The damage that online social media can do to you is becoming apparent

[AUChase]

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If you think FB and Twitter are bad, you should see the **** people post on Yelp!

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[baumy300]

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Pimp ****

All I have to say my dude is that it takes a big man with a big set of nuts to speak on what you did, and an even bigger man with an even bigger set of nuts to change it. I'm really glad to hear all of that though, you overcame some demons and are better off for it. I'm glad you're alright. Cheers to you and your family

[steelerfan]

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Social media is a cess pool. I've never had a social media account (unless you count YouTube or forums like OS as being under that umbrella, I don't) and I never will. I have no use for it.

It's nothing more than a playground for narcissists (no matter it's intent or how YOU use it, that's what it is). No thanks.

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[ODogg]

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All I have to say my dude is that it takes a big man with a big set of nuts to speak on what you did, and an even bigger man with an even bigger set of nuts to change it. I'm really glad to hear all of that though, you overcame some demons and are better off for it. I'm glad you're alright. Cheers to you and your family

Thank you, minimizing social media (using it for cat videos mostly) has made my anxiety level go from about 90% to virtually nil. I can't state enough how much it has really helped me out!

[ODogg]

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Social media is a cess pool. I've never had a social media account (unless you count YouTube or forums like OS as being under that umbrella, I don't) and I never will. I have no use for it.

It's nothing more than a playground for narcissists (no matter it's intent or how YOU use it, that's what it is). No thanks.

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A few years ago I would have looked at you like you were sort of a paranoid nut. Now I look at you like a wise man. Good call, I wish I'd never created an account to start with as well. At least now I know and can limit my usage to, as I said above, mostly just posting cat videos.

[steelerfan]

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A few years ago I would have looked at you like you were sort of a paranoid nut. Now I look at you like a wise man. Good call, I wish I'd never created an account to start with as well. At least now I know and can limit my usage to, as I said above, mostly just posting cat videos.

I completely understand why you would have thought that. The truth is it was never about any level of paranoia but rather it was about disdain for self-promoters mixed with a bit of "I don't care".

I remember when MySpace first got popular. A co-worker showed me her page and all I could think was how crappy it looked and how no one gives a **** what her favorite books are. [emoji38]

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[ODogg]

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I completely understand why you would have thought that. The truth is it was never about any level of paranoia but rather it was about disdain for self-promoters mixed with a bit of "I don't care".

I remember when MySpace first got popular. A co-worker showed me her page and all I could think was how crappy it looked and how no one gives a **** what her favorite books are. [emoji38]

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Yeah, see that is what I'm coming to understand about myself. I was a neglected child, I only had one parent that I lived with (my mom) and she was mostly absent in my life as I pretty much had to raise myself.

This is not to lament 'whoah is me' or anything, overall many people have had it far worse, but that is my experience and that experience leads to an adult that wants to put their opinion out there and have people recognize it.

Now that doesn't mean that I need people to AGREE with it, just acknowledge I have a valid opinion. And people don't do that most of the time on social media, why not? Well because they themselves are also doing the same thing.

Basically, in my mind, per what my psychotherapist has said to me, social media is a bunch of people acting as children pointing to something and saying "LOOK AT MY THING, LOOK AT WHAT I DID" and asking for others to simply acknowledge that they are a person.

The problem is, everyone is shouting this at one another and no one is listening to, or giving validation to others.

After I understood this then my desire to post a lot, give opinions, etc has greatly diminished.

Anxiety is created from attempting to get recognition, made worse when you don't get the recognition and then when you're down, depending upon what someone said to you, is like being kicked in the head when you're already on the ground.

That's social media in a nutshell.

[baumy300]

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Thank you, minimizing social media (using it for cat videos mostly) has made my anxiety level go from about 90% to virtually nil. I can't state enough how much it has really helped me out!

Awesome, that's great news. Glad I could help in some way. Listen though man, I know you're not asking for my advice or input, so stop me if I'm being preachy, but just from the little bit that I've read it sounds like the best thing you could do for yourself is stop caring. I mean flat out stop giving a **** what anyone else thinks about you, even your wife sometimes. You already know who you are and what you stand for, and once those core values are established you can not break them for anyone without giving a part of yourself away.

It is so easy to just stop, right now, as you read this, worrying about what other people think of you. Yeah of course your family, wife, some friends, etc... will always matter more than others, but even there you have to set boundaries and maintain who you are. The people who love and care about you will not only get it, but respect you more for it as well. As for people online, who cares. People in public you don't know? Who cares. Live your life, provided you are not hurting someone else, and that's all that matters.

Stand up for yourself as well. If you comment on a cat video somewhere and someone disagrees or gets rude about it just be like "Suck my ****" and let it go. You are as entitled to your opinion and thoughts as much as anyone else, so letting others influence your perception of events or yourself is just squandering your sense of worth.

Obviously not caring can be difficult in some situations, that is a fact, but when you stop caring you realize just how much time you spent worrying about the most trivial **** and worthless opinions and people who have absolutely no bearing on your life, other than the fact you let them bother you.

It really is that simple. All you have to do is nothing. I bet you already know what is worth caring about and fighting for, so all that's left is drowning out everything that isn't. Stand up for yourself bro, I promise it will only lead to better things and no matter what you can always look at yourself in the mirror and know you're a real one.

[Jolly Roger]

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I just check out IG for the hot influencer chicks and to laugh at how they all do the same stuff.

[DamnYanks2]

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I just check out IG for the hot influencer chicks and to laugh at how they all do the same stuff.

Yea and having a stepdaughter. They wanna do that same ****. Because it's cool and trending. I hate it. Kids twerking and **** is not cool.

Nobody ever talks about it. But these platforms knowingly have sexualized kids. They've played their part in it. These location sharing services should be illegal. It's gotten people raped killed robbed . You name it.

I hate sounding like this. I sound like a Karen. But people in general are not mature enough for these sites. Kids sure as hell aren't. And I don't want to be a hypocrite because I did the Facebook MySpace **** too. But I hate it. I hate all of it





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[ODogg]

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Yea and having a stepdaughter. They wanna do that same ****. Because it's cool and trending. I hate it. Kids twerking and **** is not cool.

Nobody ever talks about it. But these platforms knowingly have sexualized kids. They've played their part in it. These location sharing services should be illegal. It's gotten people raped killed robbed . You name it.

I hate sounding like this. I sound like a Karen. But people in general are not mature enough for these sites. Kids sure as hell aren't. And I don't want to be a hypocrite because I did the Facebook MySpace **** too. But I hate it. I hate all of it





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Well I 100% support your view. Social media is what ended up costing us our foster license because we handled it in a way that the foster care CPS people did not like (taking away her smart phone and giving her a phone that only texts and calls).

Her therapist supported us in doing what we did but when we had our day in court she did not show up, and ignored our subpoena and so we are no longer foster parents.

It was, at that time, my first realization that yes it's true, social media is ruining children. At that point I didn't see the effect it had on me but now I do.

Stay strong, don't let your children bully you or beg you into letting them get Snapchat and those other apps which young kids, esp girls, use to put out nasty pics of themselves, or use it to hook up with people.

It's unfortunate that not every place like Facebook and such can be monitored as well as Operation Sports is but it's just the reality I guess.

The conundrum is now social media is how a lot of folks communicate and I've even heard jobs asking about your social media so they can "get to know you better", which btw is a definite reason to limit what you post on there if there ever was one.

[DamnYanks2]

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Well I 100% support your view. Social media is what ended up costing us our foster license because we handled it in a way that the foster care CPS people did not like (taking away her smart phone and giving her a phone that only texts and calls).



Her therapist supported us in doing what we did but when we had our day in court she did not show up, and ignored our subpoena and so we are no longer foster parents. I'm sure you aren't Odogg. But it's not talked about enough.



It was, at that time, my first realization that yes it's true, social media is ruining children. At that point I didn't see the effect it had on me but now I do.



Stay strong, don't let your children bully you or beg you into letting them get Snapchat and those other apps which young kids, esp girls, use to put out nasty pics of themselves, or use it to hook up with people.



It's unfortunate that not every place like Facebook and such can be monitored as well as Operation Sports is but it's just the reality I guess.



The conundrum is now social media is how a lot of folks communicate and I've even heard jobs asking about your social media so they can "get to know you better", which btw is a definite reason to limit what you post on there if there ever was one.

Don't even get me started on CPS. Evil, corrupt organization. Nobody monitors them, they have infinite power. They should be disbanded immediately. Unless it's absolutely high risk activity where the child is in serious danger. That kid is better off with his or her parents every time.

I look at them like a trafficking ring. I know that's strong, but they can go **** themselves. Alot of these foster care parents are monsters. I'm sure you're not Odogg but its really a mess that doesn't get talked about enough.

And don't get get me wrong. There are some social workers that are in it for all the right reasons. But they don't know what they are a part of.

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[bigbob]

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Well I 100% support your view. Social media is what ended up costing us our foster license because we handled it in a way that the foster care CPS people did not like (taking away her smart phone and giving her a phone that only texts and calls).



Her therapist supported us in doing what we did but when we had our day in court she did not show up, and ignored our subpoena and so we are no longer foster parents.

It's always interesting to see how other localities/states handle foster care. All of the foster care workers at my previous county had entire drawers dedicated to cell phones that they took from the kids that ended up on on their caseload, all taken from them because they clearly couldn't handle having one.

Foster parents always asked if they were allowed to take away cell phones and the foster care workers were like, hell yeah.. just don't hit the kid or use any kind of physical discipline. When I removed a kid, I used to take the kids cell phone once I got them to the house and gave it to whoever their worker would be for them to decide what to do with it.

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[l3ulvl]

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It's been 30 years since Rodney King said "can't we all just get along?"

we still JOKE about it

it's so sad, there's more hate now than ever

[ODogg]

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CPS just wants adults who will give foster kids a place to sleep and eat and let them do what they gonna do, in other words, you're not a foster parent, you're a foster babysitter.

Every single time we tried to parent, ie set down rules, give life lessons, discipline (for example taking away the phone) CPS in our county gave pushback.

We met with local foster families earlier on and they warned us to never go against them but we felt, foolishly, if we followed the rules and did the right thing that we would prevail.

It is true that no one oversees CPS and they do have unlimited power. I had no idea. And you guys know how I am, I wrote everyone, the media, I tweeted to reporters, I went to the state of Ohio AG, I wrote the governor, state reps, state senators, you name it I tried it and no one was interested in even listening to general issues in the system that we had identified.

It is, in my view, the most messed up system we have in the United States and no one gives a care about it because I guess there's no benefit for them in money or power to change CPS.