Par for the course, I reckon.
I just got Madden '15 on Monday, and I'm 3-5 online. Yikes! This is unusual for me, as in past Maddens I maintained 20-30 games over .500 (albeit on the last two Maddens I didn't play much -- HATED Madden '13, because everybody used the Ravens and Niners ad nauseum).
2 losses weren't my fault. In one loss, I was up 14-10 with a minute and 30 seconds left, a fresh set of downs on offense, and my opponent only had 2 timeouts, when the game disconnected and it gave me the loss/augmented DC percentage. Second loss of the 2, it was a 7-7 game when it disconnected, giving me another loss. Won 3 in a row to get to 3-3 but I've lost two straight.
I've only ran into one guy who was obsessed with onside kicks. He beat me, unfortunately. But I guess that's -- as I said -- par for the course.
I'm a casual gamer these days, but I have a huge competitive streak and online gaming, even when it can be a pain and raises my blood pressure through the roof (I surmise), satiates that desire, despite all the bullcrap.
I have my privacy settings set to only friends being able to contact me with text/voice (Xbox One). A setting that I appreciate a lot!
It's unfortunate if a legit player tries to message me something important or a "good game" afterwards, but I guess that's the sacrifice for all the d-bags online who send vulgar, juvenile, childish garbage that ruin the experience.