I can relate to some of what you are saying, but until they fix this situation, you will just have to make do like I did by using my CPU roster control on workaround for sim games and using the second controller workaround for played games. If not you are out of luck until/if they fix it.
We are stuck having to do that unless/until they fix the game. They know about the issues and
the ball is in their court now.
Like the old cliche goes, when life gives you lemons you have to make lemonade 
. That is the philosophy I take in life, and I am happier since I do so most of the time.
I am by no means trying to belittle some of your comments. I am a roster control guy myself, and
I don't like to have to do all this work, especially since I don't have a lot of time to play in the evenings anymore. I end up staying up way to late, lol. I agree with you on DH stamina and the DL "issue". Hopefully they fix those for next year at least.