The most important post in this thread. If you are a solo CFM player, your ONLY option is the PC version. Has nothing to do with graphics, performance etc... (although those ARE better with the right rig).... but simply because of the wonderful mods that have been created.
There's a mod that overhauls all of the gameplay issues you mentioned (Sabo's mod).
There's a mod that changes player progression from Xp to controlled/random so no two franchises are ever alike (tdawgs mod)
There's mods for uniforms, stadiums, broadcasts (from EA Sports to CBS/FOX) etc...
Basically, console verison is unplayable and unfixable in regards to all of your concerns, but the PC version is not.