Let's talk about...The Dreaded Friend Zone

[ProfessaPackMan]

Me and a coworker of mine were having a conversation about this issue and my thought process on it were that once a girl that you're trying to be more than friends with puts you in the Friend Zone, then it was a wrap trying to become something more than friends with her.

My coworker on the other hand seems to think that just because you get Friend Zone'd doesn't mean that it's over and that there's still a chance for you two to become more than friends aka BF/GF and that you shouldn't just give up on it if that's what you want.

So what are OSers thoughts on this? Do you think there's a way to get out of this category that most guys don't necessarily want to be in? Or once you're in, there's no getting out?

[55]

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Most of the "casual sex" I had in my twenties was with female "friends" so to speak. As far as a relationship goes, once you're in the "friend zone" it is not easy to break the ice, but just having a little fun is no problem for most.

[LucasWVU]

Im in high school and unfortunately learned about the friend zone the hard way, in the act. Some guys have tactics about how to get out of it such as ignoring a girl for a long period of time and hoping the girl comes to him. I could honestly never do that. Girls always say that they want their man to be their best friend, but I guess they dont want their best friend to be their man. Bottom line is that girls are stupid.

[KingV2k3]

Re: Let's talk about...The Dreaded Friend Zone

My coworker on the other hand seems to think that just because you get Friend Zone'd doesn't mean that it's over and that there's still a chance for you two to become more than friends aka BF/GF and that you shouldn't just give up on it if that's what you want.

Is your co-worker male or female?

If she's female, she might just have some valuable insight from the "other team's" perspective...

If it's just another dude...who cares?



Also:

Wish I knew how to embed the "Get Your Popcorn Ready" gif, 'cause this thread has the potential to get truly...

Awesome!

[legendkiller5]

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**** the friendzone. I'm not going to be your little Edward McCain *****. Go cry on one of your females friend's shoulder about that douchebag ex that cheated on you even though everyone could see it coming.

What I hate is when a girl breaks up with some douchebag and then the FZ'd guys comment stuff like, "It's okay, you deserve better, you're too good/beautiful/amazing for a jerk like that", not knowing how ridicuouls they sound. But of course, those guys aren't bf material to these girls, and we know why.

I was the king of friend zone'd guys in high school, thank God I grew out of that.

[Cusefan]

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The friend zone is not all that bad, I got there with a girl recently and the more I got to know her the more I realized that we probably would not work long term.

[areobee401]

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The "friend zone" is nothing more than something created by oneself to help deal with rejection. Your ego was bruised, so you tell yourself, that you are trapped in this made up "friend zone" to help ease the pain.

The only reason the female is keeping you around, is because you're most likely a timid guy who is overly nice. You will do things for her, that other male platonic friends will not.

I would not even call what the two of you have a friendship at this point.

Bottom line

The "friend zone" is only as real as you allow it to.

[LucasWVU]

The "friend zone" is nothing more than something created by oneself to help deal with rejection. Your ego was bruised, so you tell yourself, that you are trapped in this made up "friend zone" to help ease the pain.

The only reason the female is keeping you around, is because you're most likely a timid guy who is overly nice. You will do things for her, that other male platonic friends will not.

I would not even call what the two of you have a friendship at this point.

Bottom line

The "friend zone" is only as real as you allow it to.

This is absolutely trash. You would not even call it a friendship? Then I must be in a different world.

[areobee401]

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This is absolutely trash. You would not even call it a friendship? Then I must be in a different world.

How can two people have a healthy friendship, when one of the parties wants more out of the relationship? I don't consider that a friendship. At this point you're nothing more than a vulture circling overhead waiting for moment of weakness, so you can strike and be the hero.

[LucasWVU]

How can two people have a healthy friendship, when one of the parties wants more out of the relationship? I don't consider that a friendship. At this point you're nothing more than a vulture circling overhead waiting for moment of weakness, so you can strike and be the hero.

If you care about someone enough, you'll get over it and respect the fact that they dont feel that way about you. If she ever feels different, so be it. Im young, it must be different when your older.

[jeremym480]

Re: Let's talk about...The Dreaded Friend Zone

I vaguely recall a thread like this in the past. Although maybe it was from the old Supporters forum *pours one out.

Either way my advice is you can't be "friend zone'ed" if you're not "friends". What I mean is don't let her treat you like a doormat I.e Don't answer every text right away, don't always be available every time she wants to do something, etc. Make yourself scarce and see if they could to you. And of course always leave them wanting more (don't overstay your welcome). That's a start anyway.

[Chrisksaint]

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I usually ended up in the friend zone with chicks I really liked, never really make the move to allow it go farther before it's too late. I only did it once last year in college, but for the most part I did a better job of not being conservative.

But I agree once it occurs it's hard or just awkward to try to get anything out of it.

[NDAlum]

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I put them in the friend zone

[Gotmadskillzson]

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You definitely can be more then friends. My wife and I were friends for a couple years or so before we dated, because at the time I was dating her best friend. Got bored with her friend and moved on to her.
And technically I dated around 4 or 5 of her friends before I dated her.

#MadSkillz
#KeptItInTheCircle

[legendkiller5]

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You definitely can be more then friends. My wife and I were friends for a couple years or so before we dated, because at the time I was dating her best friend. Got bored with her friend and moved on to her.
And technically I dated around 4 or 5 of her friends before I dated her.

#MadSkillz
#KeptItInTheCircle

But tell us how it was back in Chicago, please.