Question about "friends"..

[Beantown]

Re: Question about "friends"..

What about the large majority of people who don't go to college?

I think I can understand where they come from. They are jealous and upset that they are losing touch with one of their best friends. Plus, they probably don't even like the girl. And, it sounds like she has changed who you are.

They said you aren't getting any? I can understand why they would said that.
They said you have no social life? Do you ever go to parties? Or hang out with a large group of friends anymore? Or is all your time with this girl?

I was referring to the people who do go, and that is also why I included the "and from your job" part.

I'm pretty sure JJ is going to college, so was just referring to what his situation is most likely to be like.

And I'm pretty sure he has said that whenever they do call him to hang out he pretty much always ends up hanging out with them. He even told them that he could play basketball in 30 minutes and they respond with immature crap like that. I'd say it's something wrong with them, nothing JJ has done.

[dieselboy]

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I was referring to the people who do go, and that is also why I included the "and from your job" part.

I'm pretty sure JJ is going to college, so was just referring to what his situation is most likely to be like.

And I'm pretty sure he has said that whenever they do call him to hang out he pretty much always ends up hanging out with them. He even told them that he could play basketball in 30 minutes and they respond with immature crap like that. I'd say it's something wrong with them, nothing JJ has done.

Maybe. But they feel threatened. They are losing touch with one of their best friends. And its not even with a girl who he is "getting some" from. So they are losing a friend to another friend.

[Scottdau]

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Yes, I do. And no I wouldn't bail on her for my "bros", but I don't bail on them either.

But girls will always come and go, but these are his closest friends, those are hard to find. Plus, its not like they are dating or anything.

How old are you? I ask that because your closet friends in high school will not be your closet friends in your later years. I have one good friend from high school and that is it. I could be wrong, but I think most people lose tides with there closest friends in High school.

[CaptainZombie]

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If they're willing to stop being friends with you over one friend you have, they're not true friends. **** them, just find new people to hang out with.

TRUE

Bingo.

TRUE

I agree with Acid and Sully.

You'll go to college, make new friends, and never talk to 95% of the people in your high school again.

AND 100% TRUE

[sportsdude]

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just a couple thoughts...

I agree that if your friends act like that over something so petty then they really aren't friends at all.

But you need to stop and ask yourself, is it possibly you?

I mean, this girl is not a girlfriend, she's just a friend, right? So what is the reason you're spending so much time with a girl that makes your friends feel like you're alienating yourself from them and abandoning your social life?

[skitch]

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Boink her and shut them up.

[jmood88]

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just a couple thoughts...

I agree that if your friends act like that over something so petty then they really aren't friends at all.

But you need to stop and ask yourself, is it possibly you?

I mean, this girl is not a girlfriend, she's just a friend, right? So what is the reason you're spending so much time with a girl that makes your friends feel like you're alienating yourself from them and abandoning your social life?

I don't get why it's such a big deal that he's friends with a girl that he's not having sex with. I'm friends with several girls but none of my other friends act as childish as his friends are.

[skitch]

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I don't get why it's such a big deal that he's friends with a girl that he's not having sex with. I'm friends with several girls but none of my other friends act as childish as his friends are.

Then again, you're not in high school... and high school is where immaturity reigns supreme.

[Blaxican8504]

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I don't get why it's such a big deal that he's friends with a girl that he's not having sex with. I'm friends with several girls but none of my other friends act as childish as his friends are.

I think that is just an excuse they are using.

I remember a few months ago, JJ made a post about this girl asking him to prom. A few weeks after he said yes, she ditched him for another guy. And then when he found out the guy wanted to have sex with the girl, he told her. She freaked out, dropped the new dude, and went back to JJ. Now I'm not saying telling her was the wrong thing to do, but I can see why his friends would be upset about it. He put the girl over his boys.

And the fact that he still went with her after she dogged him out like that probably didnt earn him any points with his boys either. He allowed her to disrespect him and not only he is still cool with her, they are the best of friends. It just sounds like the girl has him wrapped around her finger and his boys dont like it.

I have been on both sides of the situation so I can see where each side is coming from.

[sportsdude]

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I don't get why it's such a big deal that he's friends with a girl that he's not having sex with. I'm friends with several girls but none of my other friends act as childish as his friends are.

Perhaps read my full post next time.

All I was saying is that if all his friends think he's alienating himself from them, that maybe he should take a step back make sure that's not actually the case. It doesn't sound like it is, but you never know.

[jmood88]

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Perhaps read my full post next time.

All I was saying is that if all his friends think he's alienating himself from them, that maybe he should take a step back make sure that's not actually the case. It doesn't sound like it is, but you never know.

I read your post and I wasn't just referring to you but to everyone who has made it a point to say that he might be spending too much time with a girl that he's not having sex with or who isn't his girlfriend. He's already said that he isn't dropping plans with them and spending every moment with this girl.

[Husker_OS]

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Boink her and shut them up.

Best suggestion in this thread so far. Hit it, boost your rep with these losers to where you can deal with them for 1 more year then cut all ties with them when you get to college.

[Pointguard]

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You'll go to college, make new friends, and never talk to 95% of the people in your high school again.

Though Ive been in college only one year, so far things havent been better with my good friends. Im sure it changes the more and more you make new friends in college and seperate yourselfs, but I dont think thats the situation for everyone.