Introverts

[ScoobySnax]

I have always been an introvert and preferred dealing with people one on one. Now that I am in the corporate world, I am practically forced to come out of my shell and it's not easy at all. Even keeping a conversation alive is challenging. I've always preferred to "stay to myself". It seems that this comes so easy to others, but it's very hard for me.

I don't want to have this sort of demeanor, but I've been like this all of my life. Is there anything that I change to help with this? Or am I just "stuck in my ways"?

[sb24]

Re: Introverts

Seeing this thread reminded me a bit of this one.

I understand completely. I am going through the exact same thing. I do fairly well keeping a convo going I just cannot get one started. One thing I have learned, ask the person something about them. Gte them talking so you only have to have short replies. Once you get familiar with everyone it comes pretty easy.

Let me put it this way, the most common phrase I say is "I hate people" yet I am able to get along with them pretty well. It takes some time to adjust but you can do it. Keep the convos simple and remember to ask them questions so you dont have to worry as much. You never really have to go into detail.

[ScoobySnax]

Re: Introverts

Thanks for linking that thread. I had never seen that one. Mods, you can lock this one up.

[burnwood]

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I have always been an introvert and preferred dealing with people one on one. Now that I am in the corporate world, I am practically forced to come out of my shell and it's not easy at all. Even keeping a conversation alive is challenging. I've always preferred to "stay to myself". It seems that this comes so easy to others, but it's very hard for me.

I don't want to have this sort of demeanor, but I've been like this all of my life. Is there anything that I change to help with this? Or am I just "stuck in my ways"?

I suffered the same thing. This book helped me understand it better.

http://amzn.to/b4tOEI

PM if you need to.

[jonpt]

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I suffered the same thing. This book helped me understand it better.

http://amzn.to/b4tOEI

PM if you need to.

Thanks for posting the link. Introvert here as well. May get this book and get a better understanding of why I am the way I am.

[RAZRr1275]

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I'm also a pretty big introvert unless I know someone. When I'm in a new situation with new people I usually keep a low profile and then become extrovert ish once i feel like I have some control of what's going on. And according to Myers-Briggs I'm an INTJ

[Jano]

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I'm struggling with the same thing, about the most important thing I've learned is to always try and stay present or in the moment. Try and stay out of your head when you want to start a convo or when talking with someone.

Just relax and pay attention to whats goin on around you don't think just observe and make comments.

Make you're whole thought process be about that person or group when you talking. This will keep you from freezing up or trying to think of things to say.

[Jano]

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I have been told I come off to others as arrogant because I avoid people in social situations.

When I walk into a room, the first thing I do is scan it so I know who is there that I know so that I can attempt to avoid them. Not because I don't like them, but because I hate this coversation:

"Hey, how are you?"
"Good, how are you?
"Not bad, what's new?
"Nothing, whats new with you?
"Not much"
"That's good, welp, see ya later!"

Annoys me to no end.

But as others have said, once I am with good friends, I am as outgoing as it gets.

Lol! got this from the thread posted above and its exactly how I feel sometimes. These are definitely the most annoying convo's and the best way to prevent them is to keep the convos present.

So if a person sees you and they ask "hey how are you?" just say fine and then instead of asking them "how are you" just ask them why they are there.

Don't ask them how are they cuz that'll just lead to a dead end. Basically do whatever you can to get them talk about their day or something relating to the place yall are in.

This way you don't have to talk just listen eventually you'll get comfortable and it'll be real easy from there.

Its common sense but it'll go a long way when you're talking to people you don't know that well yet..