onto anything. Smart women have the same incentives as less intelligent women to date smart men, she contends: "First, if there is indeed more competition for [smart men] ... we all know that we 'Type A' working women love a good fight. Second, smart women don't shut their brains off on the weekend. (Shocker: Smart men don't either.)." To prove her case, Lapin recalls being turned off by a guy on a recent date because he didn't get an allusion to Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart's "I know it when I see it" ruling on pornography in Jacobellis v. Ohio (1964). I mean, c'mon! How do you expect to win the girl without a firm understanding of legal precedent?"

To the linked article (Counterpoint: Smart Chicks Date Smart Guys ) within the original linked article:

"I'll give you a personal example to back that up. I went on a fantastic, fun first date recently. After dinner, we started talking about what he looked for in a woman. And he said, "I know it when I see it." And I said, "like obscenity?" And then there were the crickets. "Huh?" he said. And, that, my smart NetNet friends, is when the date was over for me."

Dear lord...is this the standard men have to deal with these days?

DaddyTorgo · 08-12-2013, 08:05 AM

So the first time you meet someone from an online dating site - does that count as a "first date?" Or is that more a "first encounter to verify you are who you say you are" and the second time is a first date?

Does the length of the first time you meet matter? Like 30min-1hr would be an encounter and 2hrs+ would be a date?

Have another dinner with the girl I had tapas with for 3hrs on Thursday tonight. There was no physicality on Thursday and although I have zero skills even I know that there needs to be at least some level of physical contact tonight (guiding her to the table, a hug when I see her, potentially a kiss after dinner?), but trying to get a handle on what would be right (and yes, obviously I'm going to keep my clueless eyes open for signals and not do anything that doesn't feel "right", but just trying to get a sense of what...ballpark.

Be nice - remember I'm a dating-noob.

Lathum · 08-12-2013, 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

So the first time you meet someone from an online dating site - does that count as a "first date?" Or is that more a "first encounter to verify you are who you say you are" and the second time is a first date?

Does the length of the first time you meet matter? Like 30min-1hr would be an encounter and 2hrs+ would be a date?

Have another dinner with the girl I had tapas with for 3hrs on Thursday tonight. There was no physicality on Thursday and although I have zero skills even I know that there needs to be at least some level of physical contact tonight (guiding her to the table, a hug when I see her, potentially a kiss after dinner?), but trying to get a handle on what would be right (and yes, obviously I'm going to keep my clueless eyes open for signals and not do anything that doesn't feel "right", but just trying to get a sense of what...ballpark.

Be nice - remember I'm a dating-noob.

Just do what feels natural.If you start looking for signs and over analyzing everything it will make you crazy. Maybe pull her chair out and put your hand on her back and guide her into the chair, or a walk after dinner and hold her hand.

The other tactic you can take is right at the beginning of the date just tell her you are going to be thinking about it all night so instead you are going to kiss her now.

Kodos · 08-12-2013, 09:24 AM

Casually let a condom fall out of your wallet when you go to pay for dinner. Then she'll know you mean business!

DaddyTorgo · 08-12-2013, 10:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Lathum

Just do what feels natural.If you start looking for signs and over analyzing everything it will make you crazy. Maybe pull her chair out and put your hand on her back and guide her into the chair, or a walk after dinner and hold her hand.

The other tactic you can take is right at the beginning of the date just tell her you are going to be thinking about it all night so instead you are going to kiss her now.

Yes - I shall attempt not to be crazy over-thinking (which if you knew me you'd realize is an insane thing to say). Chair thing very classy yes.

Cap Ologist · 08-12-2013, 11:10 AM

As you open the door for her to the restaurant and she passes by, the guiding hand in the small of the back for a second or two works.

Danny · 08-12-2013, 11:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Kodos

Casually let a condom fall out of your wallet when you go to pay for dinner. Then she'll know you mean business!

Make sure its a magnum

Danny · 08-12-2013, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

So the first time you meet someone from an online dating site - does that count as a "first date?" Or is that more a "first encounter to verify you are who you say you are" and the second time is a first date?

Does the length of the first time you meet matter? Like 30min-1hr would be an encounter and 2hrs+ would be a date?

Have another dinner with the girl I had tapas with for 3hrs on Thursday tonight. There was no physicality on Thursday and although I have zero skills even I know that there needs to be at least some level of physical contact tonight (guiding her to the table, a hug when I see her, potentially a kiss after dinner?), but trying to get a handle on what would be right (and yes, obviously I'm going to keep my clueless eyes open for signals and not do anything that doesn't feel "right", but just trying to get a sense of what...ballpark.

Be nice - remember I'm a dating-noob.

You should go for a kiss at some point.

TCY Junkie · 08-12-2013, 04:33 PM

Wait until some midgets are passing you and trip her. Help her up,then beat the shit out of the midgets in her honor....... Just have fun with her, I'm talking about talking. Whatever you do, be yourself and don't take any advice from people online too seriously.

Danny · 08-12-2013, 05:01 PM

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Originally Posted by TCY Junkie

Whatever you do, be yourself and don't take any advice from people online too seriously.

Yes, be yourself, but be your best possible self. Let the crazy come out later.

DaddyTorgo · 08-12-2013, 05:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Danny

Yes, be yourself, but be your best possible self. Let the crazy come out later.

Oh I fully intend to be myself. Like I said...I just have zero skills (beyond whatever is innate in me) so looking to shoot the shit and maybe help my thoughts out some little bit. Because having zero skills is a dent in my self-confidence ya know? Although my self-confidence is at an all-time high due to life in general these days, so that does counteract the dent to some degree.

markprior22 · 08-12-2013, 07:32 PM

Just had my one yr anniversary with my wife that I met on eHarmony. Our first "date" went like this.

1) She drove to my town (60 mi away) and we met at Starbucks.
2) We had gotten to know each other over the phone so I tried to think of a little something to bring that wouldn't be too much but that she would appreciate. She's a big Blackhawks fan so I brought her a B-Hawks scarf (it was early January). It wasn't over the top and if things didn't work out, I wasn't out much.
3) We went to dinner at a little pub/grill. Ate and chatted.
4) Shot some pool.
5) Went back to Starbucks for a little while.

In this case, the "date" lasted about 7 hrs. lol

Outside of the scarf, the main thing I tried to do was focus on her. She mentioned on the phone that she did some scrapbooking...I told her I'd like to see a book. She brought one and we looked through it.

I'm quite a bit older than you so I imagine the details would be different but show interest in what she likes and pay attention to her. I think a hug is a good end of date thing no matter what (unless things went horribly wrong). A kiss on the cheek is good if things seemed to go well. And the, "I really had a good time...would like to see you again," is also good if things went well.

One other thing...if you don't have a lot of confidence...look at it as practice. If one date doesn't work out, it's not a failure. You got some experience and that will help you down the road.

Having said all that...if she wants to hop right in the sack and you're good with that....go for it!!! :-) Good luck man!

Galaxy · 08-12-2013, 09:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Cap Ologist

As you open the door for her to the restaurant and she passes by, the guiding hand in the small of the back for a second or two works.

Just don't give her a "Good Game" slap on the butt.

Flasch186 · 08-12-2013, 09:45 PM

I love the idea that think of this date as practice for the next with or without her. That way there's no pressure, you're just practicing. For me, when I was dating, a long long time ago. I ruled out a kiss period that way the pressure was completely off... Then when a kiss actually happened it was cuz, well it just happened. Then again, I met my wife while she was dating some guy and while playing pool apparently I said that she would someday have my children. When she looked at me I said, "what? you're tall and I want to have a basketball team." I dont recall saying any of that but apparently I did and now we're about to have our second kid...

Lathum · 08-12-2013, 09:48 PM

did you fuck her?

DaddyTorgo · 08-13-2013, 10:41 AM

LOL no lathum.

DaddyTorgo · 08-13-2013, 10:48 AM

Yeah - no it went well. Good 2 hours of dinner, closed the place down basically.

I started the night off by going for a little hug, which was like a half-to-3/4 hug that caught her a bit by surprise. She ended it by initiating a full hug, so that's progression.

Still had good flowing convo and everything, so that was good. She sneakily picked up the check when I was in the bathroom (I picked up the last one).

Crashed when I got home, but shot her a text this morning thanking her and leaving things sort of...open-ended. I want to see if she comes back to me about a next step at all (not a plan, but dates or something). I think she will. That will give me some sort of like...indication of how well I'm able to read these sorts of things.

Want to give myself some time to process because I'm a bit concerned about overreacting to the first tug on the line (to use a fishing metaphor) and reeling in my other lines. I think it would feel like...settling.

Lathum · 08-13-2013, 11:02 AM

Your over thinking it. If you like her and want to go out again just ask her. You don't need a sign or signal for everything. If she likes you, and it seems she does she will say yes.

Ronnie Dobbs3 · 08-13-2013, 11:17 AM

Women can smell a lack of confidence like a bloodhound. Ironically it is easier to find a partner once you're comfortable being single.

Galaxy · 08-13-2013, 11:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Lathum

Your over thinking it. If you like her and want to go out again just ask her. You don't need a sign or signal for everything. If she likes you, and it seems she does she will say yes.

+1

Chief Rum · 08-13-2013, 11:27 AM

How exactly did you leave it open ended? The way I would do it, I would just ask her out again. I wouldn't text either; I would call (but you kids and your ways...

).

Although since you reached out already, I am not sure if asking her out now before she responds is a good idea. She should hit you back sometime today and I guess you will see.

Chief Rum · 08-13-2013, 11:29 AM

But, really, it doesn't matter. Don't do any stressing (not that you are). Just leave it alone, and if it works out, great. If not, move on to the next. My last date didn't work out. I shrugged after it happened. Move on to the next.

Chief Rum · 08-13-2013, 11:39 AM

Speaking of the last date I had, funny thing happened. I feel like I shared this somewhere on FOFC already, but just in case I haven't...

I went to El Torito with my date, and she recently moved to LA from France (Latvian by birth, raised in France, moved to LA last year). So we get our chips and salsa, and then she decides she wants the tableside guac for an app.

So the waitress makes the guac and brings a second bowl for me (date was abit iffy about sharing the same guac) and then leaves.

My date looks after her in consternation and wonders why she didn't bring us silverware. While we certainly do need the silverware at some point, I pointed out that we have the chips for the guac. To which she said, she does not want any more chips.

So I call over the waitress and ask for silverware, which she brings.

And then I watch as my date unrolls her silverware and proceeds to eat her tableside quac straight out of the bowl with a knife and fork!

So what do I do?

The gentlemanly thing, of course--I did the same thing.

DaddyTorgo · 08-13-2013, 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Chief Rum

How exactly did you leave it open ended? The way I would do it, I would just ask her out again. I wouldn't text either; I would call (but you kids and your ways...

).

Although since you reached out already, I am not sure if asking her out now before she responds is a good idea. She should hit you back sometime today and I guess you will see.

My phone's all the way across my office, but I think it was along the lines of "look forward to seeing you again soon."

DaddyTorgo · 08-13-2013, 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Lathum

Your over thinking it. If you like her and want to go out again just ask her. You don't need a sign or signal for everything. If she likes you, and it seems she does she will say yes.

Wanted to think about it before advancing.

Lathum · 08-13-2013, 12:46 PM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

Wanted to think about it before advancing.

Think about what?

Chief Rum · 08-13-2013, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

My phone's all the way across my office, but I think it was along the lines of "look forward to seeing you again soon."

That doesn't really encourage her to respond to you, IMO. But the good news is that it kinda comes off as a promise that you will be in touch.

I would wait a day (assuming you want to), then call her up and ask her out for sometime this weekend.

02-19-2013, 05:33 AM	#1063
Izulde Head Coach Join Date: Sep 2004	3 exclamation points in a cellophane politeness text. Weird. __________________ 2006 Golden Scribe Nominee 2006 Golden Scribe Winner Best Non-Sport Dynasty: May Our Reign Be Green and Golden (CK Dynasty) Rookie Writer of the Year Dynasty of the Year: May Our Reign Be Green and Golden (CK Dynasty)

08-12-2013, 08:05 AM	#1075
DaddyTorgo Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Massachusetts	So the first time you meet someone from an online dating site - does that count as a "first date?" Or is that more a "first encounter to verify you are who you say you are" and the second time is a first date? Does the length of the first time you meet matter? Like 30min-1hr would be an encounter and 2hrs+ would be a date? Have another dinner with the girl I had tapas with for 3hrs on Thursday tonight. There was no physicality on Thursday and although I have zero skills even I know that there needs to be at least some level of physical contact tonight (guiding her to the table, a hug when I see her, potentially a kiss after dinner?), but trying to get a handle on what would be right (and yes, obviously I'm going to keep my clueless eyes open for signals and not do anything that doesn't feel "right", but just trying to get a sense of what...ballpark. Be nice - remember I'm a dating-noob. Last edited by DaddyTorgo : 08-12-2013 at 08:50 AM.

08-12-2013, 09:24 AM	#1077
Kodos Resident Alien Join Date: Jun 2001	Casually let a condom fall out of your wallet when you go to pay for dinner. Then she'll know you mean business! __________________ Author of The Bill Gates Challenge, as well as other groundbreaking dynasties.

08-12-2013, 04:33 PM	#1082
TCY Junkie College Prospect Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: TX	Wait until some midgets are passing you and trip her. Help her up,then beat the shit out of the midgets in her honor....... Just have fun with her, I'm talking about talking. Whatever you do, be yourself and don't take any advice from people online too seriously. __________________ I try to open things I probably have no chance of opening.

08-12-2013, 09:45 PM	#1087
Flasch186 Coordinator Join Date: May 2002 Location: Jacksonville, FL	I love the idea that think of this date as practice for the next with or without her. That way there's no pressure, you're just practicing. For me, when I was dating, a long long time ago. I ruled out a kiss period that way the pressure was completely off... Then when a kiss actually happened it was cuz, well it just happened. Then again, I met my wife while she was dating some guy and while playing pool apparently I said that she would someday have my children. When she looked at me I said, "what? you're tall and I want to have a basketball team." I dont recall saying any of that but apparently I did and now we're about to have our second kid... __________________ Jacksonville-florida-homes-for-sale Putting a New Spin on Real Estate! ----------------------------------------------------------- Commissioner of the USFL USFL

02-18-2013, 03:16 PM	#1051
Lathum Favored Bitch #1 Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: homeless in NJ	I would find that very encouraging. Especially since you got more than a courtesy " me too". You should shoot her back a text that says something like " have fun on vaca, can't wait to see the new shoes when you get back"

02-18-2013, 05:10 PM	#1053
Danny Head Coach Join Date: Jul 2001	Real men don't talk about shoes, send the same message but say bikini wax instead of shoes

02-18-2013, 05:12 PM	#1054
Danny Head Coach Join Date: Jul 2001	Though in seriousness I would actually type out vacation unless you are in college or something. I find women usually like it when a man talks like they are educated and not like a college frat guy

02-18-2013, 08:13 PM	#1061
M GO BLUE!!! Pro Starter Join Date: Sep 2005	you could always tell her to have fun on holiday. it's that british thing. chicks dig a british text accent.

02-19-2013, 06:20 PM	#1066
M GO BLUE!!! Pro Starter Join Date: Sep 2005	I just heard that men supposedly have commitment issues. This is untrue. I have no commitment issues. No commitments, no issues.

05-10-2013, 03:55 PM	#1068
Galaxy Coordinator Join Date: Apr 2005	General question, do you guys list your incomes? Is it tacky when a female does it?

05-10-2013, 04:06 PM	#1070
M GO BLUE!!! Pro Starter Join Date: Sep 2005	Right now I don't even have pics up... I'm just a browser.

06-10-2013, 02:05 AM	#1074
Galaxy Coordinator Join Date: Apr 2005	I know this article is two years old, but I had to laugh at it: Why Do Smart Men Date Less Intelligent Women? - Uri Friedman - The Atlantic Wire "CNBC's Nicole Lapin doesn't think Carney's onto anything. Smart women have the same incentives as less intelligent women to date smart men, she contends: "First, if there is indeed more competition for [smart men] ... we all know that we 'Type A' working women love a good fight. Second, smart women don't shut their brains off on the weekend. (Shocker: Smart men don't either.)." To prove her case, Lapin recalls being turned off by a guy on a recent date because he didn't get an allusion to Supreme Court Justice Potter Stewart's "I know it when I see it" ruling on pornography in Jacobellis v. Ohio (1964). I mean, c'mon! How do you expect to win the girl without a firm understanding of legal precedent?" To the linked article (Counterpoint: Smart Chicks Date Smart Guys ) within the original linked article: "I'll give you a personal example to back that up. I went on a fantastic, fun first date recently. After dinner, we started talking about what he looked for in a woman. And he said, "I know it when I see it." And I said, "like obscenity?" And then there were the crickets. "Huh?" he said. And, that, my smart NetNet friends, is when the date was over for me." Dear lord...is this the standard men have to deal with these days?

08-12-2013, 11:10 AM	#1079
Cap Ologist College Prospect Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Flower Mound, TX	As you open the door for her to the restaurant and she passes by, the guiding hand in the small of the back for a second or two works.

08-12-2013, 07:32 PM	#1085
markprior22 High School Varsity Join Date: Apr 2002 Location: springfield, il	Just had my one yr anniversary with my wife that I met on eHarmony. Our first "date" went like this. 1) She drove to my town (60 mi away) and we met at Starbucks. 2) We had gotten to know each other over the phone so I tried to think of a little something to bring that wouldn't be too much but that she would appreciate. She's a big Blackhawks fan so I brought her a B-Hawks scarf (it was early January). It wasn't over the top and if things didn't work out, I wasn't out much. 3) We went to dinner at a little pub/grill. Ate and chatted. 4) Shot some pool. 5) Went back to Starbucks for a little while. In this case, the "date" lasted about 7 hrs. lol Outside of the scarf, the main thing I tried to do was focus on her. She mentioned on the phone that she did some scrapbooking...I told her I'd like to see a book. She brought one and we looked through it. I'm quite a bit older than you so I imagine the details would be different but show interest in what she likes and pay attention to her. I think a hug is a good end of date thing no matter what (unless things went horribly wrong). A kiss on the cheek is good if things seemed to go well. And the, "I really had a good time...would like to see you again," is also good if things went well. One other thing...if you don't have a lot of confidence...look at it as practice. If one date doesn't work out, it's not a failure. You got some experience and that will help you down the road. Having said all that...if she wants to hop right in the sack and you're good with that....go for it!!! :-) Good luck man!

08-12-2013, 09:48 PM	#1088
Lathum Favored Bitch #1 Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: homeless in NJ	did you fuck her?

08-13-2013, 10:41 AM	#1089
DaddyTorgo Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Massachusetts	LOL no lathum.

08-13-2013, 10:48 AM	#1090
DaddyTorgo Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: Massachusetts	Yeah - no it went well. Good 2 hours of dinner, closed the place down basically. I started the night off by going for a little hug, which was like a half-to-3/4 hug that caught her a bit by surprise. She ended it by initiating a full hug, so that's progression. Still had good flowing convo and everything, so that was good. She sneakily picked up the check when I was in the bathroom (I picked up the last one). Crashed when I got home, but shot her a text this morning thanking her and leaving things sort of...open-ended. I want to see if she comes back to me about a next step at all (not a plan, but dates or something). I think she will. That will give me some sort of like...indication of how well I'm able to read these sorts of things. Want to give myself some time to process because I'm a bit concerned about overreacting to the first tug on the line (to use a fishing metaphor) and reeling in my other lines. I think it would feel like...settling. Last edited by DaddyTorgo : 08-13-2013 at 10:50 AM.

08-13-2013, 11:02 AM	#1091
Lathum Favored Bitch #1 Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: homeless in NJ	Your over thinking it. If you like her and want to go out again just ask her. You don't need a sign or signal for everything. If she likes you, and it seems she does she will say yes.

08-13-2013, 11:17 AM	#1092
Ronnie Dobbs3 High School Varsity Join Date: Feb 2013	Women can smell a lack of confidence like a bloodhound. Ironically it is easier to find a partner once you're comfortable being single.

08-13-2013, 11:27 AM	#1094
Chief Rum Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Where Hip Hop lives	How exactly did you leave it open ended? The way I would do it, I would just ask her out again. I wouldn't text either; I would call (but you kids and your ways... ). Although since you reached out already, I am not sure if asking her out now before she responds is a good idea. She should hit you back sometime today and I guess you will see. __________________ . . I would rather be wrong...Than live in the shadows of your song...My mind is open wide...And now I'm ready to start...You're not sure...You open the door...And step out into the dark...Now I'm ready.

08-13-2013, 11:29 AM	#1095
Chief Rum Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Where Hip Hop lives	But, really, it doesn't matter. Don't do any stressing (not that you are). Just leave it alone, and if it works out, great. If not, move on to the next. My last date didn't work out. I shrugged after it happened. Move on to the next. __________________ . . I would rather be wrong...Than live in the shadows of your song...My mind is open wide...And now I'm ready to start...You're not sure...You open the door...And step out into the dark...Now I'm ready.

08-13-2013, 11:39 AM	#1096
Chief Rum Hall Of Famer Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Where Hip Hop lives	Speaking of the last date I had, funny thing happened. I feel like I shared this somewhere on FOFC already, but just in case I haven't... I went to El Torito with my date, and she recently moved to LA from France (Latvian by birth, raised in France, moved to LA last year). So we get our chips and salsa, and then she decides she wants the tableside guac for an app. So the waitress makes the guac and brings a second bowl for me (date was abit iffy about sharing the same guac) and then leaves. My date looks after her in consternation and wonders why she didn't bring us silverware. While we certainly do need the silverware at some point, I pointed out that we have the chips for the guac. To which she said, she does not want any more chips. So I call over the waitress and ask for silverware, which she brings. And then I watch as my date unrolls her silverware and proceeds to eat her tableside quac straight out of the bowl with a knife and fork! So what do I do? The gentlemanly thing, of course--I did the same thing. __________________ . . I would rather be wrong...Than live in the shadows of your song...My mind is open wide...And now I'm ready to start...You're not sure...You open the door...And step out into the dark...Now I'm ready. Last edited by Chief Rum : 08-13-2013 at 11:39 AM.

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