Did some snooping not sure what to do....

[Porschebenz2001]

If this thread is out of line then just delete it, I'm sorry.

I'm a freshman at Iona College. I live in a suite. I'm in the double. Me and my roommate have had a rocky relationship for the three months here. He wants to bring girls back to the room all the time. I'm not exactly a ladies man lol. So one time he wanted to bring a girl back and I got pissed, overreacted. We both talked **** about each other behind each other's back. I apologized for it and so did he. I thought we were passed it (it was over a month ago). Apparently we are not.

My cell phone is dead and I don't have the charger, so I asked my roommate to borrow his phone. I go to text a friend and I notice my suitemate starting at me. Ever since the incident with me and my roommate, my suitemate and roommate have grown very close. They hang out all the time, and don't invite me when they chill at night.

I decide to check my roommate's sent texts (the bad snooping I know) but I had to. I thought I might be going home this weekend and I am. Unfortunately, I'm not going home till tomorrow. I called my mom and she said that she couldn't pick me up till tomorrow. I asked my roommate if I could sleep here tonight, meaning he couldn't bang this chick in our room tonight. I asked if he could find another place, and repeatedly told him that if he couldn't, I would find another place to sleep.

Before I finish, you guys should probably know that I have a sense of humor that is a tad different. You need to get to know me before you find me funny. All my friends tell me that. Once I got to know my roommate and some other people here I opened up. I thought my roommate and I were close, but I was wrong.

So onto the actual snooping. I checked the text and found one that shocked me. He sent it to his girl. He said, "I'm sorry we have a problem my roommate didn't call his parents and can't go home till saturday. He won't let us have the room tonight. I'm sorry that my roommate sucks at life." I couldn't believe what I had just read. I know we had a rough time at one point, but we shook hands and I thought we got over it. If I shake hands with a guy, I ****ing mean it.

I really don't have any idea what to do. I just read this text about an hour ago and was so pissed off that I had to tell someone. I dunno. Should I confront the guy? Should I let it blow over and gut out the rest of the year? I just don't know. I told one of my good friends here at Iona, we went to high school together, about it. He hated the kid from the start. He wants to beat the **** out of this kid.

I really don't wanna do that. I don't wanna come off as a prick, I just needed someone's opinion on this. I have a friend who goes to Catholic, and him and his roommate don't even speak to each other. I don't wanna be like that with my roommate. It doesn't feel like I can solve it now though. Thanks in advance guys.

[SPTO]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

Any way to get a new roommate? I doubt it but it seems that things are pretty much broken if you want to have an amicable relationship with your mate.

Well that's my opinion. I dunno if it helps.

[stewaat]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

Find new friends. There are plenty of things at college that are great for meeting new people. You have the winter break coming up so hopefully the time apart will calm the storm that seems to be brewing.

His text doesn't really surprise me. If I was trying to have a girl over and I couldn't I'd be pissed too.

Relax, concentrate on things that really matter.

[Village Idiot]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

If it's the "sorry he sucks at life" thing that's bothering you, for what it's worth I thought it was pretty funny. That is, there's more than one way of reading it. You seem to be taking it literally when dude is probably (or at least possibly) just trying to be funny and impress his chick. I wouldn't give it another moment's thought.

[Porschebenz2001]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

Find new friends. There are plenty of things at college that are great for meeting new people. You have the winter break coming up so hopefully the time apart will calm the storm that seems to be brewing.

His text doesn't really surprise me. If I was trying to have a girl over and I couldn't I'd be pissed too.

Relax, concentrate on things that really matter.

I never said he couldn't. Those words never came out of my mouth. I said I'd like to sleep in my room, but if you need it I will find another place. I told him to use the room about a 100 times if he needed it.

[stewaat]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

I never said he couldn't. Those words never came out of my mouth. I said I'd like to sleep in my room, but if you need it I will find another place. I told him to use the room about a 100 times if he needed it.

Well at least he's decent enough to let you stay there and not kick you out. With a girl waiting that's a tough decision.

I'm not saying you said he couldn't have the girl over. I'm just saying if there was an obstacle in my way from having a girl in bed I'd be a little upset as well, and his text didn't surprise me.

I'm not implying you did anything wrong, just that I can see his frustration.

[pk500]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

First, the guy could have been acting sarcastic with the "sucks at life" comment. You need context before you jump to conclusions.

Second, don't schools let you change roommates after your first semester? Mine did, but that was in the early 80s. If so, hang in there: The first semester is over in three weeks.

Take care,
PK

[catcatch22]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

You need a single, not sure how it works at Iona, but my wife went to Rutgers and when she was there she had a roommate at first but eventually garned enough credits to obtain a room of her own. However the roomate would always most of the time be courteous and stay with another friend in another room for the night so we could bang in the room.

The thing was my drive to the school was so far that we really had no choice of going to my place.

So I can defintely understand the guys frustration. Plus who cares what he thinks, its not like he urinated in your bed or did some wierd freaky stuff or something worst. At least he doesn't bang the girl in your presence. That would be messed up. My wifes roomate did that one time. I guess she thought my wife was sleeping. We paid her back though LMAO!!

[dkgojackets]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

"Sucks at life" is an extremely common phrase to use, and you can't tell his tone from reading a text. I say it pretty often, just like "Damn I got a 60 on that test." "Yeah because you suck at life lol"

I think you are overreacting. This guy is bringing women back to your room regularly. Hang out with him and get your share of the action.

Here is a bad roommate story. Theres a guy I know who is sharing an apartment with 3 other guys. Two of them are really cool, and the other seems like a tool. Anyway the third guy did all the standard stuff like not cleaning up anything, not pitching in for food, making excess noise, etc. On top of that, he bought a lathe and is keeping it in the living room. He claims to have no space in his room, but hes already bought it and has to put it somewhere.

[NYJets]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

Overreacting big time imo. He was probably kidding somewhat. And he was probably just sending a quick text to his girl, he wasn't going to tell the whole story and explain the whole thing.


I would change roommates if you guys don't get along and you can though.

[Sandman42]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

On top of that, he bought a lathe and is keeping it in the living room. He claims to have no space in his room, but hes already bought it and has to put it somewhere.

The hell does he need a lathe for? He's just going to randomly be cutting stuff in the living room?

Also I pretty much agree with everything else that was said. He was probably being sarcastic in the text he sent.

[Aggies7]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

The hell does he need a lathe for? He's just going to randomly be cutting stuff in the living room?

Also I pretty much agree with everything else that was said. He was probably being sarcastic in the text he sent.

I agree it seems like he was being sarcastic and just texted the first thing that came to his mind.

[McLite]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

I agree it seems like he was being sarcastic and just texted the first thing that came to his mind.

Agreed. He's trying to inflate his stock a little by knocking yours. His ultimate goal is to get a little face to face time with the lady...not to fight you.

[P2K]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

Yeah, you're overreacting.

Two things....

1. As long as he's not in your face, giving you all kinds of trouble every day and saying **** in front of you and you guys are civil, just let it be.

2. It sucks and I know through my own deal...you could be the nicest person on the planet...some people are just not going to like you. Right from first sight, a person can just pick you out as someone he/she will not like. It's like that sometimes.

[oakfan162]

Re: Did some snooping not sure what to do....

Yeah, you're overreacting.

Two things....

1. As long as he's not in your face, giving you all kinds of trouble every day and saying **** in front of you and you guys are civil, just let it be.

2. It sucks and I know through my own deal...you could be the nicest person on the planet...some people are just not going to like you. Right from first sight, a person can just pick you out as someone he/she will not like. It's like that sometimes.

This is something I have discovered being a freshman in college. Part of the "educational experience" is learning how to live with some random other person. I would argue its equal in importance to any intro class I am taking this semester.