What has changed on this Friday night?

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Five years ago, I would have been at the bars with friends. Not necessarily looking for women, but I definitely would have had at least a couple shots plus seven or eight beers in by now.

What's changed? A career, a wife, a son. They are out of town but I still can't bring myself to go out with buddies, even though I was invited. I know, I should have taken advantage, but I believe I am by just staying home and catching up on some "me" time. I am working on my new dynasty, getting SMU back to the promised land. I got a new QB that I just created and a new offensive scheme and I am 3-0 getting ready to play TCU.

I also hit Red Box and got "Brooklyn's Finest." I don't know if it will be any good or not, but I got some popcorn and beer (not a bad combo) and am getting ready to watch it.

I don't really know what the point of this thread is other than I've just seen how I've changed... Domestication, maybe? Nah, perhaps I am just getting older and even if it was single, even if I wasn't a dad, this might be my perfect evening. Then again, maybe not.

What's changed for you over the past five years and why are you sitting at home on a Friday night?

[dickey1331]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

Well Im at work on this friday night but I dont really go out anymore and my fiance is the same way. Id much rather stay home and play on the PS3 or watch a movie then go out. I use to go out with friends and party and such but now I hardly ever do. I really dont drink anymore and Im sure that has a lot to do with it but I guess my priorities have changed. I mean Im only 23 but I guess the military has taught me to grow up.

[Gotmadskillzson]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

You just get getting older........

1. Never was into bars
2. Got bored with clubs 6 months after I turned 21
3. Most of my boys got married young......like early 20s
4. Most of my male cousins got married in the early 20s too
5. Once I hit 30.....that was it, it was like a night and day difference no lie.

I found myself hurrying to get home, kick off the shoes and just crash in the living room. Now when people invite me places the 1st thing that pop into my head nowadays is if traffic going to be bad ? Thought that was weird, when I was younger I could careless.

When I was younger I would love having a car full of people, me and my boys cruising. Now I don't want anybody in my car but my wife. When I go shopping I avoid malls at all costs. I hit the grocery store early in the morning or late at night since the one in town is open 24 hours.

When the weekend comes people say yeah its the weekend I'm about to go out Friday and Saturday, tear up the town. Me now I say yeah its the weekend I'm not going to do shiz but sit around the house and play my game. Chill out with the wife and the dog.

If I don't have to leave the house, I don't nowadays. Heck come weekends I don't even put on clothes, just lounge around in lounging pants, t-shirt and some house shoes.

Where as before I would have hit up the barbershop got a fresh fade, hit up the clothing store bought a fresh outfit, hit the car wash and then called 10 of my boys and ask where we rolling to.

Now I cut my own hair, wash my own car in the drive way. wear some of anything now and only call my boys maybe twice a month. Hell we all married now anyway.

Sure you got some married folk who still hang out with their boys, some do it way too much. But me, I enjoy being around my wife, heck just being in my house in my own little kingdom.

Brings peace of mind.

[Scottdau]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

The older you get the more you realize that is not the best for you. It is what it is.

[slickdtc]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

Shoot, I'm young and I've noticed I like staying in with the girlfriend. Maybe because I'm not in college with all my friends who drink night in and night out. But I never could do that very well anyway. There used to be a thrill to going out and getting all messed up, but I did it enough (and honestly, it wasn't even that much even then) to know how it felt and know the recovery the next day was too awful to make me want to keep doing it. Every now and then you've got to do it up, but now those are special occasions. I like my own little world of PS3, movies, girlfriend and an early bedtime.

[the_future420]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

You just get getting older........

1. Never was into bars
2. Got bored with clubs 6 months after I turned 21
3. Most of my boys got married young......like early 20s
4. Most of my male cousins got married in the early 20s too
5. Once I hit 30.....that was it, it was like a night and day difference no lie.

I found myself hurrying to get home, kick off the shoes and just crash in the living room. Now when people invite me places the 1st thing that pop into my head nowadays is if traffic going to be bad ? Thought that was weird, when I was younger I could careless.

When I was younger I would love having a car full of people, me and my boys cruising. Now I don't want anybody in my car but my wife. When I go shopping I avoid malls at all costs. I hit the grocery store early in the morning or late at night since the one in town is open 24 hours.

When the weekend comes people say yeah its the weekend I'm about to go out Friday and Saturday, tear up the town. Me now I say yeah its the weekend I'm not going to do shiz but sit around the house and play my game. Chill out with the wife and the dog.

If I don't have to leave the house, I don't nowadays. Heck come weekends I don't even put on clothes, just lounge around in lounging pants, t-shirt and some house shoes.

Where as before I would have hit up the barbershop got a fresh fade, hit up the clothing store bought a fresh outfit, hit the car wash and then called 10 of my boys and ask where we rolling to.

Now I cut my own hair, wash my own car in the drive way. wear some of anything now and only call my boys maybe twice a month. Hell we all married now anyway.

Sure you got some married folk who still hang out with their boys, some do it way too much. But me, I enjoy being around my wife, heck just being in my house in my own little kingdom.

Brings peace of mind.

Man I feel you. I'm 25 and not married but this was my routine everyweekend as recently as a few months ago. But lately I'm just not for it. After working all week I'd rather chill and catch up on some shows on netlfix and play 2k11 than go out and get drunk and pay $20 to get in to a club and try to bag some chicks. Its funny how quickly things changed.

[Jgainsey]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

I'm 23 now, but up until I was 21, Fridays and Saturdays were essentially binge drinking nights for the entire group I used to hang out with. Pretty stupid looking back on it, but getting trashed was a hobby of ours for a while. Once I turned 21 I did the bar/club thing a few nights a week for a little while, but that got old really quick.

Now I usually just hang out with the gf, or do something low key with my buddies. Drink a few beers, watch a game, poker, play some video games, or something like that.

[VDusen04]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

I was never into the party and insane drinking scene but I can relate to those here who value and cherish their free and alone time. It's very natural, normal, and healthy to keep some time to yourself. Clearly, I don't mean being a shut-in, but there's nothing wrong with not getting extremely wasted during all your free moments. Sometimes we just need to chill.

[Gotmadskillzson]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

Sadly too many youths associate chill with getting drunk. I grew up in the era and chicago culture where you were expected to do certain things by a certain age.

Like you were expected to have had your 1st beer by the age of 14.

Expected to have had smoked by 16.

By the time you were a senior in high school you were expected to be a regular
smoker, beer drinker, coffee drinker and have a main squeeze.

By the age of 21 you were expected to have had moved on to drinking the hard stuff. Wine, wine coolers was for women and pansies. Men drunk vodka, moonshine, gin. Men drunk their coffee black, women added creme and sugar.

But then again I grew up in the factory district, surrounded by alot of factory workers. Kind of like that in a lot of small towns across the USA too, well especially in the midwest.

I can see it out here in the part of Vermont I live at now. Most people out here are factory workers, ex Navy, ex Marines and ex Army. Lot of reservists and national guard people too in my town.

I see men drink their coffee black, damn near every guy I come across out here smoke and the weekends when I go to the grocery store they have a cart full of beer and hard liquor.

Kind of funny when I think about it, most couples out here have 2 shopping carts. The wives and girlfriends cart be full of food and the men cart be full of booze LOL.

[OSUFan_88]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

Let's see...I would have been...17. So yeah, a lot has changed.

Hell, even if I went back two years, a lot has changed.

[JBH3]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

Five years ago, I would have been at the bars with friends. Not necessarily looking for women, but I definitely would have had at least a couple shots plus seven or eight beers in by now.

What's changed? A career, a wife, a son. They are out of town but I still can't bring myself to go out with buddies, even though I was invited. I know, I should have taken advantage, but I believe I am by just staying home and catching up on some "me" time. I am working on my new dynasty, getting SMU back to the promised land. I got a new QB that I just created and a new offensive scheme and I am 3-0 getting ready to play TCU.

I also hit Red Box and got "Brooklyn's Finest." I don't know if it will be any good or not, but I got some popcorn and beer (not a bad combo) and am getting ready to watch it.

I don't really know what the point of this thread is other than I've just seen how I've changed... Domestication, maybe? Nah, perhaps I am just getting older and even if it was single, even if I wasn't a dad, this might be my perfect evening. Then again, maybe not.

What's changed for you over the past five years and why are you sitting at home on a Friday night?

For me all that got tiresome. Plus I hated waking up in the morning, with the fog on my brain from alcohol, and the taste of ciggarettes. If given the same opportunity I would've stayed home too. Its a waste of money to go out like that at this point in our lives.

[jake44np]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

Add me and my wife to the hate to go out on the weekend list.
When we met 8 years ago we went out every weekend. I had an apartment in the city and she would head to my place every Friday night as soon as she got off work. We would chill at my pad drinking until about 10 or so and then hit the town hard. We would then get up sometime afternoon on Saturday and chill drinking and what not until we would to out again Saturday night.
We couldnt wait for the weekends so we could go out.
Fast forward 8 years and now we cant wait for the weekends so we can just lay around the house and do nothing! Hell she is usually sleeping by 10 or so now on Friday's and Saturday's. She has a very successful/stressful career that just wears her out. Once she is asleep and they kids are put to bed its off to the basement for gaming for me.
I was just thinking about it last weekend, what does it say about me at age 37 that my one vice is playing sports video games???!! My 360 got the RROD this past week and the weekend sucked with no gaming, man I miss NBA 2K11!

[Gotmadskillzson]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

That is why you always keep spare video game console money. If it breaks down you can instantly replace it without skipping a beat. Heck it got to the point now we rather wait for a movie to hit dvd then go to the theatre. And if we do go, we go early before the teens and tweens so up.

[the_future420]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

I've never been into the bar scene and I think I realize why I've tired of the club scene for several reasons:

1) Too expensive. $20 cover, plus $ 10-15 valet parking plus $20-$30 on drinks sucks,

2)Really don't like most of the music that gets played. I like underground and lyrical hip-hop for the most part and the s*** played at the clubs is annoying.

3)Girls really don't dance that much anymore, they all just sit around all night trying to get guys to buy them drinks.

[Kearnzo]

Re: What has changed on this Friday night?

I'm the same as most of you guys. I was never too big into the partying scene. Biggest reason being that I was with my now wife right after high school graduation, and she was never much of a partier, so we would just rather have spent time together then go out and get drunk. Most of my buds were single as well, so they were usually trying to hook up, which I obviously had no interest in.

Same way now. Married, have a soon to be 3 year old son, and a daughter due in January. As it is with just one little one, it's usually the same thing each weekend. I work overnight, so I stay up all day Friday to have a normal weekend, meaning I can basically just stay up all day Friday and catch up on games or watch some movies. Saturday's, we all go out together to get groceries, chill around the house some, then usually go out with the boy to do something (playground, visit his grandparents, etc.). When he goes to bed Saturday night, me and the wife usually either watch a movie together, or just do our own thing. She likes to catch up on her reality shows and such, and I like to catch up on a couple shows and play some games.

Sunday's usually involve just watching football and relaxing around the house. She knows I need to take a nap from about 6pm to 10pm so I make it through the night at work, so we usually don't plan much for the day, aside from some relaxation.

Nothing fancy, but we're all as happy as can be, and the relaxation on the weekend is a necessity for both of us now.