Calling All OS Fathers....Did/Do you have a biter?
Looking to the OS community of fathers for advice, support, etc.
The issue is my son's biting, he's 2 and a half and a bit delayed in his speech. His responsive communication is excellent, when told to sit on the potty, get his shoes, point to his nose, he can follow and do all those commands and more, but he cannot verbally communicate. We believe his delay w/ verbal communication leads to frustration, and then he lashes out by biting. For instance, if a kid takes a toy from him about the only word he knows to say or that we've been able to teach him is "No, no, no". So when his teachers here him saying that, it's likely that he was bothered by another child. His class ranges from 2 to 3 1/2 yr olds and I'd say about half or more of the 10-12 child class can verbally communicate very well given their age. So if a kid took a toy from my son (Johnny), and then Johnny bit him then the kid can go tell the teacher "Johnny bit me"....however the reason for his bitting was not necessarily Johnny's fault. While the action was wrong on behalf of my son and I don't at all condone it, the fact remains that had the kid not taken his toy then Johnny would not have bit; which then one could say that sharing needs to be taught better, or there are not of toys to go around in the classroom.
At any rate, there's been numerous incidents at his daycare (they just called me about 10 minutes ago to inform of another one), and my wife and I are concerned over our standing there; and the thing is since we both work we have to have our son in daycare. Our issue w/ the reports we get on the biting are that they are not consistent w/ the information provided. For instance, the lady who called me a little while ago said that basically Johnny walked up to a kid minding his own business and bit him. When I asked, "Was he provoked in any way?", "Did the boy bother Johnny earlier in the morning?", she said no, she was watching him the whole time, and Johnny walked up to the child and bit him. Well if you're watching him the whole time, WHY are allowing him TO BITE? The best way to stop the biting is to catch him before he does it, which the center rarely seems able to do.
As it stands, we have secured assistance through the Prince William County Child Find, and a speech therapist visited us 3 weeks ago. She would've started working one on one w/ Johnny, but got her purse stolen and could not drive on base to where our son's daycare is. She will however be making her first evaluation w/ him today in his daycare setting, and has provided us w/ packets upon packets of informaiton which have helped us teach Johnny in different ways; the result of which is him being A LOT more vocal then ever before.
So OS Fathers...did you have a biter? A late talker? What worked for you? What advice can you give? Thank you in advance.
The issue is my son's biting, he's 2 and a half and a bit delayed in his speech. His responsive communication is excellent, when told to sit on the potty, get his shoes, point to his nose, he can follow and do all those commands and more, but he cannot verbally communicate. We believe his delay w/ verbal communication leads to frustration, and then he lashes out by biting. For instance, if a kid takes a toy from him about the only word he knows to say or that we've been able to teach him is "No, no, no". So when his teachers here him saying that, it's likely that he was bothered by another child. His class ranges from 2 to 3 1/2 yr olds and I'd say about half or more of the 10-12 child class can verbally communicate very well given their age. So if a kid took a toy from my son (Johnny), and then Johnny bit him then the kid can go tell the teacher "Johnny bit me"....however the reason for his bitting was not necessarily Johnny's fault. While the action was wrong on behalf of my son and I don't at all condone it, the fact remains that had the kid not taken his toy then Johnny would not have bit; which then one could say that sharing needs to be taught better, or there are not of toys to go around in the classroom.
At any rate, there's been numerous incidents at his daycare (they just called me about 10 minutes ago to inform of another one), and my wife and I are concerned over our standing there; and the thing is since we both work we have to have our son in daycare. Our issue w/ the reports we get on the biting are that they are not consistent w/ the information provided. For instance, the lady who called me a little while ago said that basically Johnny walked up to a kid minding his own business and bit him. When I asked, "Was he provoked in any way?", "Did the boy bother Johnny earlier in the morning?", she said no, she was watching him the whole time, and Johnny walked up to the child and bit him. Well if you're watching him the whole time, WHY are allowing him TO BITE? The best way to stop the biting is to catch him before he does it, which the center rarely seems able to do.
As it stands, we have secured assistance through the Prince William County Child Find, and a speech therapist visited us 3 weeks ago. She would've started working one on one w/ Johnny, but got her purse stolen and could not drive on base to where our son's daycare is. She will however be making her first evaluation w/ him today in his daycare setting, and has provided us w/ packets upon packets of informaiton which have helped us teach Johnny in different ways; the result of which is him being A LOT more vocal then ever before.
So OS Fathers...did you have a biter? A late talker? What worked for you? What advice can you give? Thank you in advance.
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