Ever been cheated on in any of your past relationships?

[MassNole]

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I have my suspicions that my college girlfriend cheated on me during her Senior Week, but I guess I'll never know.

[fistofrage]

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I have my suspicions that my college girlfriend cheated on me during her Senior Week, but I guess I'll never know.

If you got that feeling in the pit of your stomache, and you know the one I'm talking about....She did it.

[Karlos05]

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I was in a dangerous situation involving snakes on a plane and unfortunatly my girlfriend cheated on me with Samuel L. Jackson.

[TarHeelMan]

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Never been cheated on. My brother in law's wife stepped out on him with some dude at her job, which I kinda saw coming, because he never paid any attention to her. She'd go and buy something new to look good for him, and the first thing he'd ask was, "How much was it". So when a dude started noticing her at work, it was a wrap. He eventually found out about it, and she talked him into moving to Florida to "start over". Somehow, the dude who was smashing it got the number and called their house after they moved. My brother in law picked up the phone, and the dude told him, "Oh, you must be the husband. I'll call back later." When my wife told me, I was rolling... She asked what was so funny, I was like, "Do you understand the set of stones you gotta have to pull off something so gangsta? The dude basically let him know he still had contact with his wife, and would continue to do so." This was like 4 years ago. I have no idea how their marriage has lasted; they're both miserable.

[Skerik]

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Moved to the Neighborhood.

I'll leave it open, but please keep the stories PG, huh?

[forensicd]

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My ex-girlfriend in college, who i had been with since high school, was at a party with me. I turn around and she is making out with my best friend! Man, that sucked. Luckily we broke up and I met my wife a few weeks later, and now I am lucky enough to have the greatest son in the world.

So, while it may seem bad at the time, theres no reason to be with someone who would sink as low to cheat, and things are always ten times better when you step back and look at whole situation a few weeks later.

[Lintyfresh85]

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Ehh... After 8 years, I think I would be able to forgive. That is, if it were my fault. Usually when a woman cheats, especially after that long, it is the guy's fault.

Women generally cheat because they aren't getting something at home. Whether that be sex or emotional support, it doesn't matter. If you keep your woman happy, she isn't gonna stray.

That's a load of BS though... So it's our fault for a women not being able to keep her legs closed? Women always justify cheating by saying some reason they aren't happy. The real reason is they're loose and will always be that way... I never trust girls, and I've never been burned. Seems like the only logical way to do things IMO.

[skitch]

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cheated on, and then left

We know, we know.

[jmood88]

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A friend of mine was cheated on by his girlfriend of 8 years.

It ruined everything. They got back together and she tried really hard...but he couldn't put it out of his mind.

He said every time they "made love", all he could see in his mind was some other guy "dropping a load in her." (His words)

I've never been cheated on. I don't think that, as males, we can forgive / forget.

I know women who've been cheated on...and forgiven very fast.

Guys just have that whole "some other guy was inside you" thing to deal with...and most can't get over that.

With me, it's just how someone can lie and go behind your back and have sex with somebody else. It would be hard to get over thinking about another guy doing anything with your girlfriend/wife but if you're with somebody why are you sneaking around? I might be more sympathetic if my girlfriend just told me she was gonna sleep with somebody else rather than go off secretly.

[jmood88]

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I was cheated on once that I know of. Back when I was in college, my gf went to Atlanta, for a week. She came back with a nice present; a box full of chlamydia. Are you not entertained?

That's disgusting.

[trobinson97]

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That's disgusting.

You don't have to tell me that brotha.

[TarHeelMan]

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I'd never be able to forgive cheating. I told my wife that early on when we were dating. This dude who was a friend of the family, his wife left him for some dude at the job, and he was distraught. He was saying how he would forgive her and take her back, all this stuff, and I said later on, "He's a better man than me.", and my wife asked me what I meant. I told her that once you cheat, it's over. I'd lose all emotions and feelings and cut you off. That's just how it is. She told me I couldn't say that, because I haven't been in the situation, and I was like, funk that, I know how I am. All the excuses, "It's not you, it's me", and that crap, out the window. Shoot, even when I watched the movie "Unfaithful", I had a small part of me that wanted Richard Gere to beat the snot out of Diane Lane (no matter how good she looked when she let that Frenchman beat it up)....

[trobinson97]

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I'd never be able to forgive cheating. I told my wife that early on when we were dating. This dude who was a friend of the family, his wife left him for some dude at the job, and he was distraught. He was saying how he would forgive her and take her back, all this stuff, and I said later on, "He's a better man than me.", and my wife asked me what I meant. I told her that once you cheat, it's over. I'd lose all emotions and feelings and cut you off. That's just how it is. She told me I couldn't say that, because I haven't been in the situation, and I was like, funk that, I know how I am. All the excuses, "It's not you, it's me", and that crap, out the window. Shoot, even when I watched the movie "Unfaithful", I had a small part of me that wanted Richard Gere to beat the snot out of Diane Lane (no matter how good she looked when she let that Frenchman beat it up)....

YEah when I was in Basic Training, one of my buddies's wife cheated on him with a friend of his. He didn't find out until she came down for the graduation. I was really surprised to hear him say that he loved her even more and was going to try and work it out. I felt the same way as you TarHeelMan, in that he was "a better man than me".

As much as I don't think she would, I do not believe my wife would ever tell me if she cheated. She pretty much knows I'd be done with a relationship with her. There's just something in me that would never let me get over it. Everytime you're making love you're thinking, 'Is she thinking about that other guy?" "Was he better than me or something?" Call it insecurity, call it stubborness, if it happened, you'd also be calling me single.

[eXperiment63]

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That's a load of BS though... So it's our fault for a women not being able to keep her legs closed? Women always justify cheating by saying some reason they aren't happy. The real reason is they're loose and will always be that way... I never trust girls, and I've never been burned. Seems like the only logical way to do things IMO.

A woman that has kept her legs closed for 8 years to any other man isn't exactly loose. You aren't a hoochie and stay monogomous for 8 years. If that ish happened after 8 years, something happened as far as how emotionally connected she was to him. A woman doesn't screw around when she feels wanted and loved by the man she wants and loves... unless she's a hoochie, it's that simple.

[Graphik]

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There is more than a few reasons why a female will choose to cheat on her guy. One could be a lack of intimacy from her partner, revenge if she suspects the guy is cheating, another man may be showing her more attention than he current partner, they may be seeking a ego boost or they could be deprived of sex. The last is that she was a whore to begin with. Relationships and marraige are like a full time job. The second you start slacking off is the second your employer may seek new help.


I've been cheated on once with this chick I had when I was in HS. Bad thing was I never really caught her in the act, it became quite apparent she was a whore about 6 months after we broke up and we started kicking it regularly. First, I slid her to my cousin who was a dog and he nailed her in less than 2 hours...while I was being sent off with her pleasantly plumped friend. I thought "keep it in the family" right? Later on, on another date, I went with her to some guys crib. The very guy whome she claimed was "her best freind" while I and her were dating. Needless to say, we get there and she dips off to another room with him almost immediately. Later that same day, she got with his friend as well. I was completely in disgust knowing how much of a tramp she was.

I should of known something was wrong when I used to visit her crib w/o parents around and at the height of the night, some random studs would come over, 3 or 4 deep and she'd leave me in the living room watching tv while she entertained her guest in another part of the house. She wasn't screwing anybody though while I was there. She was good at keeping me and her other party company for bout a half hour and then they would leave. I thought nothing of it back then but after seeing her in action after we broke up, I just knew that she was cheating from jump. There were many other clues that became clear as day after that.

I actually confronted her about it recently. Well not really confronted, more like joked about it. We're still cool in a sense that we'd still juice eachother every so often. I was in her truck one day last summer with her girl. She was joking with her girl like "I was a good gf to you wasn't I"? I'm like "oh hellz naw". I told her about those times I mentioned above and how she just suddenly broke up with me for no apparent reason and we had some laughs about it. I dont hold a grudge against her but I will definitely never let her in my life again besides for a booty call. Besides, that was all a learning experience.