Advice about a theif

[Heelfan71]

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can't you just call the cops?

[Phobia]

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Sucks all around, certainly not someone to trust with $$ in the future.

I think I would tell him to cut my grass 3 more times to make up for it. Isthat something he go for?

I don't want the guy near my house again. I see him near my house he is going to jail. He is still ducking me and will continue. I have already informed my entire family. His mom(my aunt), his dad(uncle), My mom, my dad, my grand ma, my Paw, and on.

This will hopefully make him think twice about screwing over family. Now everyone will look at him and treat him for what he is....A THIEF!!

He will never be welcome around me again. I can only restrain myself for so long. So he just better keep his distance for years. I have a ZERO tolerance for dishonesty.

His best bet is just to keep ducking me. But lord help him he runs into me. If he does he just better run.

[mKoz26]

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But what if someone saw him reaching into his pocket...and putting something in the bin?

That'd be unlikely, considering all of the expensive tools and supplies in the shed that weren't taken (as Phobia said).

[Phobia]

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Phobia;

Maybe and most likely...the kid is lying to you.
But what if someone saw him reaching into his pocket...and putting something in the bin?
Then you're ruining your family relationship over 70 bucks......SEVENTY.
Give the kid the free-O and consider it a 100 dollar mow.
He could probably use the break.
Him knowing that you know what happened....I don't think it will ever come up again.

Put it to him this way.
Because he is family...you're giving him the benefit of doubt.....if it was anyone else...you would have already thrown down......shake his hand and let it go.

M.K.
Knight165

Well I would of if it was out in the open. It was a bin INSIDE my shed, behind some other crap, underneath some other stuff, hidden under some books INSIDE the bin, with stuff ON TOP the bin. I seriously seriously think someone would go in my shed, know to move everything out the way to get in the bin, know to look under the books, then put it all back nice and neat.

[Phobia]

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can't you just call the cops?

I am trying to make that a last option. But I have thought about it heel.

[CreatineKasey]

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I didn't read all the posts, but here's my quick opinion:

I don't care if he has problems that much, it is a moral issue. Theft isn't okay because some bad events happened to him. I'd confront him on the issue face to face. If he continues to lie, I'd just reason with him and make him stumble over his own lying words.

As far as beating the snot out of him, I don't think it's worth 70 dollars to beat down a handicapped person. I'd probably just verbally shred him and make him feel like a worthless thief. That pain would sting him deeper than any money could repay.

It may not be kind, but at least give him some repercussions for his actions. Can't let behavior like that go. It isn't like he's mentally handicapped, he knows what he did is wrong. Just verbally shred him. Maybe do it again in a couple of weeks.

[Heelfan71]

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I am trying to make that a last option. But I have thought about it heel.

tell him you are going to call the cops if he doesn't return it. Probably doesn't have it now though....

[duke776]

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Another thing you need to think about is, if he really needs money and is desperate enough to steal from you. He may press charges and sue you if you lay a hand on him. Dont let him bait you into hitting or threatening him. JUST LET IT GO.

This is something to really think about here, you can always intimidate him if you see him but I don't think kicking his *** would do you much good in the end.

[Pappy Knuckles]

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No need to involve the pigs. If you can't keep yourself from laying a hand on dude, just catch him with a swift backhand or something lol.

[Phobia]

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No need to involve the pigs. If you can't keep yourself from laying a hand on dude, just catch him with a swift backhand or something lol.

LMAO that is some funny ish.

I keep going in spurts about this. One min I am fine with letting it go. The next I am ready to beat him just on the moral grounds. I think the thing that is really making it hard not to put him down is the fact he is ducking me. Be a man and take responsibility for your actions. I can't stand a coward. You can't even man up and take a verbal beat down, that is some coward stuff there.

Everyone knows I don't play with this kind of behavior. If i just saw this happen to a friend of mine I would gladly beat the dude down just for the behavior. Now my own cousin going to do it to me and then try and play me like a fool. He is ducking cause he knows how I am. That wreck is going to save him this time. But I better not catch him anywhere around me. I won't be able to stop myself.

Then he has the nerve to text me "I should of never done this". So I texted. "Its already been done, so now you better fix it". Then more lies follow and he starts ducking me.

I think he spent the money on drugs and is all strung out. I don't expect to get the money back. But I will try and use fear to my advantage and scare him into giving it to me. Will it work???? I doubt it, he has no money. He blows it faster than he can make it. Like I said he blew 30,000 in like 3 months.

Granted I thought that is some crazy crap and extremely irresponsible. I never dreamed he would go to the extreme of stealing from me. There will be no second time that is for sure.

[RAZRr1275]

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If it were me he wouldn't be getting the money in the first place if there were rumors before that happened. And I definatly would use the cops threat.

[Brankles]

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Sucks to have family do you dirty like that, but try and step back and look at the big picture. Just thought I'd throw in a non-violent third person perspective based on what I've read.

I heard an interesting point of view on this, I think it was in the movie "Once Upon A Time In America."

Basically Robert De Niro let a neighborhood guy borrow 10 or 15 bucks from him. The guy kept ducking him every time they came across each other, he wouldn't give him his money. Finally, De Niro snapped and started charging the dude. De Niro was with one of the mob bosses, who held him back and told him to lay off.

He explained to De Niro that the 15 bucks he lost to the guy was basically payment to learn that the guy was no longer trustworthy and it was worth every penny.

Now the next time your cousin comes to you looking for money or favors, you know exactly what to expect from him. He's still family, so you probably don't want to cut him out of your life forever, but you know where to draw the line.

Your family member took you for some cash. 70 bucks in the long run is really not that much money and this person is not in a position to keep taking money from you (not an employee and doesn't live with you). The beating you would give him, even the verbal lashing you would give him probably wouldn't do much good. Calling the police is an even worse idea, as it would be messy and you probably couldn't prove a single thing.

Just let him know that you know he took your money. Be cool about it. Let him know things are different now and this has changed his standing with you. Clearly the kid is going through a rough time, so if you have any support to offer that isn't a material item or money, you should still be there for him. Nothing is worse in life than being taken advantage of, but this seems to be a case where you just have to cut your losses, learn from it and move on.

[Phobia]

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Sucks to have family do you dirty like that, but try and step back and look at the big picture. Just thought I'd throw in a non-violent third person perspective based on what I've read.

I heard an interesting point of view on this, I think it was in the movie "Once Upon A Time In America."

Basically Robert De Niro let a neighborhood guy borrow 10 or 15 bucks from him. The guy kept ducking him every time they came across each other, he wouldn't give him his money. Finally, De Niro snapped and started charging the dude. De Niro was with one of the mob bosses, who held him back and told him to lay off.

He explained to De Niro that the 15 bucks he lost to the guy was basically payment to learn that the guy was no longer trustworthy and it was worth every penny.

Now the next time your cousin comes to you looking for money or favors, you know exactly what to expect from him. He's still family, so you probably don't want to cut him out of your life forever, but you know where to draw the line.

Your family member took you for some cash. 70 bucks in the long run is really not that much money and this person is not in a position to keep taking money from you (not an employee and doesn't live with you). The beating you would give him, even the verbal lashing you would give him probably wouldn't do much good. Calling the police is an even worse idea, as it would be messy and you probably couldn't prove a single thing.

Just let him know that you know he took your money. Be cool about it. Let him know things are different now and this has changed his standing with you. Clearly the kid is going through a rough time, so if you have any support to offer that isn't a material item or money, you should still be there for him. Nothing is worse in life than being taken advantage of, but this seems to be a case where you just have to cut your losses, learn from it and move on.

Nice take on it Brankles. This actually helped. I like the point of view with De Niro.

But the point of not cutting him out my life. Nawwwww thats been done. I don't want those kinds of people in my life. That is unhealthy and I won't condone it in the least to even have him think he can call me or remotely contact me in any way shape or form.

But like you said. It was a 70 dollar investment to learn the trust of said individual.

[Phobia]

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Well I am done. I sent my last text to him.

"Since you continue to duck me. I am going to let this go. But don't call me, don't try and contact me. I am done. You ruined a family relationship over 70 bucks. One day you gonna realize friends are hard to come by. U don't treat friends like this much less family. I trusted you and you ****** me. Good luck"

[Brankles]

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Well I am done. I sent my last text to him.

"Since you continue to duck me. I am going to let this go. But don't call me, don't try and contact me. I am done. You ruined a family relationship over 70 bucks. One day you gonna realize friends are hard to come by. U don't treat friends like this much less family. I trusted you and you ****** me. Good luck"

Hopefully one day you'll all be able to reconcile, but it seems like you did the right thing here for you and him both.