Self esteem i need some help

[Clemsonpanther]

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Ok ill admit it. All of it is true, im not an evan. I am in HS howeve bu no smilarities otherwise But my self esteem has been in the tank and i need positive encouragement. Because sometimes im socially great while other times i feel wierd and awkward and strange. I know i beat up on myself too much which makes it worse (and yall have not contributed to my issues). And sometimes it gets annoying when ppl leave u out of conversations too much u get lonely. Now granted im not great at it and i have a bad habit of eavesdropping because what am i suppossed to do, shut my ears off? And since its snow day s i havent got the chance to reboost my esteem because i havent got to talk w people and things havent gone well with a fouple of girls recently and then i had so much fun when we elected our guy president i felt accepted but then on the bus ride back i got ignored or used really so it dampened my spirit when everyone else is having fun and u arent. But on the ride there i was accepted and it was fun. And one time i got to hang out with guys which turned ou to be an awesome afternoon and i was accepted and it was great. Im not bipolar but my social life is. Or i need to find better friends. Rant is over.

[Jr.]

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[cavsfan2]

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I'm about the same age as you (18 and a senior in High School). I had self esteem issues too really up until Sophomore year. The best advice I can give you that will sound like a complete cliché is to not care what others think about you. Don't change your personality to be friends with anyone and you'll be shocked to find how much more confident you are. Ultimately there ARE people in your school that I'm sure have the same interests as you. Those are the people you want to be friends with. Right now it sounds like you have surrounded yourself with people who you don't feel completely comfortable with.


Right now you have no reason to have self esteem issues. From what you have been saying it sounds like you have put yourself in a great position from a grade standpoint to go to some great Colleges, certainly a better position than I have myself in. That's something you should be really proud of and if other people don't value that its not your problem.


This may sound like incoherent rambling, but I really hope this helps in some way.

[cubsfan203]

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[Bellsprout]

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Just be you and **** what everyone else thinks.

Oh my god, I gave actual advice. This isn't right. I don't like this.

Kill your wife too.

That's better.

[NDAlum]

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Hang out with your brother more?


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[fistofrage]

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Perhaps you should form a cult. Cult leaders usually have a pretty high self esteem. You may have to build a compound, but I am sure there are some OSers that will join. You might even end up with your own statue.

Or maybe you are just paying too much for cable....

When you pay too much for cable, you get low self esteem. When you have low self esteem you want to take the power back. When you want to take the power back, you change your name to Clemsonpanther and post on a messageboard. When you post on a messageboard, people post sarcastic messages back to you. When you read the messages you smash your computer. Don't smash your computer upgrade to Directv.

[NewscasterNews4]

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Im a sophomore in high school right now and the worst thing to do with bad self esteem is to talk to a girl (unless its your mom or sister). I had the same problems in my freshman year but torwards the end of the year I was able to find a group of friends to talk to while at school. I don't ever hang out with them outside school (I'm an introvert), but we hang out all the time during school.

But in terms of girls, I've been rejected every way possible lol. So I would stay away from them until you get your confidence back.

And one last piece of advice: Don't EVER join your high school band.

Lol

[JODYE]

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First off, don't ever let a female dictate how you behave or think. Ever. You're never going to please everyone, and women are never satisfied anyway. Even when they are, they aren't. It is in their nature lol

Just be yourself, and be confident in who you are and friends will come. Find something to be proud of, to start generating that confidence. Think of something you do well and go from there. No one is interested in being around someone who mopes and feels sorry for themselves when they aren't included in things. Things aren't always going to your way, and you aren't going to be coddled socially at all times. That is part of life. If people aren't talking you, then it sounds like you need to start doing the talking and include yourself when you feel like you are being left out.

[slickdtc]

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It'll get better after HS.

Seriously, anything that happened in HS doesn't mean **** post-graduation. I have friends and acquaintances doing all types of things with their lives 6 years removed from HS. Some military, some in and out of rehab, some college with a good job, some college with a serving job, some who didn't go to college who are doing okay (that's me!), etc. After you get out of that bubble that is HS and a a year or two into college, you'll realize there's the real world and you don't have time to be cool if you want to make a living.

I know it can get tough. I was neither cool or uncool in HS. I could fit in with both, but I was never comfortable with the cool kids. I don't think they tried to be the cool kids, it's just how it worked out.

But yeah, don't care what other people think. Some of us just are weird, awkward, and strange. Embrace it. The sooner you accept yourself, the sooner you'll have confidence to be who you are.

Just get through HS. After that, you can be whoever you want.

[JazzMan]

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Im a sophomore in high school right now and the worst thing to do with bad self esteem is to talk to a girl

And one last piece of advice: Don't EVER join your high school band.

AVOID ALL WOMEN.

But what's wrong with band? Hell, if anything, learning how to play an instrument can help build your self-esteem up. I know that I'm proud as **** at the fact that I can play multiple instruments. Plus being in band leads to getting new friends.

This isn't 1999, band isn't lame.

[NewscasterNews4]

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AVOID ALL WOMEN.

But what's wrong with band? Hell, if anything, learning how to play an instrument can help build your self-esteem up. I know that I'm proud as **** at the fact that I can play multiple instruments. Plus being in band leads to getting new friends.

This isn't 1999, band isn't lame.

Well, I'm in band myself, and I don't have a problem playing my insturment, its actually quite fun, but the thing is in my band I'm the good player my section and I sit next to two people that suck. And every time they make a mistake, they blame it on me. One time they actually told the teacher and the guy moved me from 1st to 3rd chair. Complete bullcrap.

[doubledeuceR6]

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First off, don't ever let a female dictate how you behave or think. Ever. You're never going to please everyone, and women are never satisfied anyway. Even when they are, they aren't. It is in their nature lol

[Clemsonpanther]

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Hang out with your brother more?


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I already do that until a few weeks ago we were stuck together until i switched rooms (thank goodness)!

[Clemsonpanther]

Re: Self esteem i need some help

Perhaps you should form a cult. Cult leaders usually have a pretty high self esteem. You may have to build a compound, but I am sure there are some OSers that will join. You might even end up with your own statue.

Or maybe you are just paying too much for cable....

When you pay too much for cable, you get low self esteem. When you have low self esteem you want to take the power back. When you want to take the power back, you change your name to Clemsonpanther and post on a messageboard. When you post on a messageboard, people post sarcastic messages back to you. When you read the messages you smash your computer. Don't smash your computer upgrade to Directv.

Laughed my head off