so my girlfriend came over last night and said she wanted to talk. no biggie i thought maybe she just had something on her mind. boy did she. she told me that: 1. she just wants to be single for a while and 2. she feels like when she's with me she can't do all the things she wants to do (for instance, she joined a sorority this year and said she feels like if she wanted to go to the clubs i'd be mad? 
mad? no... taken back? probably. it would catch me off guard but i don't think i'd have to big of a problem with it.. i'd probably even go a time or two) anyways... this whole thing is killin me. i think a big part of the problem is that we've been dating for almost 3 years now (would be 3 in september) and i think we both sort of took it for granted. we never really went on "dates" anymore with just the two of us and i don't think we really showed each other just how much we still loved each other. i think we both talked openly about getting married one day and the type(s) of houses we'd like and blah blah blah that i think we just sort of took it all for granted. i still believe she's absolutely the one for me as we had everything in common. everything. it seemed like from the get go i could just predict if she would or wouldn't like something or what she would think in a certain situation, etc. i mean.. she didn't completely rule out a get-back-together.. she did say that her aunt and uncle started dating about the same age and took a "break" after a couple years but ended up getting back together and eventually married so it is possible and it is in the back of her mind...
reason i'm posting this is not for any sympathy (cause that won't help but will probably just make it worse if anything) but to see if anyone here has been through this? and if so did it work out? what steps did you take? i'm just afraid to call real soon because i want to give her the space she wants but i'm also afraid to stay away too far or too long because i don't want her to think i don't care. and once we get in contact what do i do? just talk on the phone the first few times and then move up to asking if she wants to go to lunch or what do you think?
any thoughts, comments or suggestions are appreciated
mad? no... taken back? probably. it would catch me off guard but i don't think i'd have to big of a problem with it.. i'd probably even go a time or two) anyways... this whole thing is killin me. i think a big part of the problem is that we've been dating for almost 3 years now (would be 3 in september) and i think we both sort of took it for granted. we never really went on "dates" anymore with just the two of us and i don't think we really showed each other just how much we still loved each other. i think we both talked openly about getting married one day and the type(s) of houses we'd like and blah blah blah that i think we just sort of took it all for granted. i still believe she's absolutely the one for me as we had everything in common. everything. it seemed like from the get go i could just predict if she would or wouldn't like something or what she would think in a certain situation, etc. i mean.. she didn't completely rule out a get-back-together.. she did say that her aunt and uncle started dating about the same age and took a "break" after a couple years but ended up getting back together and eventually married so it is possible and it is in the back of her mind...reason i'm posting this is not for any sympathy (cause that won't help but will probably just make it worse if anything) but to see if anyone here has been through this? and if so did it work out? what steps did you take? i'm just afraid to call real soon because i want to give her the space she wants but i'm also afraid to stay away too far or too long because i don't want her to think i don't care. and once we get in contact what do i do? just talk on the phone the first few times and then move up to asking if she wants to go to lunch or what do you think?
any thoughts, comments or suggestions are appreciated
Of course she will call you in 3 months at 3am............... drunk and crying because her new boyfriend is an ***. 
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