So Yeah This Just Became Totally Awkward.

[jct32]

I'm not going to sit here and type out the full details of this story because well it would take multiple hours so here is going to be the Cliffnotes version.

I have liked this girl for awhile (we'll call her S) she likes me back. We spent pretty much the whole summer together, but we never really dated. I really care for S and don't want to hurt her so I decided not to date her because I'm heading off the the Navy and she is off to college. I'm kinda carrying some hurt still because like I said I really care for S and I already miss her. Thing is, I went and had a conversation with one my friends today (who is probably one of her closest friends, we'll call her J) and we have this conversation for about two hours about my whole summer and just everything with S like about all my feelings and such. Well it was a great conversation. I get home and find that J had updated her Facebook status and it basically went along the lines of "So have you ever had a conversation with a person and they are telling you about someone and you think 'I've felt the same way... about you'"

I don't really know what to do now. I don't have feelings like that towards J. She is one of my last good friends that is left in town since everyone is gone, but I have a feeling that just being around her will be awkward, but I really can't avoid being around her.

So like I said I don't know what to do. I figured I should ask the brilliant minds at OS. What kind of advice would you give in this situation.

[jct32]

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Sorry can't edit on my phone.

But also I feel kinda bad for having to put her through that conversation. I mean if I had to listen to S talk about some boy the way I talked about her tonight then it would have hurt me pretty bad.

[Cebby]

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I don't mean to be a dick, but here goes:

You're talking to high school girls. By this time next year, they'll have each met 5-10 guys who will pretend to love them as much as they think you do.

If you remain friends, you'll be laughing about this with 'J' and 'S' in two years.

All of you will be fine. You'll beat up on some exotic strange (and some local hoes), and they'll both enjoy the frat party game of "hide the pickle."

Everyone here has known a J or an S. Then 2-3 years later there's an A through I and it's a "got dayme, you remember J from high school?" situation.

You'll be enlisting in the Armed Forces. You'll be beating away the girls with a stick. If you're going to the Naval Academy then this is even more of a silly question.

[Jet Sufferer]

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Good God Man! Listen Grasshopper, you're not married, go lay the wood with relish, LIVE, stop analyzing your feelings, leave that to women. Embrace your inner caveman and go give that girl what she's asking for. It's really that simple. Repeat as often as possible.

[Cusefan]

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When you join the navy you are going to slay lots of girls, no sense in getting caught up with these girls unless you plan on marrying them which I do not advise

[J0nnD0ugh]

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I'm not a proponent of promiscuous sex, but the basic premise of what the above posters said is true. Not trying to be nasty @ you, but understand that you ain't all that, as it were. Women transfer the opposite sex into the friend zone much better than men. They have a harder time turning the friend into the lover. She'll get over you. Just do your best to pretend nothing happen, & it eventually, things will be normal.

For future reference, would you listen to some chick go on & on about another guy? The only reason you would is because you have the hots for her. Same for dames. If she was listening to you ramble on about some other female, it should have been obvious she was feenin' for you.

[J.R. Locke]

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What do you want?

Seems like you have a plan in life and J and S are going to be distant members of that plan and future.

But the question is what do you want?

In my opinion there is nothing worse in life than doing things you have no interest in doing. But sometimes I have done things just to say I did.

Good luck.

[bad_philanthropy]

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I don't mean to be a dick, but here goes:

You're talking to high school girls. By this time next year, they'll have each met 5-10 guys who will pretend to love them as much as they think you do.

If you remain friends, you'll be laughing about this with 'J' and 'S' in two years.

All of you will be fine. You'll beat up on some exotic strange (and some local hoes), and they'll both enjoy the frat party game of "hide the pickle."

Everyone here has known a J or an S. Then 2-3 years later there's an A through I and it's a "got dayme, you remember J from high school?" situation.

You'll be enlisting in the Armed Forces. You'll be beating away the girls with a stick. If you're going to the Naval Academy then this is even more of a silly question.

It's become such a clichéd internet meme but...


...this

[deaduck]

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The fact that you didn't just pull a summer romance with S for kicks shows maturity but even after remove all the macho nonsense folks are slinging about crushing hundreds of more girls down the line the basic fact is sound...

You're overthinking this and life moves on.

[slickdtc]

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Facebook statuses are the downfall of humanity.

I don't really see the problem here. You're going into the Navy so you wouldn't be able to pursue a relationship at this point with S, let alone J. And plus, if you don't like somebody "like that" then you just don't. There's no shame in that, I wouldn't ever feel bad about it.

But like deaduck said, it does show incredible maturity to resist the urges to pursue a relationship when you knew you'd be gone for a while and things likely wouldn't have worked out in that time. But hey, if it's meant to be, it'll be. I believe that.

[ubernoob]

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The Navy? They don't have to beat women away.

They're too busy beating men th... Oh, forget it

Long-Distance is fun, hahaha.

[fishepa]

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Facebook statuses are the downfall of humanity.

Totally agree.

[mgoblue]

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It can still work. I had a crush on a friend in college, and there ended up being a awkward drunk moment where it all came out and I knew she wasn't interested in me like that...

Yeah, sucked then, but we somehow just stayed friends, got past that, and now she's actually my best friend. I realize now that I could never date her, we're too different, but we're very similar at the same time. Works great for friends, just not a relationship.

It can be tough getting past the awkward, plus you don't know if she can leave the feelings behind.

[sportsdude]

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smash both at the same time, then everybody's happy.