In your relationship who usually starts arguement and who usually apologizes first?

[elgreazy1]

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One thing that has really helped me as I've grown older is to put my ego aside. Back in the day I was very prideful and stubborn and so was my fiance. As we matured we learned that things aren't always one way and that there is always 2 sides to it all. It sounds so cliche but honestly putting ego, pride, etc aside and attacking issues from a common ground works wonders. Yes, when people say what they really mean, express themselves truthfully & without intent to harm others you can really solve a lot of problems.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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If it's somebody you see a real future with, you put up with some stuff within reason. We all have "quirks" that push the other person's buttons. I've learned that a happy gf is a horny gf.

[Watson]

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If i think the argument is completely stupid, i have no problem saying sorry and ending it.

But if she, i don't know, lies about getting wasted at a party and brings another guy home, i'm not backing down, even though my name and reputation (which I only have to care about for a year and half) is going to take a hit, because here word spreads at the speed of sound.

Hell hath no fury of that of a women scorned.

[frostbyte06]

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My girl says I lack passion cause I wont have a pointless fight with her.

I hate that one.

My wife's phrase for me is..."You're so nonchalant about it".

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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My wife's phrase for me is..."You're so nonchalant about it".

Yup. Arguing just shows you care. It should be a twisted Hallmark card.

[DickDalewood]

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In a relationship, you can choose to be right, or be happy.

I choose happy, lol.

[sbmnky]

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In a relationship, you can choose to be right, or be happy.

I choose happy, lol.

Great remark.

Relationships are tricky things - especially with the media telling us what makes a "man" and a "woman." I very rarely argue with my girlfriend (which was not the case in past relationships) because we work hard on communication. I know to some that sounds un-manly, but I think it's essential to any healthy relationship. Sure, we get disappointed or hurt, but we're able to talk through our issues and when we use different perspectives to understand our partners point of view, it makes all more rounded individuals. Being a more complete individual means you can have a stronger relationship with someone.

I think the machismo perspective is about control or lack of control. We all want to feel WE (the individual) are in control, especially over our partner, when in reality we can only control our own actions. In my experience arguments stem from a different origin than the what the argument originally started as. Sometimes we feel more comfortable dealing with drama in our lives, so we instigate things so we feel we're a part of something. I've lived this life before and I hated it - so I make a conscious effort to communicate my feelings to my girlfriend (and she reciprocates) to avoid conflict. This, as stated above, does not mean we are perfect without problems. It means we understand relationships are not easy and require work before we end up killing each other.

[Hova57]

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Great remark.

Relationships are tricky things - especially with the media telling us what makes a "man" and a "woman." I very rarely argue with my girlfriend (which was not the case in past relationships) because we work hard on communication. I know to some that sounds un-manly, but I think it's essential to any healthy relationship. Sure, we get disappointed or hurt, but we're able to talk through our issues and when we use different perspectives to understand our partners point of view, it makes all more rounded individuals. Being a more complete individual means you can have a stronger relationship with someone.

I think the machismo perspective is about control or lack of control. We all want to feel WE (the individual) are in control, especially over our partner, when in reality we can only control our own actions. In my experience arguments stem from a different origin than the what the argument originally started as. Sometimes we feel more comfortable dealing with drama in our lives, so we instigate things so we feel we're a part of something. I've lived this life before and I hated it - so I make a conscious effort to communicate my feelings to my girlfriend (and she reciprocates) to avoid conflict. This, as stated above, does not mean we are perfect without problems. It means we understand relationships are not easy and require work before we end up killing each other.

while this is true, every once in a while don't you just want to shake some sense into them

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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while this is true, every once in a while don't you just want to shake some sense into them

now, i'm not saying what he did was right..................but i understand.