Hey guy's
2 weekends ago a lady from work and I went for a road trip to one of her friends place and stayed the night. I am 24 and shes 41. We get along great with each other and in no ways do I feel like she treats me like a kid. We joke and flirt all the time together and I always throw in the older age comments for fun and she laughs along. She doesn't look like she's 41 and I try to look past her age anyways, I look for the enjoyment that we share together. At work sometimes I don't see her all day and then other days I may see here for 5 minutes or so. We have worked together for 4 years and she has dated 1 guy in those 4 years and he was a loser, when I met him.
I have a huge crush on her and it's like we were meant to be together but our ages are 17 years apart. She has a 15 year old kid and a 21 year old who doesn't live at home. She has been married twice. She's a great person and I enjoy being around her and think about her all the time sometimes. The thing is I don't know if she would even consider dating someone 17 years younger then her and is this is just a fun thing for her or a friendship thing. I like the mature age thing about her, compared to girls my age and the fact that she is happy with her self and she seams to enjoy being around me. She doesn't buy me stuff and it's not like she's looking for that one night stand. She even let me drive her car this weekend which kind of showed me that she trusted me. If she didn't like me I am sure she wouldn't have invited me.
Fast forward a week we were planning on going to the movies, she said just random when another co-worker and I was around I would like to go see this show and I am like I am in. Other co-worker didn't get a chance to say anything. So just planned for the two of us.
Next morning she said she had to cancel movie cause of her kid doing something.
So I said no worries not a big deal and she said she would go next week or something. Later that day I planned to go on a weekend away thing with a buddy from work and just joking said don't worry won't cheat on you and then she said ah don't worry there is ton of younger girls out there for you.
So asked her today when she wanted to go to the movies but she basically avoided the subject and joking said I am going tonight then said just kidding I am going to the gym. She kind of has been not so flirty with me as of late and now makes small comments that I would like a young girl. Like today she said I heard you were dancing with young girls on the weekend, which I wasn't and I told her 17 is to young for me anyways and then she said oh you like them. It's like come on how do you know how I feel it's like she is trying to push me away.
Having a tough time dealing with it cause I see her at least 1-3 times a day, but don't want to come straight out and say I am attracted to her, I have a feeling she may just say don't be silly and could make the working situation a bit awkward. Maybe I came on to strong and she sensed it I don't know.
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I have a second question that I also need some advice on. I just bought a house but I am scared because of the fact I will be in it alone and I don't have a huge list of friends besides people from work, who are all above 35+ and majority of them have families. Where I live there is a lot of people above the age of 30+ and I would say it's tough to meet people my age. All my family lives here and I lived here for 24 years. I don't really want to move because the housing is so affordable where I live and my job lets me have weekends off and I home by 4:30 and it's only 10 mins to my work from where I live. I have looked at online dating in my area but there isn't anything that really catches my eye.
How do you come over the fear of living on your own?
Any advice on girls, just feel I am so positive but nothing ever comes my way and I quite shy which is my major down fall sometimes.
Cheers
2 weekends ago a lady from work and I went for a road trip to one of her friends place and stayed the night. I am 24 and shes 41. We get along great with each other and in no ways do I feel like she treats me like a kid. We joke and flirt all the time together and I always throw in the older age comments for fun and she laughs along. She doesn't look like she's 41 and I try to look past her age anyways, I look for the enjoyment that we share together. At work sometimes I don't see her all day and then other days I may see here for 5 minutes or so. We have worked together for 4 years and she has dated 1 guy in those 4 years and he was a loser, when I met him.
I have a huge crush on her and it's like we were meant to be together but our ages are 17 years apart. She has a 15 year old kid and a 21 year old who doesn't live at home. She has been married twice. She's a great person and I enjoy being around her and think about her all the time sometimes. The thing is I don't know if she would even consider dating someone 17 years younger then her and is this is just a fun thing for her or a friendship thing. I like the mature age thing about her, compared to girls my age and the fact that she is happy with her self and she seams to enjoy being around me. She doesn't buy me stuff and it's not like she's looking for that one night stand. She even let me drive her car this weekend which kind of showed me that she trusted me. If she didn't like me I am sure she wouldn't have invited me.
Fast forward a week we were planning on going to the movies, she said just random when another co-worker and I was around I would like to go see this show and I am like I am in. Other co-worker didn't get a chance to say anything. So just planned for the two of us.
Next morning she said she had to cancel movie cause of her kid doing something.
So I said no worries not a big deal and she said she would go next week or something. Later that day I planned to go on a weekend away thing with a buddy from work and just joking said don't worry won't cheat on you and then she said ah don't worry there is ton of younger girls out there for you.
So asked her today when she wanted to go to the movies but she basically avoided the subject and joking said I am going tonight then said just kidding I am going to the gym. She kind of has been not so flirty with me as of late and now makes small comments that I would like a young girl. Like today she said I heard you were dancing with young girls on the weekend, which I wasn't and I told her 17 is to young for me anyways and then she said oh you like them. It's like come on how do you know how I feel it's like she is trying to push me away.
Having a tough time dealing with it cause I see her at least 1-3 times a day, but don't want to come straight out and say I am attracted to her, I have a feeling she may just say don't be silly and could make the working situation a bit awkward. Maybe I came on to strong and she sensed it I don't know.
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I have a second question that I also need some advice on. I just bought a house but I am scared because of the fact I will be in it alone and I don't have a huge list of friends besides people from work, who are all above 35+ and majority of them have families. Where I live there is a lot of people above the age of 30+ and I would say it's tough to meet people my age. All my family lives here and I lived here for 24 years. I don't really want to move because the housing is so affordable where I live and my job lets me have weekends off and I home by 4:30 and it's only 10 mins to my work from where I live. I have looked at online dating in my area but there isn't anything that really catches my eye.
How do you come over the fear of living on your own?
Any advice on girls, just feel I am so positive but nothing ever comes my way and I quite shy which is my major down fall sometimes.
Cheers
Never lived on my own. I got married at 25 and was living with my grandma before that. So I am sure others can help you on that. The age will factor in your relationship even if you are both cool with it.
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