Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

[The 24th Letter]

So this was asked and discussed in the barbershop today...

Is your wife/ current girlfriend etc. the most physically attractive woman you've ever been with?

If no, If she ever asked you, would you tell her the truth?

[Darkleaf]

Re: Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

I think telling her anything but her being the most attractive would make her your ex-gf pretty quickly... I wouldn't want to hurt her feelings and chicks get that **** in their heads and they would never let it go..Plus if hearing that I wasn't would make me feel pretty ****ty, probably a convo that shouldn't be had lol like the numbers thing best left unsaid..

[MrChainsaw]

Re: Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

Yes, she absolutely one hundred percent is.

[dickey1331]

Yes. Even if she wasn't I wouldn't tell her the truth.


Do you really care where I sent this from?

[Mabster]

Re: Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

Without a doubt, yes she is.

[Happy29]

Re: Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

Yes, but there is more to attraction than physical beauty if you're truly in love with her. Especially if she is the love of your life.

[DirtyJerz32]

Re: Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

Absolutely!!! Love everything about my wife! Even if she wasn't I'd still tell her she was.

[Yeah...THAT Guy]

Re: Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

Yes, definitely upgraded from past girls both physically and emotionally.

[WDOgF0reL1fe]

Re: Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

Is the most physically attractive woman ive been with? No.

However, she is the one I have been attracted TO the most though. Everything about her is perfect.

[jayenomics]

Re: Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

As said above.

She is different then a lot of other girls I've been with. She may be tied with my ex physically, but it's the intangibles that make her 100000000000000x more attractive. Love this girl.

[Altimus]

Re: Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

If it's a no then you really should look at your relationship.

But if someone actually told their girl that then LOL. Smack upside the head coming up...

[NDAlum]

Re: Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

In my current situation: yes, my girlfriend is the most physically attractive girl I have been with.

If it's a no then you really should look at your relationship.

But if someone actually told their girl that then LOL. Smack upside the head coming up...

I don't see a problem with being honest with yourself and acknowledging that a past girl was more physically attractive than a current girl.

Would I tell my current girl that if it were the case? Nope

[KingV2k3]

Re: Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

The best policy is to never discuss exes.

Period.

Esp. with your current GF.

Furthermore, if there's a convo of this nature going on, it's at the nail salon and it's yer junk under the "compare / contrast" paradigm...

Good luck with all that!

[SteelerForLife]

Re: Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

Wow. I don't post often, but this topic really grabbed my attention.

I think I have to go the other direction with my answer on this one. First, some qualification: I met my wife in '91 and here, some 21 years later, we're still together. I remember one of the 1st real relationship conversations we had back then started with her asking me what was most important to me in a relationship. My answer? #1 Honesty, #2 Trust, and #3 TRUST. I told her that without trust, no real, deeper than superficial, relationship can exist; and trust cannot exist without honesty. I have always been an honest person because, I believe, it's the simplest way to live life. Honesty is one of the few things that I DEMAND in any relationship that I have with anyone; everything else is negotiable.

So to get back to the original question, yes I would tell my wife and have done so. Now,the fact that my wife was the bomb when I met her makes it easier, but I had dated a few bombs before I met her. But the thing is, outer beauty is fleeting with time. After that 'model' you married has a few kids, and has dealt with all the things that life throws our way, let's just say that you better have more reasons than a bangin' body and cute face to love her. Those things won't help when your kids get sick or when money gets short.

Think about it like this: can we all agree that Halle Berry is a wonderful example of feminine beauty (I know I think so, and have told my wife that too!)? OK, here we are in 2012 and Wesley Snipes, Christopher Williams, David Justice (married), Eric Benet (married), and Gabriel Autry later, and one of the finest women on planet Earth is a single mom. Sort of leads you to believe that there's a problem beyond waking up next to HALLE BERRY, doesn't it? Maybe what's underneath that exquisite exterior isn't so exquisite...

Anyway, to try to cut this long story short-- beauty only goes so far. Honesty takes you much farther. If she can trust your answer to a small question like this (not small to women, I know, but small in the grand scheme of things), then maybe she can trust your answers to more important things. THAT'S REAL. Just a little advice from an old gray hair...

[Champion8877]

Re: Your current girlfriend/spouse etc. (barbershop debate)

My current girlfriend isn't quite as attractive physically as a few of my previous girlfriends. However there is no way I would ever, ever, ever tell her that.