Deepest, darkest secrets you're willing to share about yourself

[kehlis]

I'm going to buy my own sub-forum from Steve on Monday, and I'm not going to let you in

Lol, just enforcing the rules. Doesn't mean I'm no fun!

[Cusefan]

Saying things like this will get this thread closed fast.

As we've mentioned now several times. Please keep this clean...

ok I will Edit it

[baumy300]

Re: Deepest, darkest secrets you're willing to share about yourself

Lol, just enforcing the rules. Doesn't mean I'm no fun!

I will corrupt you yet, Kehlis!

[trobinson97]

Re: Deepest, darkest secrets you're willing to share about yourself

I'm getting burned out on OS. There is no specific reason, its just forum stuff in general.

I guess that's not really a deep, dark secret, but oh well.

Been there.

[ERA]

Re: Deepest, darkest secrets you're willing to share about yourself

When I was in Elementary School, I smacked all of the girls' asses (excuse the language). I went to about a total of 50 girls. When the principal came in the classroom about the issue, she asked, "Who in here was smacked on the butt by ___?". Then, all of them raised there hands. LOL. I went home and my dad was pissed. He spanked me once for every girl I did it too. By far the biggest lesson I've learned in my life.. Not really an embarrassing subject, actually something I am quite proud of.

[jhogan3132]

I don't know your situation, what's bothering you, or if you still plan on doing this, but I can absolutely guarantee that whatever it is isn't worth it.

We have all had some extremely low points in our lifetime, and sometimes things just never seem like they will get better, but then they do.

Keep your head up man. Things will get better and when they do you'll be surprised at how much character you built toughing out the **** times.

Trust me on this one.

Thats the one thing I needed to read today.

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[jhogan3132]

Im currently dealing with a life altering decision. I have been married since September, and have been with my wife for almost 5 years. I have two children from a previous relarionship who are 7 and 8 and live with me full time for about the same amount of time. I became buisness partners with a dentist in January and I have been having an affair with her since August of last year. I thought it was a one time thing, but it has been consistent since the first time. We eventually told each other that we are in love and that's when things got serious. I have been battling with these emotions for 3 months, and I told my wife on Thursday that I am not in love with her anymore and want a divorce. Obviously she was devestated, and no sooner did I tell her I was back tracking. I have yet to tell her about the other woman and am having a very hard time dealing with my emotions. Sometimes I think that I'm interested in this other woman because its always a honeymoon. On the other hand I think that I'm only interested in working through things with my wife because I feel bad for her. I'm the only one who works, she has sacrificed almost everything for the family, and I don't want to destroy her life. I'm at a loss for words. Steve was willing to post this anonymously for me, but I feel like this may be the first step for me making a decision.

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So I told my wife I wasnt in love with her and wanted a divorce about two weeks ago. About 4 hours after telling her that I started back tracking because she was devistated. We talked, things didnt change much. I woke up the next morning regretting giving her hope. She has been out of town about a week and I admit I have enjoyed some time away, but I am still as confused today as I was when this first started. My wife does know about my feelings for the other woman now.

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[Brandon13]

It does sound like you have no real desire to stay with your wife. If that is true, I think that you should probably speak honestly with her and begin the process of ending the marriage as amicably as you can. Staying with your wife simply to spare her the devastation of divorce will just lengthen the suffering for all involved and will leave you with your fundamental issue unresolved.

Obviously, the ideal outcome looking in from the outside would be for you to successfully reconcile with your wife. But for that to happen both of you (but especially you) must truly want to save the relationship and there must be a realistic path forward. If you do choose to make the attempt, one of the first steps you need to take is disclosing to your wife the extent of your relationship with the other woman.

Ultimately, and emotions aside, you are left to make a binary decision about your marriage. Good luck sorting it out.

[ScoobySnax]

Couldn't have said it any better, Brandon.

[Jr.]

Re: Deepest, darkest secrets you're willing to share about yourself

I'm terrified of marriage. I am scared that I won't love the person I'm with anymore and it will be too hard of a process with divorce and possibly kids and everything.

I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years now and I feel like she gets more and more pissed at me everyday that I don't propose. Some days I feel like marrying her would be the best thing ever, and some days I feel like it would be a huge mistake. I'm also getting pressure from my family now, too, which doesn't help. They absolutely love her and it feels to me that if I hurt her they would almost disown me.

It's close to a point where I feel as though I would be marrying her just to get her and my family off of my back about it, which I know is a terrible reason to get married. But I really don't know if I ever want to get married to anyone.

[FlyingFinn]

Re: Deepest, darkest secrets you're willing to share about yourself

I'm terrified of marriage. I am scared that I won't love the person I'm with anymore and it will be too hard of a process with divorce and possibly kids and everything.

I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years now and I feel like she gets more and more pissed at me everyday that I don't propose. Some days I feel like marrying her would be the best thing ever, and some days I feel like it would be a huge mistake. I'm also getting pressure from my family now, too, which doesn't help. They absolutely love her and it feels to me that if I hurt her they would almost disown me.

It's close to a point where I feel as though I would be marrying her just to get her and my family off of my back about it, which I know is a terrible reason to get married. But I really don't know if I ever want to get married to anyone.

I was the exact same way. After 5 years together I proposed because I thought I should (it was expected of me etc...) 8 years of marriage and then we got divorced. Thankfully there were no kids involved and it was a clean split. Except she took the dog

[55]

Re: Deepest, darkest secrets you're willing to share about yourself

I'm terrified of marriage. I am scared that I won't love the person I'm with anymore and it will be too hard of a process with divorce and possibly kids and everything.

I've been with my girlfriend for 4 years now and I feel like she gets more and more pissed at me everyday that I don't propose. Some days I feel like marrying her would be the best thing ever, and some days I feel like it would be a huge mistake. I'm also getting pressure from my family now, too, which doesn't help. They absolutely love her and it feels to me that if I hurt her they would almost disown me.

It's close to a point where I feel as though I would be marrying her just to get her and my family off of my back about it, which I know is a terrible reason to get married. But I really don't know if I ever want to get married to anyone.

Marriage is becoming a pretty outdated practice at this point. What do they say? More than half of marriages end in divorce anyway so all getting married does is make breaking up a lot more stressful, expensive and time consuming for everyone involved. The only logical benefits of getting married, at least in my opinion, would be for medical insurance benefits if one half of the couple didn't work or something. Also, it would be beneficial as far as leaving an estate if one half of the couple died unexpectedly or something, although you can always have a living will and at that point marriage doesn't mean anything anyway.

I've been with my lady for around 8 years and neither of us have any desire to get married now, or at any point, to one another, or anybody else. So yeah, you are not alone. Don't let anyone... and 55 means ANYONE, try to tell you that you should get married just because of tradition, it's the right thing to do, etc. At the end of the day, it is just a piece of paper that costs thousands of dollars (depending on how sweet your wedding is) and doesn't really mean all that much in the grand scheme of things.

[DocHolliday]

If your not planning on having kids, no reason to get married IMO.

[BDKiiing]

Re: Deepest, darkest secrets you're willing to share about yourself

If your not planning on having kids, no reason to get married IMO.

Um, I can think of a reason to get married, even if I wasn't having kids.

[msuduo]

If it weren't for my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, I would have committed suicide back in high school. I'm in my mid-20's now

Grew up in church and grew up bullied all my life. Got to be so bad in high school I about gave up. Had the gun and everything

Came from a stable, middle income family. Sports, youth group, band, choir, etc.

Married now. Still deal with heavy bouts of depression.

Have talked to different doctors and every one of them has said I don't exhibit enough to be put on meds.

Honestly, I truly believe it's a God thing. That's about the only way I can explain anything anymore