Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

[DC]

I KNOW how naturally naive females are and combine that with how manipulative men are, I don't know how I will be able to do it. That is raise a daughter that is immune to the streets.

I of course will sit her down and try to be honest with her about what she will encounter during her days, but experience will get a hold of her and ultimately shape her into who she will be.

How do you handle it? Do we really have control as parents (I am not one).

And dudes that have done females dirty in the past, do you think Karma is going to hit you with the Torture Rack and punish you for all of the times you did what you did?

[The C]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

You seem to have a lot of problems with women. Just relax

[DC]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

Don't know HOW it seems like I have PROBLEMS with women from my posts but ok. You win. I am relaxed now

[Dice]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

I have a one year old daughter and this dilemma has crossed my mind millions of times. Thanks to my wife I think I got a handle on how I'll deal with it.

Just remember, if you give her the love and respect that girls need from their fathers then she'll be ok. When a female experiences the love of her father they take that with them for the rest of their lives. When she's growing up make sure you give her the freedom to experience what she needs to experience. And make sure you reign her in when you know she's about to get into something that will damage her. Always sympathize with her feelings. I know it's not a manly thing to do but if she receives it from you then she'll definitely want a man who'll treat her the way you would want her to be treated.

And as far as her being treated, make sure you treat her like she's worth something. BUT at the same time don't give her the idea that she's the best thing the world has to offer. There is a thin line between giving her self-esteem and spoiling her. Make sure you take her places because later on in life a man is going to take her somewhere and try to impress her. But if you've taken her there already then she's going to tell that man, "I hope your not impressing me by taking me here because I've been here before with my dad."

Women are going to make mistakes on choices of men. But the ones who feel they are worth something will get out immediately. That type of mentality come from a good father.

[debonair9]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

I have a one year old daughter and this dilemma has crossed my mind millions of times. Thanks to my wife I think I got a handle on how I'll deal with it.

Just remember, if you give her the love and respect that girls need from their fathers then she'll be ok. When a female experiences the love of her father they take that with them for the rest of their lives. When she's growing up make sure you give her the freedom to experience what she needs to experience. And make sure you reign her in when you know she's about to get into something that will damage her. Always sympathize with her feelings. I know it's not a manly thing to do but if she receives it from you then she'll definitely want a man who'll treat her the way you would want her to be treated.

And as far as her being treated, make sure you treat her like she's worth something. BUT at the same time don't give her the idea that she's the best thing the world has to offer. There is a thin line between giving her self-esteem and spoiling her. Make sure you take her places because later on in life a man is going to take her somewhere and try to impress her. But if you've taken her there already then she's going to tell that man, "I hope your not impressing me by taking me here because I've been here before with my dad."

Women are going to make mistakes on choices of men. But the ones who feel they are worth something will get out immediately. That type of mentality come from a good father.

You are right on track with that. I have a 9 month old daughter and have basically been told the same thing by my wife and others. Fathers are a big part of their daughters lives and the more you show them how they should be treated by another man, the less likely they are to stray away from that. Self esteem is everything.

[slickdtc]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

I don't have kids and am not married yet, but they are in my future plans with my girlfriend. We've discussed raising a girl as opposed to raising a boy. I think it'll be easier to raise a boy, but that could also be because I am a man and therefore know a little bit about being a guy.

But my take on having a daughter is that you give them everything they need, but it's up to them to make their own decisions. It's kind of how I deal with people in general. You can't control them, so help as much as you can and then let them live their own lives. It may hurt, but there's nothing you can do to change a person; they have to make their own decisions and live their own lives.

[Dice]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

I don't have kids and am not married yet, but they are in my future plans with my girlfriend. We've discussed raising a girl as opposed to raising a boy. I think it'll be easier to raise a boy, but that could also be because I am a man and therefore know a little bit about being a guy.

But my take on having a daughter is that you give them everything they need, but it's up to them to make their own decisions. It's kind of how I deal with people in general. You can't control them, so help as much as you can and then let them live their own lives. It may hurt, but there's nothing you can do to change a person; they have to make their own decisions and live their own lives.

This is true. Everyone has to live their own lives. But we can equip them with the knowledge of self awareness and how to deal with issues that could possibly come up in their lives. We can't live our children lives but we can make them better thinkers and decision makers.

[daflyboys]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

Don't know HOW it seems like I have PROBLEMS with women from my posts but ok. You win. I am relaxed now

Ya, I didn't get that interpretation at all.

Maybe this will help. Rule Four is by far the best (yes, I've posted this before):


Rule One:
If you pull into my driveway and honk you'd better be delivering a package, because you're sure not picking anything up.

Rule Two:
You do not touch my daughter in front of me. You may glance at her, so long as you do not peer at anything below her neck. If you cannot keep your eyes or hands off of my daughter's body, I will remove them.

Rule Three:
I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys of your age to wear their trousers so loosely that they appear to be falling off their hips. Please don't take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots. Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose his compromise: You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object. However, in order to ensure that your clothes do not, in fact, come off during the course of your date with my daughter, I will take my electric nail gun and fasten your trousers securely in place to your waist.

Rule Four:
I'm sure you've been told that in today's world, sex without utilizing a "barrier method" of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate, when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I will kill you.

Rule Five:
It is usually understood that in order for us to get to know each other, we should talk about sports, politics, and other issues of the day. Please do not do this. The only information I require from you is an indication of when you expect to have my daughter safely back at my house, and the only word I need from you on this subject is "early."

Rule Six:
I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry.

Rule Seven:
As you stand in my front hallway, waiting for my daughter to appear, and more than an hour goes by, do not sigh and fidget. If you want to be on time for the movie, you should not be dating. My daughter is putting on her makeup, a process that can take longer than painting the Golden Gate Bridge. Instead of just standing there, why don't you do something useful, like changing the oil in my car?

Rule Eight:
The following places are not appropriate for a date with my daughter: Places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool. Places where there are no parents, policemen, or nuns within eyesight. Places where there is darkness. Places where there is dancing, holding hands, or happiness. Places where the ambient temperature is warm enough to induce my daughter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff T-shirts, or anything other than overalls, a sweater, and a goose down parka - zipped up to her throat. Movies with a strong romantic or sexual theme are to be avoided; movies which features chain saws are okay. Hockey games are okay. Old folks homes are better.

Rule Nine:
Do not lie to me. I may appear to be a potbellied, balding, middle-aged, dimwitted has-been. But on issues relating to my daughter, I am the all-knowing, merciless god of your universe. If I ask you where you are going and with whom, you have one chance to tell me the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I have a shotgun, a shovel, and five acres behind the house. Do not trifle with me.

Rule Ten:
Be afraid. Be very afraid. It takes very little for me to mistake the sound of your car in the driveway for a chopper coming in over a rice paddy near Hanoi. When my Agent Orange starts acting up, the voices in my head frequently tell me to clean the guns as I wait for you to bring my daughter home. As soon as you pull into the driveway you should exit your car with both hands in plain sight. Speak the perimeter password, announce in a clear voice that you have brought my daughter home safely and early, then return to your car - there is no need for you to come inside. The camouflaged face at the window is mine.

[Stumbleweed]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

I KNOW how naturally naive females are and combine that with how manipulative men are

............
Yeah.

Way to paint with a broad brush man... this is why people always say that you seem to have a problem with women. It's not so much that you have a problem (as in "I hate women") but you make them seem to be children or some different species of human that is either incapable or unwilling to exist on the same plane as men. I fully acknowledge that men and women have differences, but it's not as simple as "women are naturally naive"... people are naturally naive until the world crushes them and puts them on the defensive about everything... that's not a gender thing.

This all goes back to the patriarchal mindset of preserving purity of girls, etc. that simply doesn't apply to boys... why shouldn't a father be worrying about his son dipping into every piece of drunken diseased poontang he can find in the 10th grade? It's a stupid double standard... Raising a good kid with a good head on their shoulders is the primary concern, not "protecting your daughter from boys"... that will take care of itself if you do your job as a parent. Any maybe it won't, who can tell? But that's not a gender thing, some people are ****-ups and you can't do much about it despite your best efforts.

[DC]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

Of course ALL women aren't naive man, but we both know women allow men to do things to them that literally make no sense. It is part of nature man. Women (for the most part) ARE naturally naive. Yes people ARE naive, but men are the hunters and women are the prey. FOR THE MOST PART. Women fall for BS a LARGE % of the time. I don't think I am saying anything wrong. Just think of the things you and/or your friends have pulled on chicks in the past. You NEVER thought to yourself, "Damn how the hell did I/we pull that one off. That was WAY too easy."

Oh and father SHOULD be worried about his son dipping his penis into any and every vagina running around the world. That is JUST as important. But men seem to typically be MORE worried about the sexual well being/safety of their little girls, which is why I brought this issue up

[The C]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

Don't know HOW it seems like I have PROBLEMS with women from my posts but ok. You win. I am relaxed now

I don't really pay super attention to OS topics but Men and Woman relations have been a lot of your topics in the OS Neighborhood.

Especially when dealing with outside perceptions of that relationship.

IE the following topics, all made by you.


Do You Talk To Your Significant Other About Operation Sports?

Have/Would You Use Coupons On a Date?

Realtalk Would you wife/smash someone the names as ur mom or sister?

OS Parents: Preventing Your Daughter From Being A World Class Slut? (Near repeat of this one)

Parenting Question: Sexuality (Dealing with perception of homosexuality)

Do You DUDES Carry Umbrellas When It Rains Outside? (Gender role)

Arguing With Your Woman In Public (you even make a comment about someone calling you out for being disrespectful to women in early topics)

The Art Of Maniless (again you make a comment about it being one of "these" threads)

Desperate Dudes: Got Damn Shame Man (Coincidentally, you say a girl is being naive here again)

Parental Question: Let's Try and Keep This 100% Mature Please (This is basically about is a man less of a man if he has a gay son)

Better Track Record: Nick Cannon or Derek Jeter?

Do You Believe In Putting Your Relationship Status Up On Facebook and/or MySpace? (this one is tenuous at best)

When You Are Out With Your Woman (basically asking how someone responds to a Sig Other saying another woman is attractive)

So 13 topics and I think you also did the one about is it emasculating to hold your wife's purse, but I couldn't find it with a simple search.

1 or 2 is a coincidence but 10?

[The C]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

And before anyone does this to me, yes I know I pretty much only post athlete pregnancy or breaking the law stories.

But I find those hilarious

[Pappy Knuckles]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

**** a gun, all you need is ninja stars and a bo staff.

[ProfessaPackMan]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

Ya, I didn't get that interpretation at all.

Maybe this will help. Rule Four is by far the best (yes, I've posted this before):


Rule One:
If you pull into my driveway and honk you'd better be delivering a package, because you're sure not picking anything up.

Rule Two:
You do not touch my daughter in front of me. You may glance at her, so long as you do not peer at anything below her neck. If you cannot keep your eyes or hands off of my daughter's body, I will remove them.

Rule Three:
I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys of your age to wear their trousers so loosely that they appear to be falling off their hips. Please don't take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots. Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose his compromise: You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object. However, in order to ensure that your clothes do not, in fact, come off during the course of your date with my daughter, I will take my electric nail gun and fasten your trousers securely in place to your waist.

Rule Four:
I'm sure you've been told that in today's world, sex without utilizing a "barrier method" of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate, when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I will kill you.

Rule Five:
It is usually understood that in order for us to get to know each other, we should talk about sports, politics, and other issues of the day. Please do not do this. The only information I require from you is an indication of when you expect to have my daughter safely back at my house, and the only word I need from you on this subject is "early."

Rule Six:
I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry.

Rule Seven:
As you stand in my front hallway, waiting for my daughter to appear, and more than an hour goes by, do not sigh and fidget. If you want to be on time for the movie, you should not be dating. My daughter is putting on her makeup, a process that can take longer than painting the Golden Gate Bridge. Instead of just standing there, why don't you do something useful, like changing the oil in my car?

Rule Eight:
The following places are not appropriate for a date with my daughter: Places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool. Places where there are no parents, policemen, or nuns within eyesight. Places where there is darkness. Places where there is dancing, holding hands, or happiness. Places where the ambient temperature is warm enough to induce my daughter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff T-shirts, or anything other than overalls, a sweater, and a goose down parka - zipped up to her throat. Movies with a strong romantic or sexual theme are to be avoided; movies which features chain saws are okay. Hockey games are okay. Old folks homes are better.

Rule Nine:
Do not lie to me. I may appear to be a potbellied, balding, middle-aged, dimwitted has-been. But on issues relating to my daughter, I am the all-knowing, merciless god of your universe. If I ask you where you are going and with whom, you have one chance to tell me the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I have a shotgun, a shovel, and five acres behind the house. Do not trifle with me.

Rule Ten:
Be afraid. Be very afraid. It takes very little for me to mistake the sound of your car in the driveway for a chopper coming in over a rice paddy near Hanoi. When my Agent Orange starts acting up, the voices in my head frequently tell me to clean the guns as I wait for you to bring my daughter home. As soon as you pull into the driveway you should exit your car with both hands in plain sight. Speak the perimeter password, announce in a clear voice that you have brought my daughter home safely and early, then return to your car - there is no need for you to come inside. The camouflaged face at the window is mine.

I just pictured in my head Liam Neelson in "Taken" saying these exact lines word for word and started cracking up out loud LOL

Of course ALL women aren't naive man, but we both know women allow men to do things to them that literally make no sense. It is part of nature man. Women (for the most part) ARE naturally naive. Yes people ARE naive, but men are the hunters and women are the prey. FOR THE MOST PART. Women fall for BS a LARGE % of the time. I don't think I am saying anything wrong. Just think of the things you and/or your friends have pulled on chicks in the past. You NEVER thought to yourself, "Damn how the hell did I/we pull that one off. That was WAY too easy."

Oh and father SHOULD be worried about his son dipping his penis into any and every vagina running around the world. That is JUST as important. But men seem to typically be MORE worried about the sexual well being/safety of their little girls, which is why I brought this issue up

VERY true.

[DC]

Re: Dude With/Planning On Having Daughters; Have You Purchased Your Gun Yet?

The C, Again NONE of those posts say that I am having WOMEN problems LOL. Maybe you can say I am always asking gender behavioral questions, but to say I am having women problems would be head scratching. I KNOW I bring up many gender relation questions. I could see if I made posts like (no disrespect) - http://www.operationsports.com/forum...cceptance.html

@ The Nick Cannon/DJ post. Come on what does that have to do with ANYTHING