What to do for a broken heart?

[IlliniCub]

I'll post a pic soon, is there a good app or way to block texts.....she texted me earlier saying it was my fault he's in jail and that she's alone and then asked if I knew where she could get 750 to bail him out.

[BYU 14]

Originally Posted by IlliniCub

I'll post a pic soon, is there a good app or way to block texts.....she texted me earlier saying it was my fault he's in jail and that she's alone and then asked if I knew where she could get 750 to bail him out.

WTF, wow, that is some nerve, damn you for putting your eye in the way of his fist.

I don't know what provider you have, but with Verizon you can do it on their website, also some phones have the ability to, on the Iphone you can select the number and scroll down and there is the option to block.

[miked]

Get a restraining order against both. Use her texts against her.

[DaddyTorgo]

Originally Posted by miked

Get a restraining order against both. Use her texts against her.

[NobodyHere]

Originally Posted by IlliniCub

I'll post a pic soon, is there a good app or way to block texts.....she texted me earlier saying it was my fault he's in jail and that she's alone and then asked if I knew where she could get 750 to bail him out.

It's posts like is the reason I never try hard to get a date.


If only prostitution was legal everywhere.

[BYU 14]

Originally Posted by NobodyHere

It's posts like is the reason I never try hard to get a date.


If only prostitution was legal everywhere.

Ping Izulde

[IlliniCub]

I tried to attach a pic...we'll see if it posted

[DaddyTorgo]

Fuck man

[Flasch186]

dayum

[Julio Riddols]

Holy balls. That's beyond a shiner.

[JediKooter]

She can not be serious. Make sure she doesn't have any keys to your place or all of your shit might be gone and all of a sudden she has 750 dollars in bail money.

She's doing some serious mental gymnastics and I would get a restraining order against her and her super hero of a boyfriend like miked suggested. Something tells me that him getting thrown in jail is not a deterrent to change his behavior and I wouldn't be surprised if he tried something again.

[DaddyTorgo]

Originally Posted by JediKooter

She can not be serious. Make sure she doesn't have any keys to your place or all of your shit might be gone and all of a sudden she has 750 dollars in bail money.

She's doing some serious mental gymnastics and I would get a restraining order against her and her super hero of a boyfriend like miked suggested. Something tells me that him getting thrown in jail is not a deterrent to change his behavior and I wouldn't be surprised if he tried something again.

What Jedi said. All of it. Seriously...this time...listen to the wiser voices of the internet.

[Kodos]

At the very least, carry some pepper spray or something like that with you.

[MacroGuru]

If he was in prison before, chances are he just violated probation. I would push this one to the fullest extent AND a restraining order.

[DaddyTorgo]

Yeah - I'd have to imagine assault would be an automatic probation violation. Straight back to the pokey.

[IlliniCub]

At the 2nd court date the judge lowered his bail despite the States Attorney listing off all his previous failure to appears and crimes. It was odd seeing the girl I spent the last few years of my life loving in his corner to say the least. She took out a title loan on her car and got him out a few days ago and then texted me asking if she could borrow 30 for gas because she had no money in her account later that night. I told her to ask her new boyfriend for it. So he is out, apparently he wasn't on probation. Next court date is September 2nd. I would assume he'll plead guilty since he and his friends bragged about it to the police in their statement but you never know. I'm working on my statement for before the sentencing whenever that takes place as I really wanna see them throw the book at this guy.

[Solecismic]

At least you'll never have doubts about whether she was the one. She should receive a prize for worst girlfriend ever.

Is there ever a need to respond to any of her texts ever again? Can you just tell her never to contact you again and block her?

You have to wonder what she told this guy about you. Not only that this assault seems bizarre, but that she's still in his corner. People do numerous mental gymnastics to justify infidelity. Be careful.

[IlliniCub]

Yeah I've wondered that too if maybe she told this guy something false about me to get him fired up. I honestly don't know.

[SegRat]

It's terrible what she is doing. Good luck.

[Mike Lowe]

Sounds like they are perfect for each other; they are the Maximum Football of human beings.

[MrBug708]

You should have met up with her with 30 dollars of monopoly money

[RainMaker]

Originally Posted by IlliniCub

At the 2nd court date the judge lowered his bail despite the States Attorney listing off all his previous failure to appears and crimes.

Can't beat the Judges in this state. They wonder why crime is so bad in Chicago. Seems like every day I read about some guy being arrested for a violent crime and it turns out he had 10+ run-ins with the law and a judge let him out easy.

I also think you should avoid contact with her. Don't bother responding to texts. Probably tempting to be mean but it's better that you just act like she is yesterday's news. Maybe even have her number blocked. I'd also push for the restraining order against the guy if you haven't already. That's quite a shiner.

[DaddyTorgo]

Yeah - if you keep up with contact with her it's just going to end up with another shiner for you, or worse.

Restraining order on both of them (or at least him) and move on dude.

[Young Drachma]

Terrible stuff man. So sorry. Stay far away, you deserve much better.

[Mizzou B-ball fan]

Time to change this thread title to 'What to do for a broken face?"

[Senator]

You just were handed the golden ticket. There will be a time in your future where you will say, "wow, I got lucky there"! It will take time, but I have more than once wished I could go back in time and say to the younger me, you didn't have to worry so much. It works out if you stay smarter than your heart.

[Matthean]

The next time you date you get to say, "Well, as long as I don't end up with a black eye from the guy you are cheating on me with, he's not going back to jail again, and you aren't asking for bail money for him, you are already winning."

[nol]

Originally Posted by tramel321

their is someone else in the mix,move on asap,been their done that,the very best thing you can do is move on,about the time you stop caring will be the time she wants to come crawling back,let her come back on your terms,treat her like shit an bang as many other women as possible an generally don't give a fuck about her,works great,i speak from experience

There needs to be a draft or one of those "you have $15" things where you have to create the greatest team of posters; you could blow most of your budget on someone with a custom title or you could just stock your roster with classics like this from people with <10 posts.

[sterlingice]

Originally Posted by Matthean

The next time you date you get to say, "Well, as long as I don't end up with a black eye from the guy you are cheating on me with, he's not going back to jail again, and you aren't asking for bail money for him, you are already winning."

Sounds like a "great" icebreaker

SI

[IlliniCub]

Any Advice for meeting women at 28? I don't know I just feel like I've been out of the game too long and the rules changed while I was out or something.

[sabotai]

My advice would be to not worry about that for at least a few months.

Edit: And I've been (mostly) single since I was 27 (36 now), so beyond "take some time before jumping back into dating", I've got nothing.

[corbes]

The state's attorney's office has a copy of a photograph of your eye looking like that, right? Send one to your victim advocate if not.

/advice from a prosecutor

[IlliniCub]

Yeah they do.... The cops took pics at the scene and I've met with the victims advocate several times since it happened. I also want to exercise my right to make a statement at sentencing when it gets that far. Any advice on what I should say that could help get this guy put away?

[Shepp]

Originally Posted by IlliniCub

Yeah they do.... The cops took pics at the scene and I've met with the victims advocate several times since it happened. I also want to exercise my right to make a statement at sentencing when it gets that far. Any advice on what I should say that could help get this guy put away?

I could probably point out the fact that he has already ambushed you once and that you don't feel like you should have to be looking over your shoulder for round two.

[corbes]

You're the only one who knows how it affected you. Let them know that, and most of all be honest.

[RainMaker]

Originally Posted by IlliniCub

Any Advice for meeting women at 28? I don't know I just feel like I've been out of the game too long and the rules changed while I was out or something.

Online dating is easy. Easiest place to meet a lot of women. Like 25% of all married couples met their spouse online now and that number is likely to increase.

Side note but my Dad was lonely years after his divorce. Talked him into online dating at one of the sites and he has been dating in his 60's. Normal people too.

[Lathum]

Originally Posted by IlliniCub

Any Advice for meeting women at 28? I don't know I just feel like I've been out of the game too long and the rules changed while I was out or something.

28 is nothing.

I met my wife when I was 30. Going to hit 7 blissful years of marriage in November, 2 amazing kids, great house, great home life, and she is also my best friend, happy as can be.

I am a firm believer a relationship will rarely work if you meet before 30, late 20s at best. Almost everyone I know who was divorced married at a younger age. I think the best thing you can do is learn who you are before combining your life with someone else.

[Matthean]

Originally Posted by Lathum

28 is nothing.

I met my wife when I was 30. Going to hit 7 blissful years of marriage in November, 2 amazing kids, great house, great home life, and she is also my best friend, happy as can be.

I am a firm believer a relationship will rarely work if you meet before 30, late 20s at best. Almost everyone I know who was divorced married at a younger age. I think the best thing you can do is learn who you are before combining your life with someone else.

Counter point, I know a number of people who married their high school sweethearts and are still married 20+ years in. The last bit is true though. I think the big thing for me is having a servant's heart. If life is still about you, odds are the relationship won't last long. I think this is why getting married later is better because you get past a lot of your own crap as you grow older. I can only assume people who met in HS went through a lot of growing pains as a couple as they figured out how to deal with each other.

[Julio Riddols]

I feel like I am getting better with age at 33.. I'm more confident, more motivated, and more sure of what I want than ever before. This seems to bode well for meeting a woman worth a damn next time around.

I second the online dating idea, it is so much easier these days to make sure you're not getting into something ridiculous, and as time goes by I agree it will become one of the more common ways for people to meet. I've met 2 past girlfriends online, one was even way back in the late 90's and we were together for 2 years. The other wound up being more of a friend than anything, but I wound up getting to go to Paris and live in a house on the outskirts of the city for 2 weeks for less than 1000 dollars with a day in London thrown in for good measure.

[korme]

Originally Posted by IlliniCub

Any Advice for meeting women at 28? I don't know I just feel like I've been out of the game too long and the rules changed while I was out or something.

Tinder

[Izulde]

Online dating isn't any easier or more difficult than any other dating tactic IMO. The only difference is that it's become more socially acceptable than it used to be.

[JediKooter]

Originally Posted by IlliniCub

Any Advice for meeting women at 28? I don't know I just feel like I've been out of the game too long and the rules changed while I was out or something.

Well, the bar has been set pretty low from your ex, it should be a breeze to meet someone!

Seriously though at 28, there's a few metric tons of fun, vibrant, sexy women out there. The buffet is all yours, it's all you can eat and it's open 24 hours a day...don't waste your time on leftovers. Just get out there, they're everywhere.

[aknott]

Originally Posted by Lathum

28 is nothing.

I met my wife when I was 30. Going to hit 7 blissful years of marriage in November, 2 amazing kids, great house, great home life, and she is also my best friend, happy as can be.

I am a firm believer a relationship will rarely work if you meet before 30, late 20s at best. Almost everyone I know who was divorced married at a younger age. I think the best thing you can do is learn who you are before combining your life with someone else.

Yeah, I met my wife 2 months before my 29th birthday. We actually met on eHarmony, but once we started talking we realized that one of her best friends is married to one of my best friends. We just never all hung out at once, although I am sure it would have happened eventually. We bought a house earlier this year and have been married almost a month now (which is hard to believe, time flies).

[Blackadar]

Originally Posted by Senator

You just were handed the golden ticket. There will be a time in your future where you will say, "wow, I got lucky there"! It will take time, but I have more than once wished I could go back in time and say to the younger me, you didn't have to worry so much. It works out if you stay smarter than your heart.

Senator wins the thread.

Glad you dodged this bullet. Sorry about your eye.

[IlliniCub]

Wow thanks man that's awesome advice Senator and I agree I know in my head I dodged a bullet. It's just a matter of waiting for my heart to catch up with my emotional side. I've had my most positive day since everything happened and everyone in my life has been 100 percent in my corner. I pray every night she gets out of the situation and finds safety but I fear she'll have to learn the hard way and he'll put her eye like mine one day.

[Danny]

You should get back at her by also sleeping with this guy

[BillJasper]

Originally Posted by Danny

You should get back at her by also sleeping with this guy

[IlliniCub]

Haha I don't really have a desire to "get back"at her just wanna live well.

[IlliniCub]

As an Update I'm doing pretty decent. There's times where I think man this isn't so bad and then there's times where I almost think I'd be weak enough to try to reason with her and take her back if she came. It's going to be weird going to the court on the 2nd and seeing the young woman that's been my rock these last couple years in the corner of some guy that assaulted me who she barely knows. I think I can game face it and do what needs to be done but it will be tough. Sounds almost like a pro wrestling angle when you put it that way.

[Matthean]

Originally Posted by IlliniCub

There's times where I think man this isn't so bad and then there's times where I almost think I'd be weak enough to try to reason with her and take her back if she came.

No.