Mom want to move in with me and my roommates.

[jonpt]

Re: Mom want to move in with me and my roommates.s.

Very much a personal decision imo. Only you can answer this. I know in my case I would do it but then obviously I have a different mother.

[Greatlookinhair]

Re: Mom want to move in with me and my roommates.s.

Ok I really hate how this site automatically logs you out after a certain period of time. I just lost everything I typed. I'm gonna try to make this simple and give you crisper view on the situation.

I move out and go to college. Months later my mom signs me up on credit card.(Yes she forged my signature and I don't know anything about it at this time) Right around this time I meet amber. Summer break comes by and I want to go home have my mom meet new gf. For some reason my mom fights with me not about gf but about not seeing her enough. She tells me not to come home and tells me to go **** off. Things were rough between me and my mom for some time but then it cooled off. Christmas break come up and mom pulls this **** again. So now I'm stuck with nowhere else to go for Christmas. So I go home with my gf for christmas to meet her family. I still sent my mom and my brother a gift and card while I got nothing. No christmas card no birthday card. Later she finds out about where I went for Christmas break and says I'm picking my gf over my family but what's really going is that my mom is pushing me away. Anyways...mom has stroke loses job and then gets new job then loses it again, harasses me and my gf calling us both up. This **** goes on for another year. Fast forward. I get a call from from Capital one saying that I owe 800$. They told me where the card was signed and that’s how I found out it was my mom *note I wired her 100$ to help her out even while she being a total bitch to me and my gf so it wasn't like I never tried to help her out. Well now my credit is ****ed up and it's harder then ever for me to get approved for school loans. Now I want this off my name. And now I’m thinking about pressing charges but it’s my mom and I can’t do that. So I told her that I was gonna report her try to get this off my name but I was not gonna press charges. She throws fit and says she loves me and that she wants move in with me because she wants to help pay off the debt. Sounds like a good plan? Or is she gonna try reck a good thing between me and my girl. This is really tough decision.

[Bornindamecca]

Re: Mom want to move in with me and my roommates.s.

Give her a bus ticket to the nearest family she has house. Because I am telling you now, if she moves in, she will just poison your relationship that you and your GF has. Which in turn might cause your GF to leave you.

Agreed. It's a parent's obligation to take care of the child. Not a favor. Not a solid. That is the job of the parent. It's kind of the definition of parent.

Children do not have to take care of their parents, particularly when they are under the age of 65. If you sacrifice your early adult years for her, you may never recover. Lend her money and give her advice, but do not...DO NOT let her move in. You will be miserable. Besides everything else, most people are uncomfortable with the reversed dynamic of having their children take care of them.

You gotta get your own life going and build yourself up before you can start helping other people.

[mgoblue]

Re: Mom want to move in with me and my roommates.s.

Ok I really hate how this site automatically logs you out after a certain period of time. I just lost everything I typed. I'm gonna try to make this simple and give you crisper view on the situation.

I move out and go to college. Months later my mom signs me up on credit card.(Yes she forged my signature and I don't know anything about it at this time) Right around this time I meet amber. Summer break comes by and I want to go home have my mom meet new gf. For some reason my mom fights with me not about gf but about not seeing her enough. She tells me not to come home and tells me to go **** off. Things were rough between me and my mom for some time but then it cooled off. Christmas break come up and mom pulls this **** again. So now I'm stuck with nowhere else to go for Christmas. So I go home with my gf for christmas to meet her family. I still sent my mom and my brother a gift and card while I got nothing. No christmas card no birthday card. Later she finds out about where I went for Christmas break and says I'm picking my gf over my family but what's really going is that my mom is pushing me away. Anyways...mom has stroke loses job and then gets new job then loses it again, harasses me and my gf calling us both up. This **** goes on for another year. Fast forward. I get a call from from Capital one saying that I owe 800$. They told me where the card was signed and that’s how I found out it was my mom *note I wired her 100$ to help her out even while she being a total bitch to me and my gf so it wasn't like I never tried to help her out. Well now my credit is ****ed up and it's harder then ever for me to get approved for school loans. Now I want this off my name. And now I’m thinking about pressing charges but it’s my mom and I can’t do that. So I told her that I was gonna report her try to get this off my name but I was not gonna press charges. She throws fit and says she loves me and that she wants move in with me because she wants to help pay off the debt. Sounds like a good plan? Or is she gonna try reck a good thing between me and my girl. This is really tough decision.

Wow, if your mom's f-ing with you that much I'd have to lean towards not doing this...I can't see it ending up well, you'll just get used by your mom for 9 months and probably break you and your girlfriend up

[Happy29]

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You only have one mom and when she's gone you'll realize how precious the time together is. You can never patch up those petty diffrences or get the time back once it's passed.

[Stumbleweed]

Re: Mom want to move in with me and my roommates.s.

You only have one mom and when she's gone you'll realize how precious the time together is. You can never patch up those petty diffrences or get the time back once it's passed.

Hmm, sounds like his mom is the person who needs to realize this, not him.

And yeah, I would lean towards not doing it after reading that explanatory post.

[judgejudy]

Re: Mom want to move in with me and my roommates.s.

You only have one mom and when she's gone you'll realize how precious the time together is. You can never patch up those petty diffrences or get the time back once it's passed.

she forged his information and ruined his credit, along with constantly ****ing him over when it matters most. I'd say that's definitely not petty.

[Matt Diesel]

Re: Mom want to move in with me and my roommates.s.

Your mom stole from you dude.

You have a 3 year old brother to worry about and that kinda complicates things. Are you worried about his welfare?

Additionally , you can just let your mom move in without your roommates consent. What about your landlord? Many leases forbid anyone not in the signed lease to live in the residence. You could jeopardize getting you and all your roommates evicted .

You can help your mother without having her move into your home.

[Stumbleweed]

Re: Mom want to move in with me and my roommates.s.

You have a 3 year old brother to worry about and that kinda complicates things. Are you worried about his welfare?

Additionally , you can just let your mom move in without your roommates consent. What about your landlord? Many leases forbid anyone not in the signed lease to live in the residence. You could jeopardize getting you and all your roommates evicted .

You can help your mother without having her move into your home.

Both very legit concerns, and I agree with the last point as well. Try to help in whatever way you can, but it really seems like a bad idea to allow her to move in with you, even if it is otherwise allowable.

[Watson]

Re: Mom want to move in with me and my roommates.s.

No go. Odds are if you let her in, she's going to stick.

[Greatlookinhair]

Re: Mom want to move in with me and my roommates.s.

I'm afraid of that. I care too much for her. What a great mom she's been raising me but ever since I turned 18 she went whacko. Maybe I'm just old enough now to realize how she really is. But yeah she has no one to turn to. She has literally disconnected herself from everyone else. Even her own mom disowned her and I only know my mom's side of the story of that.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

Re: Mom want to move in with me and my roommates.s.

If she's got nowhere else to go, you gotta man up and help your mom (and little brother), IMHO. You wouldn't be where you are today if it wasn't for her your first 18 years. What she did to your credit is messed up, but is that enough reason to wipe out everything else she's done for you?

Definitely a tough situation. Pray/meditate over before you make a decision. Be sure to discuss the possibilites with all parties involved.

[Greatlookinhair]

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^ I don't trust her. She is psycho. Im leaning torwards telling her to grow up and take care of her own damn self. I gotta worry about me and amber. I plan on marrying this girl and she has been with me through out all of this and has put up with all this drama. Living with her for two years and I trust her more then I trust my mother.

[p_rushing]

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Keep the situation as civil as possible. Try to help her out, but I don't know about her moving in. Talk it over with your girlfriend, if you want to marry her, she needs to be okay with whatever you do. I would do whatever you can, but keep a written copy of everything. The reason is because after you graduate and are settled, I would file for custody of your brother. She could mess him up for life. I've seen this from the outside where 1 of the 2 younger kids was screwed up because his mother was crazy.

[Gotmadskillzson]

Re: Mom want to move in with me and my roommates.s.

Like other people said, you got to LIVE your OWN life now. Blood or no blood, people will drag you down and hold you back if you allow them to throw that guilt trip on you.

To me she sounds like a leech and a person who is highly not to be trusted. Because if you burnt bridges to the point that nobody you know wants to be bothered with you, that is a sign right there that your mom has a long history of doing people wrong.

Take her butt to a woman's shelter for she can get some counsenling. Live your own life. Bad credit is no joke nowadays and can set you back for YEARS.

Can prevent you from getting a job in some places for some positions, car loan, house loan, school loan. Hell you know when you try to buy a house they go back 10 years into your credit history.