How to Give Up a Girl You Can't Have...?

[FunkDockta27]

Dudes, help me out. I met this girl a week ago, and now I can't effing shake her out my head. Gave her my # the 3rd day we were talking...We ARE just friends, promise I'm not bs'ing you guys. Being totally honest...day after I gave her my # found out shes unhappily married tho...now I'm 31 and divorced for 5 yrs, and all my years I have never had a girl get in my head in such a way. I wanna be with her (not in a only sexual way...just to be clear). She is by far the coolest girl I have ever met. But I don't wanna be the reason she ultimately leaves her hubby. That's not a good scenario for it to work...yet on the other hand do I want her to leave him and run to me? Yeah, it's totally a battle between good vs evil in my brain. And tho I know its BAD to hope she dumps the hubby, I can't get her out my head....I need some help from my brothers here at OS...my man D gave me 2 options, says sit and dwell on it, stat quo....or tell her how I feel and see what she says...he said option 2 will either work or not, and if not then poof outta my head...I see what he means, but I think its too brash.?

[StongBeach]

Re: How to Give Up a Girl You Can't Have...?

Hey man you only live once do what you gotta do. haha. Me im 17 and i'm having no trouble in that department, but i've been worried I may have gotten somebody pregnate because of my poor lack of judgement. If that happens im pHUKKK'ddddd x[

[Jonesy]

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What do you mean by you found out she was "unhappily married" though? Is she separated etc? I hope it's just not you hearing what you want to hear?

I wouldn't touch a married woman but that's me. Imagine how you would have felt if you found out your wife was seeing someone else when you were married? I'd never want to be "that guy" and if you want to have a long term relationship with this woman do you think being the guy who broke up her marriage is going to end up with you 2 ending up happily ever after?

I know the heart wants what the heart wants but hitting on a married woman is a dog act imo.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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What do you mean by you found out she was "unhappily married" though? Is she separated etc? I hope it's just not you hearing what you want to hear?

I wouldn't touch a married woman but that's me. Imagine how you would have felt if you found out your wife was seeing someone else when you were married? I'd never want to be "that guy" and if you want to have a long term relationship with this woman do you think being the guy who broke up her marriage is going to end up with you 2 ending up happily ever after?

I know the heart wants what the heart wants but hitting on a married woman is a dog act imo.

Co-sign. Until SHE does something with her marriage, you should be fishing in different waters, IMHO. A lot of people get unhappy in a marriage, but are sometimes able to work things out and are stronger than ever. Their marriage deserves that chance without outside influences.

[Rawdeal28]

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[Jonesy]

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why?

[~LiverpoolRed~]

Re: How to Give Up a Girl You Can't Have...?

Hey man you only live once do what you gotta do. haha. Me im 17 and i'm having no trouble in that department, but i've been worried I may have gotten somebody pregnate because of my poor lack of judgement. If that happens im pHUKKK'ddddd x[

Dr. Phil in the house!

[dingleberryfinn]

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stay just friends , if her marriage doesn't work out , you will most likely be in the picture , but you don't wanna be in there right now . i have been with 3 married women , i can tell you from experience you don't want that in your resume

[FunkDockta27]

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I say unhappily married cuz she complains to me and a couple other friends how he treats her, cheats on her etc, etc. Now i THINK I been acting cool so as to not give her any kind of idea that I want anything else but friends. And that is the truth. I really am trying to just be that guy that gives her advice, good advice, not the advice I want her to have...i'm not that low.
Seriously I just wanna get her outta my head.
Then she buys a BDay Card for me, changing her cell phone plan (i'm on a different network. So to be able to text and call me unlimited she needs to change it...idk verizon?). I'm not gonna be WHY she leaves him, but do I wish she would? For me?...Yeah...And IMO that thinking and feeling isn't cool.

[dingleberryfinn]

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I say unhappily married cuz she complains to me and a couple other friends how he treats her, cheats on her etc, etc.

if he's cheated on her & she hasn't left him , reality is she might never leave him

[ODogg]

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I know a few women who complain nonstop about their husbands but never leave them. I hate to say this as it may not be what you want to hear but she may just be venting.

[ScoobySnax]

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I say unhappily married cuz she complains to me and a couple other friends how he treats her, cheats on her etc, etc. Now i THINK I been acting cool so as to not give her any kind of idea that I want anything else but friends. And that is the truth. I really am trying to just be that guy that gives her advice, good advice, not the advice I want her to have...i'm not that low.
Seriously I just wanna get her outta my head.
Then she buys a BDay Card for me, changing her cell phone plan (i'm on a different network. So to be able to text and call me unlimited she needs to change it...idk verizon?). I'm not gonna be WHY she leaves him, but do I wish she would? For me?...Yeah...And IMO that thinking and feeling isn't cool.

You're right. It's not cool at all man. You being around her (whether she knows you feelin her or not), like Gamecock said, is not giving her an opportunity to work on the marriage. I was never a fan of the giving/taking relationship advice from the opposite sex. I have never seen an instance where people we giving unbiased advice. They all secretly want to get with the other person.

[FunkDockta27]

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if he's cheated on her & she hasn't left him , reality is she might never leave him

Word, I shoulda thought of that one...

[FunkDockta27]

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You're right. It's not cool at all man. You being around her (whether she knows you feelin her or not), like Gamecock said, is not giving her an opportunity to work on the marriage. I was never a fan of the giving/taking relationship advice from the opposite sex. I have never seen an instance where people we giving unbiased advice. They all secretly want to get with the other person.

Thanks guys!
I'm cool now...at least til I get to work today (2nd shift)...then it may be a re-run of this crap again.
I do know the difference between right and wrong lol...seriously I wont mess with her while she's married. But last night was horrible, never been thinkin so hard about one girl ever...but I'm cool now. Thanks dudes

[HealyMonster]

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Its trouble bro. Stay away. Tell her to get back at you with some divorce papers then you guys can "go out". You just met this girl a week ago. You think this girl about to leave her husband for you after a week is a good thing? There is something wrong there. I dont know you, but I'll just assume that your better than that bro, you deserve more than that. Even though she got that smell cookin in your head right now, itll pass trust me. Itll be smelling burnt after a month though if you give in to that temptation.