Relationship issue/advice needed

[kai123]

Hey fellow OS'ers. I'm an 18 year old kid in a relationship with my girlfriend. We've been going out for 2 months now, nothing too serious yet. But my concern is that recently we've been getting into fights and just a few days back she told me this " I had a fight with my best friend(who is a guy) and it really hit me. Maybe I'm falling for him again, or maybe its false feelings we'll see." When she said that i immediately said we need to take time off so that you can see if your feelings for him are real. So now we don't talk as often and its killing me inside that she might be falling for this guy after what he did to her. In the past he did stuff to her that I prefer not to disclose but in the end she liked this guy for 2 years and when she met me(in May) things changed. I dunno how to reassure myself that I will come out the winner at the end of the day and to make things worse they go to the same University and have all the same classes . But anyways maybe somebody on this forum can enlighten me on what to do as I know some of you guys are married or have girlfriends. I know there are many "fish in the sea" but I really like this one that I've reeled in. Any advice guys? Thanks for hearing me out btw


EDIT: BTW if this is in the wrong subforum could someone please move it? thanks

[grismosw]

Re: Relationship issue/advice needed

Cut your losses and move on. She clearly has issues.

[12]

Re: Relationship issue/advice needed

Hey fellow OS'ers. I'm an 18 year old kid in a relationship with my girlfriend. We've been going out for 2 months now, nothing too serious yet. But my concern is that recently we've been getting into fights and just a few days back she told me this " I had a fight with my best friend(who is a guy) and it really hit me. Maybe I'm falling for him again, or maybe its false feelings we'll see." When she said that i immediately said we need to take time off so that you can see if your feelings for him are real. So now we don't talk as often and its killing me inside that she might be falling for this guy after what he did to her. In the past he did stuff to her that I prefer not to disclose but in the end she liked this guy for 2 years and when she met me(in May) things changed. I dunno how to reassure myself that I will come out the winner at the end of the day and to make things worse they go to the same University and have all the same classes . But anyways maybe somebody on this forum can enlighten me on what to do as I know some of you guys are married or have girlfriends. I know there are many "fish in the sea" but I really like this one that I've reeled in. Any advice guys? Thanks for hearing me out btw


EDIT: BTW if this is in the wrong subforum could someone please move it? thanks

Two months?

Time to bail.

[jake44np]

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Been thru something like this before back when i was young and in college.
With that being said get out now, its only been two months you cant be that in love with her yet.
She is always going to run back to this other dude that treats her bad, plus they are way too close all the time. Something is going to eventually happen between them at college and it will hurt you more when it does. For some reason the guy has a "spell" on her. Its hard to explain but some girls have that one certain guy that no matter how bad they treat her she always goes back for more.
Again get out now, you will be better off in the long run. And good luck, you will meet someone better!

[NDAlum]

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We'll tell you to leave

You'll let her control you

We've all been there and learned

Just go ahead and find out the hard way!

[jeremym480]

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There's no better way to get over one girl, like getting under another

Spoiler

[UncleMo]

Re: Relationship issue/advice needed

Hey fellow OS'ers. I'm an 18 year old kid in a relationship with my girlfriend. We've been going out for 2 months now, nothing too serious yet. But my concern is that recently we've been getting into fights and just a few days back she told me this " I had a fight with my best friend(who is a guy) and it really hit me. Maybe I'm falling for him again, or maybe its false feelings we'll see."


It is possible that they were feelings, or false feelings, but when you get into a more adult oriented committed relationship, such as marriage, feelings can still arise for another. I hope your ideas for those times won't be to split up and go see, otherwise, you may want to avoid marriage. Staying away from that person is another choice to enact instead of "go see".

When she said that i immediately said we need to take time off so that you can see if your feelings for him are real. So now we don't talk as often and its killing me inside that she might be falling for this guy after what he did to her.

It was your idea to split up. Accept that with no guilt or regret.

In the past he did stuff to her that I prefer not to disclose but in the end she liked this guy for 2 years and when she met me(in May) things changed. I dunno how to reassure myself that I will come out the winner at the end of the day and to make things worse they go to the same University and have all the same classes . But anyways maybe somebody on this forum can enlighten me on what to do as I know some of you guys are married or have girlfriends. I know there are many "fish in the sea" but I really like this one that I've reeled in. Any advice guys? Thanks for hearing me out btw

Move on, definately. To reassure yourself, tell yourself that she has a high chance of being a fat lard, as judged by your own research on facebook. Look at the majority of women over 30 and there you go man. Let her waste this time on that dude. You're in a bad situation as they are in the same classes and she thinks she likes this dude. Definately, move on. What if she comes back and it is because the dude doesn't like her? She'll tell you that it was because she didn't like him, but really? Do you want to be second best? You need to moveon.org. j/k


EDIT: BTW if this is in the wrong subforum could someone please move it? thanks

I put my responses above.

[fistofrage]

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Move along. you are too young to get serious. Go to college, live your life, experience everything you can.

When you are 30 or so look to settle down. You will be a totally different person at 30 than you are right now...and this girl now will be a distant memory and you will be happy you didn't let her drag you down.

[kai123]

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I know what you guys mean but I wanna wait it out a bit before I react. What I mean to say is that I really don't wanna lose this girl because she made me a better person.

[8]

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I will echo the others thoughts and tell you to move on. It sounds cliche but you will find someone better!

[Nathan_OS]

Moveon. Plenty more inthe sea

[EnigmaNemesis]

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Wait, one question... she still sleeping with you?

If so, change your mentality, use her for sex if she is gonna act a fool, don't let her sleep over after sex, or you bounce on her after (if at her place)... and tell her to "deal" if she complains.

[kai123]

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I forgot to mention that her midterms are today and right after that I'm gonna call her and confront her about the situation. I asked a bunch of my close girlfriends what to do and they said to wait for her. I'm sick of playing the waiting game and I must confront her.

[fistofrage]

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I forgot to mention that her midterms are today and right after that I'm gonna call her and confront her about the situation. I asked a bunch of my close girlfriends what to do and they said to wait for her. I'm sick of playing the waiting game and I must confront her.

Dude, you are going to do what you are going to do.

[TMagic]

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**** that *****