How important are looks in a significant?

Young Drachma · 07-15-2008, 02:04 PM

The question speaks for itself. Is it really true that it's all about other things as you get older? Or is it really important to be attracted to the "one you're with" physically?

Inquiring minds want to know...

PackerFanatic · 07-15-2008, 02:06 PM

I think it is important, but not NEARLY as important as most people make it out to be.

MikeVic · 07-15-2008, 02:09 PM

I'm mid-20s, so take that for what you will... but I need a nice face. I need to be able to look at them. I don't need some 10/10 beautiful face, but something I find attractive. The body isn't as important, but I mean if they're severley overweight, it'll reflect in the face as well.

edit: Didn't see the poll at first, but I guess I'd fall in the "yes" camp.

RomaGoth · 07-15-2008, 02:09 PM

I think you know the answer to this question already.

JeeberD · 07-15-2008, 02:12 PM

I think looks matter up to a point, but they aren't the end all be all. I think they're usually important in starting a relationship with someone, but by the time it gets serious they shouldn't matter that much.

Subby · 07-15-2008, 02:14 PM

sabotai used a quote once that is now one of my favorites (paraphrasing): "As insanely hot as she might be, someone, somewhere, is tired of her bullshit."

Lathum · 07-15-2008, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by JeeberD

I think looks matter up to a point, but they aren't the end all be all. I think they're usually important in starting a relationship with someone, but by the time it gets serious they shouldn't matter that much.

exactly, unless there are other circumstancs the initial attraction is physical.

Fidatelo · 07-15-2008, 02:19 PM

I can't see how they would not matter. That said, women don't have to look like Scarlett Johansson to be attractive to a man either, and men have all kinds of taste.

But overall, yes, you have to find your spouse attractive, I would think.

gstelmack · 07-15-2008, 02:20 PM

Physical, mental, and emotional attraction are all important in a relationship.

Dr. Sak · 07-15-2008, 02:22 PM

You have to be somewhat physically attracted to someone. But if the person has a great personality, it can enhance their attractiveness in my opinion.

For instance a girl can be drop dead gorgeous and dumb as a brick. I want nothing to do with her. On the other hand someone less physically attractive who is funny and smart will look better in my eyes.

muns · 07-15-2008, 02:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bsak16

You have to be somewhat physically attracted to someone. But if the person has a great personality, it can enhance their attractiveness in my opinion.

For instance a girl can be drop dead gorgeous and dumb as a brick. I want nothing to do with her. On the other hand someone less physically attractive who is funny and smart will look better in my eyes.

Nailed it +1

MikeVic · 07-15-2008, 02:28 PM

If you're not blind, you're going to have to look at them. Maybe what's attractive to you isn't the same as someone else's standards, but the bottom line is that I think the significant other has to be attractive physically in some way to you. I don't know how you can answer "no" here?

path12 · 07-15-2008, 02:35 PM

They have to be attractive to you. I think those standards change as you mature and your relationship needs change.......though I don't know that 'standards' is the right word there.

Maybe it's just as time goes by and you discover the things that are most important in a partner for you, the relative rankings of looks versus other qualities change.

lordscarlet · 07-15-2008, 02:40 PM

The thread is absolutely correct. Yes, you have to be attracted to a person. Do they have to be the most attractive person you've ever met? No. Do they also have to have a fantastic personality? Yes. There are multiple factors, and you'll likely end up with someone with both looks and personality while the person with the 100% match of either looks or personality is ignored.

clemsonfan · 07-15-2008, 02:42 PM

Being physically attracted to each other is just as important as being mentally and emotionally attracted to each other.

MikeVic · 07-15-2008, 02:42 PM

Yeah, maybe "standards" isn't the right word.

DanGarion · 07-15-2008, 02:55 PM

Yes they are when you first get to know someone, you have to be physically attracted to them, I think it's equal parts of physical and everything else.

DanGarion · 07-15-2008, 02:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Subby

Superman was flying around and saw Wonder Woman getting a tan in the nude on her balcony.

Superman said I going to hit that real fast. So he flys down toward Wonder Woman to hit it and their is a loud scream.

The Invincible Man scream what just hit me in the ass!!!!!

That's a typo on purpose right?

RedKingGold · 07-15-2008, 02:58 PM

I'm superficial and only let loose the goose for Victoria's Secret models.

SteveMax58 · 07-15-2008, 02:59 PM

I voted Yes...but only because I thought that to mean "Good Breeding Hips".

sabotai · 07-15-2008, 03:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Subby

sabotai used a quote once that is now one of my favorites (paraphrasing): "As insanely hot as she might be, someone, somewhere, is tired of her bullshit."

I remember using that quote a lot awhile back, but now I can't remember where I got it from. And it will always be a true statement.

I agree with everyone that you have to be attracted to the person, especially when you first meet them.

Logan · 07-15-2008, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Subby

sabotai used a quote once that is now one of my favorites (paraphrasing): "As insanely hot as she might be, someone, somewhere, is tired of fucking her."

Fixed, at least to how I've always heard it, since it speaks more to her hotness.

About 6-8 months ago I started talking to/hanging out with a girl who I was friends with going back to high school, since we live across the street from each other in the city. It got to the point where we would just BS online for hours everyday, as I realized our personalities really clicked. I had always thought she was pretty, but in a sort of plain, everyday way. Like bsak said, she started becoming more attractive in my eyes because of this.

We ended up hooking up randomly a few times. But at the time, I hadn't fully realized how attractive her looks + personality had become to me. So I didn't pursue it much further until I could decide, since she was a good friend and I didn't want to risk losing it until I was sure I really wanted it. Well, I randomly met some other girl, we went out a few times, it didn't work, original girl got really busy with work (and has been for months now), and fast forward to now and we barely talk anymore, and when we do, I get the sense that she knows exactly what my thought process was. If I had realized quicker how attractive the sum of her parts was to me, we would probably be together now.

Chalk it up to a learning experience. Maybe that chemistry we had can come back, maybe not. I just know that I'll be sure to better realize the whole package sooner.

MikeVic · 07-15-2008, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by dangarion

That's a typo on purpose right?

We need jbmagic back.

molson · 07-15-2008, 03:18 PM

I don't think anyone would argue that it's not important to be attracted to someone, but how important are general, objective, "good looks", as determined by our society.

I mean sometimes you find yourself physically attracted to someone a little further down the scale - is that a consideration for you? Or if there is someone who looks like she just came out of a magazine, but she doesn't really do it for you, are her good looks at least a plus?

jeheinz72 · 07-15-2008, 03:26 PM

I think this about sums it up. They need to be above that line.

Subby · 07-15-2008, 03:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by dangarion

That's a typo on purpose right?

Oh shi

Eaglesfan27 · 07-15-2008, 04:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gstelmack

Physical, mental, and emotional attraction are all important in a relationship.

Quote:

Originally Posted by bsak16

You have to be somewhat physically attracted to someone. But if the person has a great personality, it can enhance their attractiveness in my opinion.

For instance a girl can be drop dead gorgeous and dumb as a brick. I want nothing to do with her. On the other hand someone less physically attractive who is funny and smart will look better in my eyes.

Yes yes. These two quotes sum it up for me. Also, I think healthy couples realize that looks are going to change as we get older, and people aren't going to maintain their exact same weight, looks, etc. But if a relationship is a long standing healthy relationship, that isn't going to kill or even harm the relationship. So, I think it is a combo of the poll options.

Bonegavel · 07-15-2008, 04:03 PM

of course looks matter.

Cringer · 07-15-2008, 04:11 PM

DC, we all still think you are beautiful, if that is what this is about?

lordscarlet · 07-15-2008, 04:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Cringer

DC, we all still think you are beautiful, if that is what this is about?

I figured he must have hooked up with a 1.

Logan · 07-15-2008, 04:18 PM

"Never fucked a ten. NEVER fucked a ten.

But one night, I fucked five twos."

Young Drachma · 07-15-2008, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Cringer

DC, we all still think you are beautiful, if that is what this is about?

Yes, finally. Someone affirmed me. It took them long enough!

Young Drachma · 07-15-2008, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by lordscarlet

I figured he must have hooked up with a 1.

Nah, lunchtime chat with some friends. I wanted to punt the convo to the FOFC crew for further review.

MikeVic · 07-15-2008, 04:38 PM

I would imagine you got similar results with your friends?

lordscarlet · 07-15-2008, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by MikeVic

I would imagine you got similar results with your friends?

Except for the one married to the 6 toed midget.

Young Drachma · 07-15-2008, 04:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MikeVic

I would imagine you got similar results with your friends?

"If she's not hot, you better like talking to her a lot. Or get a lot of head and learn to ignore it."

"If she looks better than you, just shut up and make sure to make enough money to make her forget. Or need you."

"This ain't high school. Find someone you can put up with and leave that other shit to the folks who live beyond their means, because they're too busy trying to create the perfect life for themselves."

Just a smattering...

Danny · 07-15-2008, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by gstelmack

Physical, mental, and emotional attraction are all important in a relationship.

I agree with this as well. Being attracted to your partner is important, but is only one aspect to having a great relationship

Fortunately, I don't have to worry as my soon to be wife is the most beautiful woman in the world, my best friend and my soul mate.

RendeR · 07-15-2008, 06:27 PM

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Originally Posted by RedKingGold

I'm superficial and only let loose the goose for Victoria's Secret models.

Plan on staying a virgin eh? I'm impressed, takes balls to admit you'll never get any.

path12 · 07-15-2008, 07:14 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Danny

I agree with this as well. Being attracted to your partner is important, but is only one aspect to having a great relationship

Fortunately, I don't have to worry as my soon to be wife is the most beautiful woman in the world, my best friend and my soul mate.

Oh, she reads the board does she?

Danny · 07-15-2008, 07:46 PM

Not currently, but my screen may happen to be on this page scrolled to my post when she comes over today

Karlifornia · 07-15-2008, 07:47 PM

Looks never mattered to this man:

Chief Rum · 07-15-2008, 07:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bsak16

For instance a girl can be drop dead gorgeous and dumb as a brick. I want nothing to do with her for more than one night.

There, fixed that for ya.

DrAFTjunkie · 07-15-2008, 08:00 PM

Looks are important because the need for physical attraction is a reality...at least for me. That said, I'd take a funny, smart, sexy 6 over a dimwitted, mean-spirited "perfect" 10 any day.

Mota · 07-15-2008, 08:22 PM

Looks are definitely important. I couldn't date anybody that I wasn't at least moderately attracted to physically.

Personality does affect looks though. It's all in the way they carry themselves, the way they talk to people, etc. I've seen smoking 10's that I'd rather punch in the head than poke 'em because they were so annoying. And one of my good friends is dating a chick that is REALLY ugly but has such a great personality that I think she is a great catch for him. She has such a great smile and warm personality that you see beyond the looks really quickly.

I really believe that physical attractiveness is SO MUCH more than what a still photo can capture.

Mota · 07-15-2008, 08:25 PM

Oh yeah, I know lots of people that are bitches AND ugly. And most of them are married. Don't know what their husbands see in them. Guess that's why they spend all of their waking moments drinking in the garage (without the wives).

RedKingGold · 07-15-2008, 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by RendeR

Plan on staying a virgin eh? I'm impressed, takes balls to admit you'll never get any.

Sorry. Not willing to settle for Fucky McPirate and crew.

RendeR · 07-15-2008, 08:45 PM

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Originally Posted by RedKingGold

Sorry. Not able

Fixed that for you.

RedKingGold · 07-15-2008, 08:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RendeR

Fixed that for you.

Your mom.

RedKingGold · 07-15-2008, 08:53 PM

Monogomy.

CATCH IT!

Dr. Sak · 07-15-2008, 08:58 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chief Rum

There, fixed that for ya.

You are correct.

View Poll Results: So do looks matter?
Yes	84	84.00%
No, there are more important things..like money	2	2.00%
No, looks fade, but love is everlasting	12	12.00%
Trouts always wanna kiss.	2	2.00%
Voters: 100. You may not vote on this poll

07-15-2008, 02:06 PM	#2
PackerFanatic Pro Starter Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Appleton, WI	I think it is important, but not NEARLY as important as most people make it out to be. __________________ Commissioner of the RNFL

07-15-2008, 02:09 PM	#3
MikeVic Head Coach Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Hometown of Canada	I'm mid-20s, so take that for what you will... but I need a nice face. I need to be able to look at them. I don't need some 10/10 beautiful face, but something I find attractive. The body isn't as important, but I mean if they're severley overweight, it'll reflect in the face as well. edit: Didn't see the poll at first, but I guess I'd fall in the "yes" camp. Last edited by MikeVic : 07-15-2008 at 02:10 PM.

07-15-2008, 02:12 PM	#5
JeeberD General Manager Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: The Town of Flower Mound	I think looks matter up to a point, but they aren't the end all be all. I think they're usually important in starting a relationship with someone, but by the time it gets serious they shouldn't matter that much. __________________ UTEP Miners!!! I solemnly swear to never cheer for TO

07-15-2008, 02:14 PM	#6
Subby lolzcat Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: sans pants	sabotai used a quote once that is now one of my favorites (paraphrasing): "As insanely hot as she might be, someone, somewhere, is tired of her bullshit." __________________ Superman was flying around and saw Wonder Woman getting a tan in the nude on her balcony. Superman said I going to hit that real fast. So he flys down toward Wonder Woman to hit it and their is a loud scream. The Invincible Man scream what just hit me in the ass!!!!! I do shit, I take pictures, I write about it: chrisshue.com

07-15-2008, 02:19 PM	#8
Fidatelo Pro Starter Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: Winnipeg, MB	I can't see how they would not matter. That said, women don't have to look like Scarlett Johansson to be attractive to a man either, and men have all kinds of taste. But overall, yes, you have to find your spouse attractive, I would think. __________________ "Breakfast? Breakfast schmekfast, look at the score for God's sake. It's only the second period and I'm winning 12-2. Breakfasts come and go, Rene, but Hartford, the Whale, they only beat Vancouver maybe once or twice in a lifetime."

07-15-2008, 02:20 PM	#9
gstelmack Pro Starter Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Cary, NC	Physical, mental, and emotional attraction are all important in a relationship. __________________ -- Greg -- Author of various FOF utilities

07-15-2008, 02:22 PM	#10
Dr. Sak Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Stuck in Yinzerville, PA	You have to be somewhat physically attracted to someone. But if the person has a great personality, it can enhance their attractiveness in my opinion. For instance a girl can be drop dead gorgeous and dumb as a brick. I want nothing to do with her. On the other hand someone less physically attractive who is funny and smart will look better in my eyes. Last edited by Dr. Sak : 07-15-2008 at 02:23 PM.

07-15-2008, 02:28 PM	#12
MikeVic Head Coach Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Hometown of Canada	If you're not blind, you're going to have to look at them. Maybe what's attractive to you isn't the same as someone else's standards, but the bottom line is that I think the significant other has to be attractive physically in some way to you. I don't know how you can answer "no" here?

07-15-2008, 02:35 PM	#13
path12 Coordinator Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: Seattle, WA	They have to be attractive to you. I think those standards change as you mature and your relationship needs change.......though I don't know that 'standards' is the right word there. Maybe it's just as time goes by and you discover the things that are most important in a partner for you, the relative rankings of looks versus other qualities change. __________________ We have always been at war with Eastasia.

07-15-2008, 02:40 PM	#14
lordscarlet Pro Starter Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Washington, DC	The thread is absolutely correct. Yes, you have to be attracted to a person. Do they have to be the most attractive person you've ever met? No. Do they also have to have a fantastic personality? Yes. There are multiple factors, and you'll likely end up with someone with both looks and personality while the person with the 100% match of either looks or personality is ignored. __________________ Sixteen Colors ANSI/ASCII Art Archive "...the better half of the Moores..." -cthomer5000

07-15-2008, 02:42 PM	#15
clemsonfan High School JV Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Dayton, OH	Being physically attracted to each other is just as important as being mentally and emotionally attracted to each other.

07-15-2008, 02:55 PM	#17
DanGarion Coordinator Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: The Great Northwest	Yes they are when you first get to know someone, you have to be physically attracted to them, I think it's equal parts of physical and everything else. __________________ Los Angeles Dodgers Check out the FOFC Groups on Facebook! and Reddit! DON'T REPORT ME BRO!

07-15-2008, 02:58 PM	#19
RedKingGold College Starter Join Date: Oct 2002	I'm superficial and only let loose the goose for Victoria's Secret models.

07-15-2008, 02:59 PM	#20
SteveMax58 College Starter Join Date: Dec 2006	I voted Yes...but only because I thought that to mean "Good Breeding Hips".

07-15-2008, 03:18 PM	#24
molson General Manager Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: The Mountains	I don't think anyone would argue that it's not important to be attracted to someone, but how important are general, objective, "good looks", as determined by our society. I mean sometimes you find yourself physically attracted to someone a little further down the scale - is that a consideration for you? Or if there is someone who looks like she just came out of a magazine, but she doesn't really do it for you, are her good looks at least a plus?

07-15-2008, 03:26 PM	#25
jeheinz72 Pro Rookie Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Fresno, CA	I think this about sums it up. They need to be above that line.

07-15-2008, 04:03 PM	#28
Bonegavel Awaiting Further Instructions... Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Macungie, PA	of course looks matter. __________________

07-15-2008, 04:11 PM	#29
Cringer Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Edinburg,TX	DC, we all still think you are beautiful, if that is what this is about? __________________ You Stole Fizzy Lifting drinks! You bumped into the ceiling which now has to be washed and steralized, so you get NOTHING! You lose!

07-15-2008, 04:18 PM	#31
Logan Head Coach Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: NYC	"Never fucked a ten. NEVER fucked a ten. But one night, I fucked five twos."

07-15-2008, 04:38 PM	#34
MikeVic Head Coach Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Hometown of Canada	I would imagine you got similar results with your friends?

07-15-2008, 07:46 PM	#40
Danny Head Coach Join Date: Jul 2001	Not currently, but my screen may happen to be on this page scrolled to my post when she comes over today Last edited by Danny : 07-15-2008 at 07:46 PM.

07-15-2008, 07:47 PM	#41
Karlifornia Grizzled Veteran Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: San Jose, CA	Looks never mattered to this man: __________________ Look into the mind of a crazy man (NSFW) http://www.whitepowerupdate.wordpress.com

07-15-2008, 08:00 PM	#43
DrAFTjunkie H.S. Freshman Team Join Date: Feb 2008	Looks are important because the need for physical attraction is a reality...at least for me. That said, I'd take a funny, smart, sexy 6 over a dimwitted, mean-spirited "perfect" 10 any day.

07-15-2008, 08:22 PM	#44
Mota College Benchwarmer Join Date: Jan 2001	Looks are definitely important. I couldn't date anybody that I wasn't at least moderately attracted to physically. Personality does affect looks though. It's all in the way they carry themselves, the way they talk to people, etc. I've seen smoking 10's that I'd rather punch in the head than poke 'em because they were so annoying. And one of my good friends is dating a chick that is REALLY ugly but has such a great personality that I think she is a great catch for him. She has such a great smile and warm personality that you see beyond the looks really quickly. I really believe that physical attractiveness is SO MUCH more than what a still photo can capture.

07-15-2008, 08:25 PM	#45
Mota College Benchwarmer Join Date: Jan 2001	Oh yeah, I know lots of people that are bitches AND ugly. And most of them are married. Don't know what their husbands see in them. Guess that's why they spend all of their waking moments drinking in the garage (without the wives).

07-15-2008, 08:53 PM	#49
RedKingGold College Starter Join Date: Oct 2002	Monogomy. CATCH IT!

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