Dealing With Death

[Bighoff]

On Saturday night/Sunday morning my fiancee and her son died. I'm having a very hard time with it, it feels like my chest has been ripped open. A little under 2 years ago I picked up my life and moved from California to Kentucky in the hopes of making a life with her and her son. In everything I do right now I see her and I can't shake the images of our last hours at my apartment out of my head. I tried to talk her into staying at my apartment for the whole weekend but she insisted that she needed to get work done at her own place. They died of carbon monoxide poisoning and I can't help thinking that if I had made them stay with me they'd still be alive. I am hoping for some type of help in dealing with this once the funeral is over with. I'm just looking for any idea from people on how to deal with this, I've lost family and friends I was super close with but this is different I can't put my finger on it but it just feels different.

[nightcreeper]

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damn man im really sorry for you just keep your head above water and try not to drown...and remember that life goes on homie.

[PVarck31]

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I am so sorry man, I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through. All I can say is that its not your fault. I would honestly recommend grief counseling. Please try to remember the good times and not let your memories haunt you. I know she wouldn't want you to do that. If you need someone to talk to feel free to PM me. Try to stay close to the ones you love during this time. They will help you.

Once again I'm very sorry for your loss, I will pray for you. May God grant you the strength to get through this.

We are all here for you bro.

[Chaos81]

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Damn man, sorry to hear this. You're in my thoughts.


Just remember, all of us at OS are just a big family, so if you need to vent, or talk more, feel free to do it.

[SPTO]

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My sincerest condolences to you and her family as well. I know this kind of talk is frowned upon here but it's one way of dealing with it. I think one of the best ways of dealing with things like this is to sit down and pray. Sometimes you need to hash it out with your maker if you know what I mean.

Of course if you don't believe in God then well still try to come to grips with it by thinking of all the good times. Sometimes people are taken away from us for a reason. We may not know it right now but in the end it will be revealed to you.

Again i'm truly sorry for your loss my friend and I will think of you as you go through this most difficult grieving period.

[Scottdau]

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WOW! Man, that is really sad. I don't think there is any thing I can say. This is tragic. Talk to your friends and if that doesn't work. Go to a professional. One thing I will say is you never know when your time is up. And death is apart of life. Once you are born the death process takes place. Any ways you are in my prayers. I never lost a wife or kid, but when my brother die it did something to me. I can't explain, but a part of me die with him. Also, don't blame yourself. You are not to blame and that will never help to blame yourself. I guess my advice is to surround yourself with love ones.

[Herky]

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Wow man....I'm sorry for your losses. I wish I could give you advice but the best I can say is hang in there and my prayers go out to you.

Stay strong.

[auburntigersfan]

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My prayers and condolences go out to you. I don't quite know what to say, this is about the saddest thing that can happen. It is tough dealing with the death of loved ones, especially when involving a finance and a child. Maybe a spiritual presence in your life could help you grieve.
Counseling may help you deal with your grief, if you believe in a higher power you could ask for strength to help pull you through this.
Remember, throughout life everyone is faced with trials, you must find the inner strength to make it through those times.
Once again my prayers go out to you.

[Scott]

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I'm terribly sorry for your loss

[ezekiel55]

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I'm so sorry to hear that bro

Just remember thats it not your fault...dont let it eat you up...I really dont know what else to say.

You're in my thoughts

[Brandon13]

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I don't really know what to say except that I feel absolutely horrible for you. The best advice I can give is to just not bottle up your emotions. If you feel like crying, then cry.

[Village Idiot]

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Holy ****.

Um ... how to deal with it? Cry your *** off. Otherwise, I guess all we really have in situations like that are sayings like "this too shall pass" ... I mean, whatever helps. Bottom line, though, there sure as hell isn't any quick fix.

Good luck, bro. Sorry.

[bjf1377]

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First off, the best I can do is offer my condolences and you'll be on my mind for a while. The only thing I think you should do right now is mourn for as long as necessary because that's natural. However I think what someone else said is true: You may want to look into grief counseling because it will help you deal with your loss in a healthy way.

[ThreeKing]

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I'm really sorry for your loss. Prayers are going up tonight for you and your family.

[BrianFifaFan]

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My prayers are with you, man. I don't know what advice to give other than give it time and don't fight how you feel. It's natural, just let it work it's way through, and realize that the best way to honor them is to live from now on in a way they'd be proud of. And don't ever forget the good times. Cherish and dwell on those memories and not the memories of this time. God Bless You during this time and always......