While I usually kick it back out and reset as you say....that's not realistic ball at all. ANY center or PF that gets the board right under the rim will put it back up unless they can make a quick interior pass or they are trying to burn clock.
In reality its more difficult to kick out than to go back up...something inside players are taught at an early age.
Its also not realistic that NBA big men cant hit contested putbacks underneath the goal....much less All Star caliber players. This is one of the problems with the game. Adapting to this type of unrealistic gameplay is necessary to win but then it cheapens the game and takes away from the sim aspect.