Let's talk about...The Dreaded Friend Zone

[bigeastbumrush]

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INB4 tarheelman

To answer the question...yes.

Friendzone is just a temporary space just in case she doesn't get with who she really wants to get with. You're a fallback.

If you know how to play it and have patience...in due time you'll get what you're looking for.

Friendzone isn't that bad because at least she knows exactly what you're after. You just have to lay in the cut for awhile and let her go off and get crapped on by her dream guy.

[Tony Montana voice]It's okay. She'll be back.[/Tony Montana voice]

[kingkilla56]

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Yes you can get out of the friendzone but there isnt a blueprint or map to solve your problem. In some cases you will never break out. It is what it is in those cases. And in some rare occasions, she will "see the light" and come around to you. But you need to be clear: There is being legitimately friend zoned and there is just never making a move on a girl who actually likes you which can lead to legitimately being friend zoned.

But if a girl flat out tells you it's not gonna happen, she "sees you as a brother", she "doesnt want to ruin what we have", she sees "you as only a friend" your best bet is to move on and accept it. At this point you shouldn't be actively trying to break the friend zone with this girl (or person). Its odd behavior really. You've just been rejected and the best course of action is to let it be and rejoin the rest of us on the hunting grounds.

People change over time and situations evolve. You never know what can happen down the line. So hey maybe one day things will change. But I would never advise someone to try to get out of the friendzone. You are better off meeting new people and finding somebody who wants to be with you.

Additionally if you find yourself in a situation where you cant accept just her friendship, as in you cant help but want more from her no matter what she says, then you should stop being her friend. Save yourself the torment.

[bigeastbumrush]

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If she tells you she only sees you like a brother...it's a wrap. Not gonna happen.

That's a little different than friendzone to me.

[areobee401]

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People should stop calling it the "friend zone" and call it what it really is, the failure zone.

I can't even imagine being that guy who was turned down by a chick, only to stick around, and listen to all her problems.

Don't fool yourself either. She knows exactly what she is doing by allowing you to stick around. Women are up on game too.

Like I said earlier. You are nothing more than a vulture circling overhead, waiting for moment of weakness, so you can strike, and play hero.

[Bdubb]

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Well friend zone is the worst for me. I'm good friends with this chick and she is a complete smokeshow. I always give her advice on guys and she gives me advice on girls so it has it's perks. Sucks because at this point in my life I can already envision the response. "Your a good guy and cute but I don't wanna date that would ruin our friendship."

[kingkilla56]

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People should stop calling it the "friend zone" and call it what it really is, the failure zone.

I died laughing at "failure zone". You sound very jaded when it comes to this topic. You alright man? Bringing up some resentment from the old days?

Well friend zone is the worst for me. I'm good friends with this chick and she is a complete smokeshow. I always give her advice on guys and she gives me advice on girls so it has it's perks. Sucks because at this point in my life I can already envision the response. "Your a good guy and cute but I don't wanna date that would ruin our friendship."

If you find yourself giving a girl advice on her relationship with another dude, you have lost, abort mission, and abandon ship.

Giving advice in general is a friendzone hazard.

[Chrisksaint]

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If I made an attempt and it didn't work I wouldn't hang around unless it was special circumstances, usually if it gets to friend zone it's because I didn't make any moves soon enough or I just didn't want anything.

[legendkiller5]

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I died laughing at "failure zone". You sound very jaded when it comes to this topic. You alright man? Bringing up some resentment from the old days?

I can't speak for him, but boy, it brings up some bitterness from the past for me.

The term 'emotional tampon' comes to mind. And here I was thinking I was being a good, genuine' guy.

And yes, this thread needs some THM analysis.

[areobee401]

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I died laughing at "failure zone". You sound very jaded when it comes to this topic. You alright man? Bringing up some resentment from the old days?

If by jaded, you mean tired of guys making up something called the "friend zone" because a chick had no desire to be with them, then yes I'm jaded.

If I made an attempt and it didn't work I wouldn't hang around unless it was special circumstances, usually if it gets to friend zone it's because I didn't make any moves soon enough or I just didn't want anything.

If you never let your feelings be known, you were never in the failure zone.

[ProfessaPackMan]

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Friend Zone, Failure Zone, Non-Boyfriend Zone, I won't let you hit because I respect our friendship too much Zone...it's all semantics because there really ain't that much of a difference between them.

[bigeastbumrush]

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If I made an attempt and it didn't work I wouldn't hang around unless it was special circumstances, usually if it gets to friend zone it's because I didn't make any moves soon enough or I just didn't want anything.

I've been with my girl 4 years now after she initially turned me down the first time.

You can never give up if you believe she's really worth it. And by "it" I mean your time, effort and energy.

[ProfessaPackMan]

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Did she put you in "that" zone(I'll rename it for my man Aerobee )originally?

And how'd you get her to give you that 2nd chance?

[bigeastbumrush]

You only get in the friendzone if you allow yourself to be stuck in it...meaning you're self-defeated and down on your luck...woe is me.

I wouldn't say she did but No means No so you either got it or you didn't.

Friend zone is all about what you do when you don't get it.

Do you play the role of the male friend acting like it doesn't hurt remaining friends with her after she rejected you.

Or do you get empowered by the rejection and try again with her or use the confidence you gained from that rejection to move on to bigger and better things.

It's a mentality. Rejection is supposed to make you stronger in the long-run.

EDIT: To answer your question...I was persistent after the rejection. But I was smoother than the first time around. There was no more fear. The worst thing I could do was sit back and do nothing and have to deal with that regret later on.

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[BunnyHardaway]

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I'm the mayor of the Friend Zone...I think I'm gonna be stuck here forever . I'm way too nice, which is a huge problem. If I ever try the "be a douche" route, it comes off as extremely forced and I end up screwing myself that way. I've pretty much given up...if I'm meant to not be a loner, a girl will come to me.

[OSUFan_88]

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If you care about someone enough, you'll get over it and respect the fact that they dont feel that way about you. If she ever feels different, so be it. Im young, it must be different when your older.

I think that's a very young thing to think.

Honestly, if you respect her/him, you don't wait around for them to finally change their mind. First of all, it lowers yourself, and second, it makes you seem like a damn vulture trying to make their move.

If she/he doesn't want you, then move on. You can be friends, but being "besties" with them does not work.

Move on. If she doesn't want you, there are plenty of other fish in the sea. I think the problem is that in high school, you are so isolated from the rest of the world, that you truly don't understand that point. There are so many other females in the world that you cannot just get stuck on one like that.