I really could stand to have some advice

[bjf1377]

Ok, my best friend's best friend (who is also a very good friend of mine) is sick. She has leukemia (she wasn't sure, but it seems like acute leukemia; and this isn't my friend that I said had leukemia a few weeks ago, it's another one), it can be controlled and basically cured if caught in time. If not, she could die in a few months. She has known for about month now, but she refuses to get treatment because she feels that life is too much for her anymore and she just wants it to end. I really talked to her about it a lot today and I at least got her to think about getting treatment for the sake of her well being, as well as our friend's well being (and for that matter, my well being).

Now, I could handle this a lot better if I could talk to her face to face and take her in myself, but she doesn't live in Ohio, she lives out west. As of right now, all I can do is talk to her on the phone and online and try to convince her that way. I know that is not the most effective way, and I know that she needs to go in for treatment, but I can't really force the issue all that well from a different timezone.

To add to this, she hasn't told our friend yet and she doesn't want me to tell her either. It crushes me to lie to my friend cause we are incredibly honest with each other and I want to let her know that her best friend may be dying. I basically told her that if she didn't get treatment that I would tell our friend. But other than that, I have no idea what to do.

Does anyone have any suggestions?

[bjf1377]

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Also, I really have been just slowly losing my mind dealing with all of the death, sickness, and other major issues. I would like to go see someone and talk with them about it. Should I go see a psychiatrist or a psychologist? I can never remember the difference

[TheMatrix31]

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Psychiatrist is basically a psychologist who is allowed to prescribe medicine for your problems.

I think the best thing to do is just pound the idea in there, tell her how you know it's hard for her to live like this but that she has to try and stop it for her sake and for all the people who love her and can't stand to see her just wither away without doing anything about it. Constantly tell her, and I think you should tell your friend anyway, because maybe she can help you convince the girl to take some treatment for it.

Rough situation, bro....I hope that everyone will turn out alright.

[bjf1377]

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Mini-update for those of you who read this before: I talked to my friend about all of it tonight and I told her what I know about leukemia from observing my other friend, and I talked her into getting treatment thankfully. It's a little load off my shoulders

[Beantown]

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Man, sorry to hear about everything going on.

Glad to hear she's decided to go in and get treatment.

Also, talking to a psychiatrist, or psychologist, or therapist, whatever really helps a lot, so I'd certainly lok into it if you have a lot say.

[Scottdau]

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Wow that is tough. If she feels like giving up my advice would be to not push her to get treatment. Give her time to think it through. I think if she doesn't want her other friend to know I wouldn't tell her. I know that sounds cold, but that is her wish. But you can tell her that it puts you in a hard place. You can give her pep talks and try to have her see her future. Kids, marriage things girls like. And just be there to listen and listen and listen. Some times that is all we want is just to have friend and love ones to listen. Also, tell her that you would miss her and her friends and family would too. Maybe that will give her hope. Your in my prayers bro.

[Scottdau]

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[QUOTE=Longhorn;2690495]Man, sorry to hear about everything going on.

Glad to hear she's decided to go in and get treatment.

Longhorn your avatar did you lose some friends sorry to hear that bro? You are also in my prayer.

[Beantown]

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Longhorn your avatar did you lose some friends sorry to hear that bro? You are also in my prayer.

Yeah, last year. Two sisters, pictured in the avy, died in a car accident. The one on the right was a friend of mine, in my grade, and her sister was 2 years younger and a friend as well.

[Scottdau]

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Yeah, last year. Two sisters, pictured in the avy, died in a car accident. The one on the right was a friend of mine, in my grade, and her sister was 2 years younger and a friend as well.

Wow sorry to hear that.

[TheMatrix31]

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Good news, bjf. I'm glad you convinced her to get treatment, because it can really help. For you, I'd definitely suggest going to a psychologist. I've been to a couple in my life and I have to say, they help. Not for the fact that they specifically DO anything, it's just great to speak whatever is on your mind without being judged as would be the case if you did that with someone you knew.

[bjf1377]

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Good news, bjf. I'm glad you convinced her to get treatment, because it can really help. For you, I'd definitely suggest going to a psychologist. I've been to a couple in my life and I have to say, they help. Not for the fact that they specifically DO anything, it's just great to speak whatever is on your mind without being judged as would be the case if you did that with someone you knew.

Well they have some conseling services on campus for free, so I'm gonna set up an appointment and all that happy crap whenever they decided to pick up their phones