Welp, I'm in trouble

[Phobia]

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To be honest it sounds like you need to get your **** together. No reason getting a valid I.D. should continue to slip your mind. Do you not have a source of income?

I agree with areobee completely on this one. You sound like you need to get your priorities in line. You are 19 years old and still don't have a ID?? Instead of running with your people you should be taking care of your responsibilities and getting things taken care of that need to be done such as the ID.

How does a 19 year old kid who is not in school NOT have a job? By the sounds of it you brought this on yourself with lack of motivation and drive. Military might be best to put a fire under your ***.

[GAMEC0CK2002]

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[jeremym480]

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I doubt your mom is crazy. She's likely taking you to the recruiter to scare some sense into you...19 is around that age where things like not having an I.D because it "slipped your mind" is not longer acceptable....

Your mom doesn't want to ship you off or put you out in the street, she's looking for you to show some responsibility and set some goals....I guarantee if you go your mom today with a gameplan...all of this goes away....

Time to man it up...

This is probably what it is. I mean what have you been doing with your life/time since HS Duke?

Maybe your Mom is trying to motivate you into getting a job and doing something for yourself. I don't have any kid's, but if I did I wouldn't want my 19 year old mooching off of me. I'm not saying the mom is right, but I'm sure there is more to this story.

[buickbeast]

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Duke,

OK man, if you want help, you gotta give us more details. You weren't in trouble when your mom threated to kick you out when you didn't take out the trash. You were in trouble when you were 18 and didn't have an I.D.
I moved out when I was 16. Some friends took me in and I worked odd lawn jobs on the wkends and graduated HS on time. I went into the Army a few years later.

My personal opinion is that I think military life would be good for you.
Life ain't easy, no one is goin hold your hand or pay your rent. I found that out after working at least 50+ hours a week until I was 24 and was just fed up with working my *$@ off and not seeming to get anywhere. I went to bed hungry a few times and I was always worried about if I was goin' have enough to cover the bills.

I went into the army and they helped me get my crap together. I got to travel (stationed in hawaii), saved up over 21K from not paying rent or utility bills for four years, health and med insurance was free. I got out and now I'm getting paid to go to school with the GI bill.
Military isn't easy but neither is life. Might as well have a guaranteed paycheck, stay in shape, get some order and structure in your life and see the world.

Shoot me a PM if you have any questions.

[fishepa]

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I would stop acting like a woman and man up.

[AUChase]

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Your first step needs to be finding a way to get a drivers license. Whether you go military or get a civilian job, you're going to need the ID.

[DukeC]

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I doubt your mom is crazy. She's likely taking you to the recruiter to scare some sense into you...19 is around that age where things like not having an I.D because it "slipped your mind" is not longer acceptable....

Your mom doesn't want to ship you off or put you out in the street, she's looking for you to show some responsibility and set some goals....I guarantee if you go your mom today with a gameplan...all of this goes away....

Time to man it up...

Yeah, that was unacceptable not to get the ID when I had the money to do it. That was completely and utterly my fault and I'm man enough to admit that.

Growing up, we were dirt poor (still are relatively). When I was in middleschool/highschool we paid just enough to not get everything shut off. There was no money for driver's ed. I didn't have anything. Gambling problems were apparent (from my grandmother) and my grandfather was just not mentally able to work. It took him until he got divorced and got help until he was finally able to get his **** together, but his wife (my grandmother) certainly wasn't helping matters with her gambling addiction and siphoning money off her own parents and siblings to aid it. It wasn't until we lost the house and I was forced to move that she stopped, because she had no money then.

I'm not saying feel sorry for me (okay I was in the OP, but I was genuinely asking for advice) as I know **** could have been a hell of a lot worse, but it wasn't exactly easy either as everyone had serious mental issues.

I agree with areobee completely on this one. You sound like you need to get your priorities in line. You are 19 years old and still don't have a ID?? Instead of running with your people you should be taking care of your responsibilities and getting things taken care of that need to be done such as the ID.

How does a 19 year old kid who is not in school NOT have a job? By the sounds of it you brought this on yourself with lack of motivation and drive. Military might be best to put a fire under your ***.

See that's the thing Phobia, I am in school. I go to Grambling. I live in my great-grandparents house that's literally 2 blocks away from the school.

I don't go anywhere (because I don't want to waste her gas money), I barely eat anything (so I don't waste all the food in the house), and I even helped her get the car that she's currently driving with my refund check.

Do you remember when I had to drop out of the Madden league Phobia? That's because we hit a particular rough patch and I had to sell my all of my **** just so we could have bread on the table. And damn it I'd do it again.

But what kills me is she says I don't do anything and she's actively trying to kick me out...

**** MAN.

This is probably what it is. I mean what have you been doing with your life/time since HS Duke?

Maybe your Mom is trying to motivate you into getting a job and doing something for yourself. I don't have any kid's, but if I did I wouldn't want my 19 year old mooching off of me. I'm not saying the mom is right, but I'm sure there is more to this story.

I've been in college, in Grambling University.

That's fine. I can understand not wanting to mooch of one's parent. But how the hell am I going to get a job being a full time student in the middle of nowhere? There's literally 2 stores in Grambling (no openings), unless I want to walk 15 miles to Ruston each day while somehow going to school with no car other than the one I helped her pay for?

In any case, a decision has already been made. Meeting with a Navy recruiter on Monday. I'll see how it goes. It's not like a despise the military or anything. I just never had any intention on joining. If it lets me get away from here....I'm probably not ready for this. I know I'm not. But it is what it is. Sometimes you just got to deal with the situation you find yourself in. Had I had a little more foresight, was a little less lackadaisical in getting my I.D maybe it wouldn't have come to this.

Dammit.

[AUChase]

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Well ****, hitchhike to Alabama.

I'll meet you at the Navy office.

[DukeC]

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I would stop acting like a woman and man up.

I can respect this opinion. If I had made the correct decisions I probably wouldn't be in this situation. I understand that. I probably understood that too late. Hindsight is always 20/20.

Edit: If my laptop could take a picture that wasn't dark as midnight I'd show you guys my Grambling ID with a note to let you guys know it's really me. I might do it anyway...

[Redacted01]

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He's not trying to Evan us guys. I think we're good.

[ScoobySnax]

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Mama done had enough of your ***.

It's time to start taking responsibility for your life man. Your main priority right should be getting a roof over your head. If you don't have any relative or friends to crash with, there are churches, shelters willing to help. Ask someone for $20 and you take it to the DMV to get an ID. Use that to help you find a job. While still working, figure out what your next step will be. Do you want to go to school? If so, look into what you'll need to apply. If not, find a career where higher education isn't a necessity (banking, oil and gas, etc.)

You have to want this for yourself though. Your Mom is trying to wake you up and kicking you out might be the only way to get your attention (in other words, tough love).

"Where there is no vision, the people perish."

[Bmore Irish]

Duke, have you tried talking to your mom about all of this?

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[Jr.]

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Can you not live in the dorms on campus? I know it's expensive, but that's what student loans are for. Seems like a better course of action to take out some student loans and stay in school rather than do something you have no desire to.

[DukeC]

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Mama done had enough of your ***.

It's time to start taking responsibility for your life man. Your main priority right should be getting a roof over your head. If you don't have any relative or friends to crash with, there are churches, shelters willing to help. Ask someone for $20 and you take it to the DMV to get an ID. Use that to help you find a job. While still working, figure out what your next step will be. Do you want to go to school? If so, look into what you'll need to apply. If not, find a career where higher education isn't a necessity (banking, oil and gas, etc.)

You have to want this for yourself though. Your Mom is trying to wake you up and kicking you out might be the only way to get your attention (in other words, tough love).

"Where there is no vision, the people perish."

I understand man. I'm already a full time student at Grambling though (except during the summer). With what my last schedule looked like I literally had no time for a job. I went from 8:00 AM to 6:00 P:M (I ****ing hate math classes). The only time off I have is summertime basically, and I enjoyed it. Maybe I should have gotten a summer time job to help mitigate this?

I haven't had my mom pay anything for me in 2 years except for the occasional McDonald's or birthday present.

It's looking like I should have either stayed on Campus (why when I'm only 2 blocks from Campus and losing out on 1,000$ for moving in I don't know. It didn't make sense from a financial standpoint and we agreed on that). Just little tiny decisions led to this point and I'm struggling to even understand how it even happened.

Heading out tomorrow to get that ID. I ****ing screwed up not getting that thing. That was completely irresponsible. That long *** line at the DMV tho....I still shoulda got it huh ?

Not trying to downplay the situation at all, humor is just how I deal with things. It's either humor or anger and I can't direct my anger at anything.

[TheMatrix31]

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So you're 19 and don't have a driver's license? That's straight up unacceptable.

You have internet access right now. I'm assuming you have a computer. Get off OS, type up a resume, and go ask around. Like, right now. All there is right now is part-time work anyway, so there's gotta be something you can do. You have a gamertag, so you have an XBox. Sell the XBox. Get money to get an ID. It's like 10 bucks.

Go to a construction site, see if they need any help. There are plenty of avenues for help up. Remember, don't feel entitled to be helped, but realize you want to get better, work to get better, and you'll be fine.