I haven't gone through this thread as I've already made my mind made up for the Xbox One, because I just prefer the Xbox One's controller. A small difference in graphics is not that concerning to me, but moreso how comfortable I feel with the controller in my hands and how that translates to my play on the field. I like the stick layout much better.
What is very unfortunate to hear about though, is the framerate issue with the Xbox One, compared to the PS4. I enjoy smooth gameplay.. and if the graphics were a little bit crisper on the PS4 compared to the Xbox One, then so be it. The difference wouldn't be much anyway.. but I really hope I don't notice any hitches in the framerate playing the retail copy on the Xbox One.