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12-13-2015, 02:14 AM
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Fuck Cancer -- Thoughts and prayers please.
(My mother is expected to pass away in the next day or two.She suffered walking pnuemonia shortly after Thanksgiving, and has been in the hospital since, they transferred up a German house in Boston to be closer to family. I wrote something up, and wanted to post it before I left to drive up to Boston to be with her. Thoughts and prayers appreciated.)
Let me tell you a story about a woman. A woman who did so much in her life. She was a substitute teacher. A Real Estate Administrative Assistant. I think she'd say her most important job was being a good wife to her husband and being the mom to two rambunctious boys. It certainly took up the most of her time. That was just stage 1 in her life. There was a day in 1997 when they told her information that would shatter anyone. She had Lung Cancer. The 5% mean was two years.That means two years from when she was diagnosed, 19 of 20 people would have already passed away. But never tell her the odds, she was a fighter. She would go through the hell of chemotherapy and when a spot was seen on her skull, radiation. Her hair fell out, she couldn't even swallow water and was constantly sick. She moved in with her mother during treatment because it was closer to the hospital where she was being treated, and because she didn't want her sons to see her that way. She survived. It took a toll on her more then she could ever say. She fought, and fought and fought. Finally they stopped the treatment. The cancer was.. well it was not cured, but it was stable, and the treatment was doing more harm to her then it was the cancer. The hair never really came back. She would put up with it grudgingly when her oldest son nicknamed her "Fuzzy" and would skritch her head for good luck. She never recovered enough to go back to work, but she still lived her life. She still fought. It was her nature. Later, when that son was lying in his own hospital bed, and staring at the wall in a black funk, she told him what the doctor had told her just hours before. The judgement of the doctors was she was cancer-free. She knew what it was like to be hurting and scared. She never let it stop her. And she was willing to give some of that fight to everyone around her. Unfortunately, cancer is a fighter too, and it staged a comeback. She would not live in fear. She would not let it claim her spirit. Even as other things took advantage of her ravaged immune system, she fought. She dealt with needing a cane. She dealt with needing to hold on to her husband's hand when she needed to climb a step. She dealt with losing her balance and falling several times in the house. Eighteen years. Eighteen long years. But she kept dealing with her problems. She was very good at dealing. And now, God has said to this woman.. "You have fought the Good Fight. You have finished the course. You have kept the faith". I think back to Thanksgiving dinner. How excited she was to be with her family. She always, ALWAYS had time for family. I feel so blessed that she got to spend time with all of us. How happy she was to find out how we all were doing. I rode home with her, and we talked about the Christmas lights we saw on the ride home. She loved Christmas, loved playing on the old electric piano we had, it wasn't christmas time without her cd player playing a bunch of christmas tapes and CD's. I think we're all going to be a lot sadder this Christmas without her physical presence. But I am 100% sure that she will be in all our hearts and souls this Christmas. She will be a continuing presence in our lives, just like she did all her life. Jim Valvano, the basketball coach and broadcaster, said in a famous speech about his own battle with cancer: " Cancer can take away all my physical abilities. It cannot touch my mind, it cannot touch my heart and it cannot touch my soul. And those three things are going to carry on forever." And that woman, my mother, Patricia Yellope will carry on forever. I love you Fuzzy, and I will always miss you.
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12-13-2015, 02:35 AM
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Your family is in my thoughts tonight. She sounds like a great person.
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12-13-2015, 03:37 AM
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Yes, fuck that fucking cancer.
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12-13-2015, 04:40 AM
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Beautiful tribute to what sounds like a beautiful woman. My thoughts are with you and your family sirfoz. F Cancer
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12-13-2015, 04:50 AM
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Fuck cancer indeed.
Thoughts & prayers with you and your family Foz.
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12-13-2015, 05:55 AM
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Best wishes to you and family.
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12-13-2015, 07:05 AM
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Best wishes.
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12-13-2015, 07:28 AM
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That was a great write-up which shows how much she has affected/influenced your life. I wish her and you well and it appears she already considers the family a tribute.
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12-13-2015, 07:46 AM
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Thank you for posting that sirfozzie. Your family is in my thoughts. Keep your head up man..
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12-13-2015, 08:13 AM
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Prayers for you and your family. Beautiful tribute.
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12-13-2015, 09:20 AM
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+1... very sorry to hear it, SirFozzie....she was clearly a good woman. |
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12-13-2015, 09:21 AM
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Prayers to you are the family.
Touching tribute, may someone write something as nice about me one day. |
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12-13-2015, 09:39 AM
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Thoughts and prayers with you and your family.
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12-13-2015, 09:45 AM
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A great tribute that brought a tear to my eye Foz. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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12-13-2015, 09:47 AM
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So sorry to hear that Fozzie. Thoughts are with you and your family.
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12-13-2015, 09:49 AM
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Thoughts with you and your family.
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12-13-2015, 10:24 AM
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12-13-2015, 11:43 AM
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That was a touching tribute to a great woman, Foz. My condolences to you and your family in such a difficult time.
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12-13-2015, 12:44 PM
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+1. We're all beside you, Foz. |
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12-13-2015, 12:57 PM
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Aww. What a great, wonderful tribute. Your mom is hell of a fighter, wow. Thinking of you and your family.
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12-13-2015, 01:46 PM
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Prayers to you and your family.
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12-13-2015, 02:03 PM
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Sorry Foz. She seems like a truly wonderful woman.
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12-13-2015, 05:00 PM
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Man Foz, it's been rough for you. That tribute was beautiful..
And Fuck Cancer
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12-13-2015, 05:17 PM
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Sorry Foz.
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12-13-2015, 05:18 PM
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Your family will be in our prayers. God Bless
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12-13-2015, 06:55 PM
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So sorry to hear. Thoughts with you and your family.
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12-13-2015, 07:13 PM
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Sorry to hear. And fuck cancer
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12-13-2015, 07:33 PM
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Such beautiful words my friend, payers to you and yours and Fuck Cancer!
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12-13-2015, 08:11 PM
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Thank you all. I kept up with the thread via my cell phone, but I didn't bring the new password I set up for FOFC with me, so I could read, but not respond.
It hurts. It hurts a lot. I'm sad, but I'm proud of her. She's still fighting, even though at this point its a question of when, not if. You know, in the back of my mind, I kept hoping that she would pull one more rabbit out of a hat. She's fought so hard, so well, that you kinda think that she's.. well not indestructible, not hardly, but she was going to beat everything. Especially because we all think our parents are invincible in our heads. I just got home (I stopped at my grandmother's house, and got 4 hours sleep, because I was basically a walking zombie, both in physical fatigue and emotional fatigue.) But all your words mean a hell of a lot to me and my family. Thank you. Thank you so very much.
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12-13-2015, 08:28 PM
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It's incredible that she has fought so long and hard and I would certainly admire her as well. Having dealt the last year and a half with the same with my Dad, it is encouraging to know that there really are people out there that blow past those timelines. You just never know.
Thoughts and prayers definitely with you and your family, Fozzie.
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12-14-2015, 12:54 PM
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Wishing you the best in these rough times, SirFozzie.
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12-14-2015, 01:53 PM
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WOW! What a beautiful tribute. Wishing you and your family good thoughts during this tough time.
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12-14-2015, 02:42 PM
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Beautiful tribute. So sorry.
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12-15-2015, 11:35 AM
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I just got the news.My mom is at peace, finally. and my heart is broken.
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12-15-2015, 11:49 AM
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Most sincere condolences Foz.
May she rest in peace.
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12-15-2015, 11:50 AM
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condolences.
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12-15-2015, 12:02 PM
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I'm so sorry, Foz.
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12-15-2015, 12:18 PM
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I'm very sorry for your loss. It sounds like she was an extraordinary person.
Keep your eyes and your heart open and I believe you'll see her, feel her presence, and see and feel her influence on the man you became all over the place, especially over the holidays. |
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12-15-2015, 01:06 PM
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So sorry, Foz
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12-15-2015, 01:09 PM
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So sorry to hear this. My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family.
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12-15-2015, 02:01 PM
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Hang in there, Fozzie.
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12-15-2015, 02:03 PM
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I am sorry for your loss
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12-15-2015, 02:15 PM
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Thank you all again.
I won't lie.. this news has hit me like a sledgehammer between the eyes even though it was expected (and when I saw her late last night/early this morning I kinda knew it was time) I mean, it doesn't feel REAL, you know? I'm sure it will take quite some time for me to process, but I think I made it clear how I felt about her 
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12-15-2015, 02:23 PM
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So sorry for your loss, Foz.
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12-15-2015, 08:50 PM
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so sorry dude
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12-15-2015, 09:02 PM
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Wow! So sorry for you and your family.
You should consider some individual and/or family grief counseling when things settle down. It can be really helpful with some of the feelings you will experience. |
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12-15-2015, 09:44 PM
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I really can't express the level of sympathy that feels right. It's a painful loss. A deep wound that will need much time to heal. You and your family are in my thoughts. Hang in there, we're here for you.
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12-15-2015, 10:07 PM
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Condolences, Foz.
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12-15-2015, 10:23 PM
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already going through the counseling part. But it's appreciated.
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12-16-2015, 01:01 AM
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My condolences, Foz. Be strong but allow yourself to grieve too. She sounds like she was truly amazing.
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