I completely get your viewpoint and I've wanted to throw my controller at my TV a few times when I miss 6 wide open threes in a row off a pick and roll with a B+ three-point shooter BUT that is somewhat realistic. That is sports, man. Hockey, football, basketball, you name it. You can absolutely dominate somebody and still lose. It's the exact reason I love sports so much.
Once again, I get your perspective though. This is a game. No one wants to play Jerry Noobs-a-lot and lose because your open shots aren't going in.
I think a lot of people, including myself, just lose perspective of the sport and get caught up in the "video game". Whenever I get pissed I always think about how stressful it'd be to be a coach in the NBA and have your boy clanking shots and turning the ball over.
One more point, I can barely play online anymore because it isn't basketball....it's video game basketball, which isn't fun. I think that's what a lot of people have issues with.
Video game basketball (cheesing and unorganized play) doesn't mesh well with realistic shooting %'s, IMO.

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