Have you ever hit your wife?

[Raiders Army]

For those who are married and are guys, just wondering if you've ever hit your wife out of anger. My wife and I were talking about this and after over 11 years of marriage, I've never hit her out of anger. I have hit her fooling around, but it was by accident. Poll is anonymous.

[JeeberD]

Lord no. And I'm pretty certain that she would leave my ass if I ever did...

[MJ4H]

I've never hit anyone out of anger.

[st.cronin]

Originally Posted by MattJones4Heisman

I've never hit anyone out of anger.

I have some anger management issues that, when I was younger, were pretty overwhelming. But I think they're more or less under control now. I've not hit anybody out of anger in over 10 years.

[hawk4669]

In nearly 11 years of marriage, and as angry as I've gotten with her (and that's is pretty angry), the thought has honestly never crossed my mind.

Cheers!

[Noop]

Honestly I doubt those who have would say so because it is very much looked down upon. I haven't hit a girl but I have come close.

[JeeberD]

Originally Posted by Noop

Honestly I doubt those who have would say so because it is very much looked down upon.

Cheating is very much looked down upon as well, but there were some folks who admitted to it in this thread...

[highfiveoh]

Is Wayne Brady gonna have to choke a bitch?

[MrBug708]

None of you would hit it?

Oh wait, you're married

[Maple Leafs]

"I would never hit a woman. But I would shake the shit out of one."
- Chris Rock

[cougarfreak]

Hell no. Only idiots do shit like that.

[Klinglerware]

Now, if someone does admit to domestic violence, are the moderators obliged to report it?

[Glengoyne]

I'm going to say yes. It was my first wife, and she hit me with the heel of one of her shoes. I slapped her with an open hand, and felt like shit about it for months. Hell, I felt bad about it well after the marriage was over with. At the time, it was a reflex type reaction rather than a conscious decision. I learned my lesson, there are just some places you don't go.

[Noop]

Originally Posted by JeeberD

Cheating is very much looked down upon as well, but there were some folks who admitted to it in this thread...

I agree. However when a man hits a woman thats something your told from a young age not to do no matter. Alot of people both male and female lose alot of respect for you for hitting a woman. While the same is true for cheating there could be other reasons why someone cheats on their partner that can atleast be rational. Is that making sense or am I way off base.

[Raiders Army]

Originally Posted by Glengoyne

I'm going to say yes. It was my first wife, and she hit me with the heel of one of her shoes. I slapped her with an open hand, and felt like shit about it for months. Hell, I felt bad about it well after the marriage was over with. At the time, it was a reflex type reaction rather than a conscious decision. I learned my lesson, there are just some places you don't go.

I was close to doing this a few years ago. I was walking away from her and she punched me in the back. Surprisingly it hurt, so I turned around and raised my fist. It was more of a kneejerk reaction as opposed to consciously threatening her. I think this falls in that category.

On a different note, my wife has hit me quite a few times. She's left bruises. None of it hurt other than that one time described above, so I looked at her hitting me as no big deal.

Just to clarify, she doesn't hit me often.

[Eaglesfan27]

Originally Posted by Noop

I agree. However when a man hits a woman thats something something your told from a young age not to do no matter. Alot of people both male and female lose alot of respect for you for hitting a woman. While the same is true for cheating there could be other reasons why someone cheats on their partner that can atleast be rational. Is that making sense or am I way off base.

For once , I don't think you are off base. I think both cheating and hitting your wife/GF are terrible, but I think there is more widespread stigma to hitting your GF/wife than there is to cheating. That being said, I've never done either one, but I've come close once to hitting a GF. That was part of what made me go back into counseling a long time ago.

[Greyroofoo]

Originally Posted by Noop

I agree. However when a man hits a woman thats something your told from a young age not to do no matter. Alot of people both male and female lose alot of respect for you for hitting a woman. While the same is true for cheating there could be other reasons why someone cheats on their partner that can atleast be rational. Is that making sense or am I way off base.

and yet when a woman hits a man she is cheered

[Noop]

Originally Posted by Greyroofoo

and yet when a woman hits a man she is cheered

I never said it was right.

[CU Tiger]

I had some pretty serious anger management issues when I as younger, but I NEVER hit a woman, much less my wife.

Now early in our marriage there were at least 2 times where she got out of my way and I went for a few hour drive to calm down, but no matter I always seemed to be able to control my anger with women, it actually helped me realize that I could control my actions during anger management counseling (court mandated I might add)

[Icy]

I have a great anger management and have never hit anybody in my life without being hit first, and for sure i wouldn't ever hit a woman.

I have had angry discussions as everybody, but unless you touch me, i won't ever touch you as there is noy any word that anybody can say to me that can make me to lose my control. I have always been amazed and the guys who totally lose their control when insulted, like being called son of a bitch or stuff like that. I can underestand a kid doing it, but an adult? does it really put you as angry to lose your control if being called son of a bitch for example? I can't underestand it, a word is just a word.

I fight words with words and fists with fists, but i must admit i'm a guy that is said by others as made of "ice" (and it has nothing to do with my nick) as I have total control over expressing my feelings (and i'm no saying that is a good thing).

[Desmond]

I had a GF when i was younger who went ballistic on me one night accusing me of cheating with one of her friends. She clawed and slapped at me but i just tried to hold her arms, she kneed me in the balls and i elbowed her in the side of the head. I didn't and don't feel bad that I did it but I ended the relationship because once something like that happens, well, game over.

The only other time was when I found out my GF was tanking monopoly vs me. I beat the ever loving shit out of the bitch over that.

[miami_fan]

Originally Posted by hawk4669

In nearly 11 years of marriage, and as angry as I've gotten with her (and that's is pretty angry), the thought has honestly never crossed my mind.

Cheers!

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[Axxon]

Originally Posted by JeeberD

Cheating is very much looked down upon as well, but there were some folks who admitted to it in this thread...

In that thread ksyrup posted

I like your girlfriend
Do you like my girlfriend?
I like your girlfriend
Everybody let's swing!

Well I feel so bad
That I promised her the world
And I told her that I'd love her forever
But yours is so much better
I gotta have your girlfriend

Ahh, so we finally know where Mike Kekich ended up.

Hmm, wonder if our Fritz's last name is Peterson?

[sabotai]

Originally Posted by Desmond

The only other time was when I found out my GF was tanking monopoly vs me. I beat the ever loving shit out of the bitch over that.

That's the only way they learn.


Never married, but I was in a long-term relationship (7 years), and I never came close to hitting her. Then again, I really can't think of a time when she really made me angry. We were pretty laid back people. Never had any fights (disagreements, yes. But not "fights"). As someone else said, if it ever got to the point where I wanted to hit her, that would be the end of it.

[dawgfan]

Originally Posted by Desmond

I had a GF when i was younger who went ballistic on me one night accusing me of cheating with one of her friends. She clawed and slapped at me but i just tried to hold her arms, she kneed me in the balls and i elbowed her in the side of the head. I didn't and don't feel bad that I did it but I ended the relationship because once something like that happens, well, game over.

I'm not a violent person, and I would never hit a woman with prior intention. But the above scenario is an interesting study in the differences in expectations of men and women - why is it that it was "game over" when you elbowed her in the head after she kneed you in the balls?

If someone is violent to me, I can't guarantee that I'm not going to respond in kind - in fact, it's almost certain I will. If it happens to be a woman, I'm going to do my best to try to grapple with her in such a way as to keep her from swinging or clawing at me, but if she decides to knee me in the nuts in the process, I can't guarantee that the animal part of my brain wouldn't snap and result in me shoving or slapping her in return.

[Greyroofoo]

What do you call a wife with just one black eye?







Quick Learner.

[Desmond]

Just to be clear, she didn't want to see me anymore but I didn't either. I could never have a relationship with someone after that, it was just such a final act. It wasn't a very good relationship to begin with though.

[Honolulu_Blue]

I haven't even come close. In fact, we've been married for almost three years now and I have never even called her a derogatory name in anger or even sworn at her in anger. Then again, I very rarely get angry at people I know.

[sabotai]

Originally Posted by dawgfan

I'm not a violent person, and I would never hit a woman with prior intention. But the above scenario is an interesting study in the differences in expectations of men and women - why is it that it was "game over" when you elbowed her in the head after she kneed you in the balls?

Women should know that the boys are off limits. Once they go after them, there are no longer any rules.

[M GO BLUE!!!]

"I'd hit it."


Seriously... Never been married and have hit two women in my life. One was completely by accident, as it was a waitress who walked into my fist as I took off my jacket. (I actually got her number, but nothing came of it.) The other I still feel bad about, but it did teach me a lot about life. I was in a bad mood and trying to fix a sink using a monkey wrench that was too big. It kept slipping and I kept banging my fingers. She decided it was a good time to mess with me and changed the stereo to the music she liked. I kept getting up and changing it back. After several times back and forth, with her having a great time laughing, I warned her I was not in the mood. She kept it up, and I ended up warning her that if she tried it one more time I would "hit her like a man." She did. I did. After that I decided if I was ever with someone who liked to try and push buttons I would get the hell out. (I was only 16 at the time, and have gone 18 years without physically hitting a woman, save for the waitress.)

Some women seem to try and test you. Some seem to not respect you if you won't "put them in their place." When faced with these type of women I get the hell away.

[Draft Dodger]

I hit on my wife all the time. I don't understand why anyone would take issue with that.

[DeToxRox]

If you answered yes to this thread you need to be banned from live and you're a fucking coward who deserves anything bad that ever happens to you tenfold.

[Pumpy Tudors]

Originally Posted by Draft Dodger

I hit on my wife all the time. I don't understand why anyone would take issue with that.

Yeah, I hit on her, too.

[molson]

Originally Posted by DeToxRox

If you answered yes to this thread you need to be banned from live and you're a fucking coward who deserves anything bad that ever happens to you tenfold.

I can appreciate the spirit of what you're saying there, but if someone came out here and could honestly admit domestic battery, it'd be interesting to their perspective - if it was honest.

Domestic violence isn't an anger issue - an anger issue is yelling at waitresses who get your order wrong, road rage, or getting in bar fights. Domestic violence is something different entirely, that our society still doesn't quite understand. The men don't think they did anything wrong, and their victims often stick up for them.

I've ton a bunch of jury trials (as a prosecutor) where we're facing off against the batterer and victim, who both testify for the defense. We utilize neighbor eyewitnesses, and some instances, even the couple's children. It's incredibly difficult, and even more bewildering. And the thing I struggle with is - should we even be prosecuting cases like that? Next time something happens, will the victim even make the call for help, after all we've put the family through? Sometimes you need to dismiss the case right off the bat, just in hopes that you can continue a relationship with the victim where she feels comfortable having the police intervene if things get worse. It's brutal.

So to the answer the poll, no, I've certainly never hit a woman, but I'd be fascinated to hear from someone who has.

[Shkspr]

Hit my wife? My god, she'd tear me in half if I tried. Plus, she's Texan. She can shoot.

[Rizon]

I respected the hell outa her for you ma.

[ThunderingHERD]

just wondering if you've ever hit your wife out of anger.

Only out of love. Or to teach her a lesson.

[Cringer]

I have hit walls, metal ones even. Not the wife though.

Unless slapping her ass during sex counts. Sure she says "ow" and it gets red, but I know she likes it.

[Anthony]

not on purpose. i inadvertently/accidently hit my wife once during an arguement. we were arguing and i was trying to take something out of her hand (that we were both holding and arguing over) and i don't remember if my hand slipped or if she let go of the thing but my hand bopped her face. she cried and i felt horrible cuz i didn't want her to think i did it on purpose. i wouldn't ever hit her, i get very angry but i become more destructive to inanimate objects. i've thrown things on occassion, but i don't direct my anger towards her. we don't really argue much, we mostly marriage-bicker. put me in a house with jessica alba for 5 years and all jokes aside eventually we'll find something to argue about. we don't really have many blowouts. we don't stay mad at each other long.

[cartman]

Ike Turner takes the 5th amendment in this thread.

[Kodos]

I've never hit a woman, but I think if she is attacking you, you have the right to take reasonable measures to restrain her.

[Cringer]

Originally Posted by Kodos

I've never hit a woman, but I think if she is attacking you, you have the right to take reasonable measures to restrain her.

Placing her in a coma is reasonable measures to restrain her right?

[sabotai]

Originally Posted by Cringer

Placing her in a coma is reasonable measures to restrain her right?

Of course. She stopped attacking you, didn't she?

[Kodos]

Mission accomplished!

[Karlifornia]

I voted no earlier today, but then I realized that is actually untrue.

I once socked a girlfriend with a closed fist square between the eyes. It was out of self-defense, as she was attacking me, and had displayed no sign of slowing down. So I held her in a headlock....and she kept swinging at my face...and connected a few times......so I finally gave her one, maybe two shots right in the eyes.

She stopped attacking. The relationship ended shortly thereafter. I didn't feel bad...I didn't seek counseling....She was just a crazy bitch, and I was just a crazy fucking guy. It was...fate...

Do I regret it? No. Would I ever do it again under the same, unfortunate circumstances? Ehhhh....I would try much harder to avoid it. I don't believe in hitting women, children, or even other men....but when you go for broke in a drunken rage, and put me at risk.....well, you fucked up by attacking my beautiful face, and the attack must stop immediately.

So, switch my no vote to yes.

[dawgfan]

Originally Posted by DeToxRox

If you answered yes to this thread you need to be banned from live and you're a fucking coward who deserves anything bad that ever happens to you tenfold.

Sounds very noble and all, but I believe there are circumstances where it's necessary, i.e. self-defense. If a woman is going batshit crazy on me, swinging and kicking, I'm going to do what I can to subdue her - pin her down, grab her in a bear-hug, etc. But if she's bigger than me and overpowering me, or if she goes dirty and kicks at my nuts, it's going to be extremely hard for me to avoid reflexively defending myself. As someone else said, once they go for the nuts, all bets are off.

[GrantDawg]

Many years ago, my wife once tried to stop me from leaving and I pushed her off. She lost balance and fell. That was as close as I ever got, and felt like crap afterward. I've never even been tempted to hit her, though. That is just not in me.

[Passacaglia]

I find it odd that there are so many comments about never hitting a woman, but I don't think I saw any about the fact that you're talking about the person you've claimed to love more than anyone else in the world.

[Cap Ologist]

Hitting, no? Murder, well that's a whole new ballgame.

[Raiders Army]

Originally Posted by Passacaglia

I find it odd that there are so many comments about never hitting a woman, but I don't think I saw any about the fact that you're talking about the person you've claimed to love more than anyone else in the world.

Just because you claim to love her more than anyone else in the world doesn't mean that you can't have an argument with her. For some people, part of arguing is throwing things, destroying property, or even...

...wait for it...

...hitting that person you love.