Rough day

[oneamongthefence]

I need to vent. This morning I found my grandfather dead on the floor. He fell out of the shower. This will be an image burned into my mind and I hope nobody has the unfortunate luck of finding a loved one dead on the floor. He was my grandfather. He lived next door to me my entire life except the four-years I was in the military. I was lucky enough to come home and spend time with him before this happened.

His name was Van Hunley Sr. He retired out of the Air force at the rank of Master Sergeant. He served the majority of his time in the Air Force and prior to that he was in the Navy. He was a hard worker and a dedicated father. Eventually being in a multitude of grand and great grandchildrens lives.

We were close up until the end. He can now join his wife wherever that may be.

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[PVarck31]

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I need to vent. This morning I found my grandfather dead on the floor. He fell out of the shower. This will be an image burned into my mind and I hope nobody has the unfortunate luck of finding a loved one dead on the floor. He was my grandfather. He lived next door to me my entire life except the four-years I was in the military. I was lucky enough to come home and spend time with him before this happened.

His name was Van Hunley Sr. He retired out of the Air force at the rank of Master Sergeant. He served the majority of his time in the Air Force and prior to that he was in the Navy. He was a hard worker and a dedicated father. Eventually being in a multitude of grand and great grandchildrens lives.

We were close up until the end. He can now join his wife wherever that may be.

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Sorry to hear this. Wish it didn't have to happen the way it did. Hang in there.

[Kearnzo]

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Sorry to hear man. I lost my grandfather 12 days ago, but despite it not being easy, we've been prepared for it for some time.

Best wishes to you and your family. It can't be easy to have something like that happen so suddenly.

[oneamongthefence]

Sorry to hear this. Wish it didn't have to happen the way it did. Hang in there.

I'm good. I just wish I don't have to remember him this way. We've known it was gonna happen so it's not a shock. He's getting the full military honors burial so my brothers and I are gonna be in full service dress for it. Just seeing him yesterday and then finding him today was definitely not expected. He was supposed to go into an assisted living facility yesterday but he wasn't feeling well. I was gonna take him today since I didn't have to work.

Our family has been split up since my grandmother died. This is the event to bring us back together at least for now.

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[baumy300]

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Sorry to hear that buddy.

He sounded like a great man and we're all lucky to have had someone like that keep us all safe.

[gopher_guy]

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Damn, that is awful man. Stay strong. Sending good vibes your way.

[The Chef]

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Damn sorry to hear that, when I was 11 years old I also found my Grandfather dead on the floor after having a heart attack while in the shower and its been 21 years since then and I still think of that day unfortunately. You and your family will be in my prayers and I hope you can get through this as best as one can, stay strong.

[Aggies7]

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Sorry to hear about your Grandfather.

Will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

[Knight165]

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Very sorry to hear that.

I'm with you...

I found my mother in a chair....when I walked in I saw her sitting there... with the phone on the floor... It didn't register....I picked up the phone and asked who it was. It was my sister who was talking to her when she had a massive heart attack.

Like you said, something you won't forget. It's nearly 30 years ago for me and I remember every detail.

M.K.
Knight165

[oneamongthefence]

It's hard not to have regrets. He was supposed to go in yesterday. I told him I could take him today. I'd he had went yesterday he'd still be here. I know that doesn't matter now. It's just hard to not think about it.

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[Knight165]

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It's hard not to have regrets. He was supposed to go in yesterday. I told him I could take him today. I'd he had went yesterday he'd still be here. I know that doesn't matter now. It's just hard to not think about it.

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You can't beat yourself up over that. You really can't be certain that it would have been any different in assisted living.
I know it's very fresh for you....but death is a part of life and it's part of the cycle. It's inevitable for everyone and it sounds like you and he had a great relationship.
Try and focus on that and how you made him happy by being close and loving to him rather than the guilt you feel over not taking him in that one day earlier.

I beat myself up over not knowing(at the time) and no properly performing CPR on my mother thinking that I should have been able to save her....regardless of the fact that paramedics and the doctor told me that had I been there at the very minute and did perfect CPR....it wouldn't have mattered....for a long time. I finally realized that while I wish things were different(her living longer than 51 y.o.)....I'm glad for the way things were(we were very close).

Just hang tight.

M.K.
Knight165

[BurghFan]

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Very sorry for you loss. My condolences to you and your family.

[8]

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Wow, I'm sorry man. Not much I can say, the way you described him he sounded like a great man. So sorry for your loss.

[Brandwin]

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So sorry to hear that. You're right, you will never get that image out of your head. Sorry you had to witness it.

Kind of like you, my mother was real sick, but decided to go to the doctors the next day. Well there wasn't a next day. I remember hearing her get up during the night and was throwing up, but I figured she just had a stomach virus. Phone had rang early that morning and it was for her, but she was sleeping so I told them to call back. If I would have tried to wake her, I would have been the one who found her. Instead my Uncle came over later that morning and he was the one who woke me and told me. Not thinking clearly I guess, I walked into the room where she was and looked at her, just laying there. I still have that image in my head as well.

[HealyMonster]

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man "rough day" is putting it lightly, sorry for your loss man. Keep your head up!