Which is the way to go on this?

[SuperBowlNachos]

Which of these two is less lame/creepy? I'm gonna ask this girl out, but I'll have to either talk to her on Facebook or go stalker and go up to her work. We went to HS together so we know each other, but the last couple times as the bar our groups have ran into each other and we talked. I managed to not get her number, and I have limited time to wait for us to just run into each other again. So how do I not make myself look really lame in this?

[cubsfan203]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

Where does she work? That could make a difference in the better choice. If it's like a restaurant or somewhere that people go all the time (Wal-Mart, Best Buy, etc.) that would probably be the better option imo.

[ex carrabba fan]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

All you have to do is FB message her and ask for her number

You don't have to ask her out in a FB message

I've done that a million times, it's probably a lot better to start watering the seed through text messaging/phone calls than just to ask her on FB to go out

Going up to her place of work is a terrible idea no matter where she works. I would never want to distract her from her job

[SuperBowlNachos]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

She works at a cleaners. Maybe I'll take some clothes up there to get starched haha. Guess I'll ask for her number on Facebook. At least if I get rejected it's not in front of people.

How would you phrase it? I'm not the type to do stuff over FB. I'm old school get the number and actually call at some point.

[cubsfan203]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

She works at a cleaners. Maybe I'll take some clothes up there to get starched haha. Guess I'll ask for her number on Facebook. At least if I get rejected it's not in front of people.

How would you phrase it? I'm not the type to do stuff over FB. I'm old school get the number and actually call at some point.

Ok yeah, going to the cleaners isn't a good idea. I'd try it over facebook, but I'm not going to be any help there because I don't like to do things like that over the internet.

[Gotmadskillzson]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

Be a man and ask her out in person.......Too many people nowadays hide behind a PC. Pretty soon I am going to see young dudes going out on virtual dates and getting virtual married.....

Wait a minute.........there already younger dudes doing that......SMH

[SuperBowlNachos]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

Ok yeah, going to the cleaners isn't a good idea. I'd try it over facebook, but I'm not going to be any help there because I don't like to do things like that over the internet.

If I had more time I would wait until I bumped into her again. This is the only bar in town so it's not that hard, plus she tags herself so I can always just happen to show up. I move back to school in a few weeks so I might as well go for it.

[SuperBowlNachos]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

Be a man and ask her out in person.......Too many people nowadays hide behind a PC. Pretty soon I am going to see young dudes going out on virtual dates and getting virtual married.....

Wait a minute.........there already younger dudes doing that......SMH

There is a difference between hiding behind a PC because you are scared and going the PC route because you will look like a complete stalker going up to her work.

[areobee401]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

The two of you already know each other and have seen each other recently. I would suggest having a mutual friend ask if its okay that they give you her number. You can go the Facebook message route too. Don't go to her work though.

[Gotmadskillzson]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

There is a difference between hiding behind a PC because you are scared and going the PC route because you will look like a complete stalker going up to her work.

As though you won't look like a stalker going the PC route. If anything the pc route is more stalker.

[Beantown]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

As though you won't look like a stalker going the PC route. If anything the pc route is more stalker.

Hate to say it, dude, but you need to realize the times.

Showing up to her work, unless it's somewhere he frequents, would like a lot, lot worse than sending her a message on Facebook.


Perfect situation would be meeting up again at the bar with your groups of friends, but since you don't seem like you want to wait for that...I'd just send a pretty friendly message on Facebook. Or go the "ask a friend" route - maybe she'll dig the old school vibe.

[ex carrabba fan]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

As though you won't look like a stalker going the PC route. If anything the pc route is more stalker.

IDK about that, we live in a new age, wimpy or not.

Stalker status is definitely considered going to her place of employment and asking her out or asking for her number. That is straight creepy and honestly I would question anyone's mindset that would go this route.

Asking for a number through the internet may seem cowardly to some, but the act of hitting on a girl at her job is a lot worse IMO. Plus you don't have to act all nerdy/stalkerish on the internet. You could make it lighthearted and funny.

Going to her job would be creepy in any era.

Through FB message all you have to do is this:

1. Make a short and concise inside joke between the two of you to break the ice. I wouldn't make the joke too long as you will look desparate and/or unfunny.

2. Simply say 'what are you doing this weekend?' or something of that nature, followed by here's my number what's yours? I usually like extending my number because to me it eases the initial tension. Just in my mind.

[Buckeyes_Doc]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

Be a man and ask her out in person.......Too many people nowadays hide behind a PC. Pretty soon I am going to see young dudes going out on virtual dates and getting virtual married.....

Wait a minute.........there already younger dudes doing that......SMH

Like others have said going to her work comes off as much more creepy then sending her a Facebook messege.

But take this time to call the younger generation unmanly or whatever, it's not like older people ever go online for dating or anything.

[kingkilla56]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

If you dont walk in the snow barefoot for 6 miles to talk to a girl face to face, you arent a man! Thats how we did it in my time!

[DickDalewood]

Re: Which is the way to go on this?

Just send her a simple Facebook message along the lines of, "Hey, last time we ran into each other, I didn't get a chance to get your number. I was hoping we could meet up again here sometime."

And just leave it at that. If she answers WITH a phone number you're in, if she doesn't respond with a number, well, there ya go. I'd normally say ask her in person as well, but going to her workplace and doing it is a bad idea... it can be embarrassing for her, and it can be extremely awkward (for both of you) if people are around or she's busy and distracted. Besides, that also assumes you know her work schedule... which if she's never given it to you, is slightly creepy. Hell, you'd be better off just calling her at work (which is actually how I asked my fiancee out the first time). At least those phone numbers are public knowledge and it's not implying that you're following her around. That's still risky though for some of the work reasons I stated above... my fiancee and I worked for the same company, so I was more comfortable with the rules on phone calls at work, etc.