Women

[SnowMan]

Originally Posted by sabotai

The solution to the debate over when to get married is very simple.

Don't.

Problem solved.

I'll second that!

[Noop]

Originally Posted by Eaglesfan27

Why limit yourself with that kind of thinking? If you meet a great woman, should you wait and risk losing her because she thinks your a committment phobe? Why do that just because you want to "live life to the fullest" which I'm guessing (and pardon me if I'm wrong) means that you want to sow your oats more?

I thought I probably wouldn't marry until I was in my 30's when I was 18 or so, but I met the right woman and got married at 24 and it's been the best 9 years of my life. She was 20 when we married and I know that she didn't plan on getting married so young, but after dating for 2 years, we both knew that we wanted to be together for the rest of our lives.

I don't see it as limiting other then trying to put into focus what I want out of life. As for living life to the fullest I don't mean sex(although I will admit it plays a small part) I mean like being able to go somewhere on a drop of a hat without having to plan with someone. I fully understand a relationship is a partnership and as of now I haven't met the right woman to make me reconsider.

I prefaced that in my initial post with it could change if the right girl comes along.

Also to someone who asked what broke meant to me. Broke to me is not having a stable income from multiple sources. (i.e. salary, investments, etc.) When I do decide to settle down I would prefer to have the money to pay for my kids college(if I have any) and still live comfortably.

Again this is just a line of thinking I have at the moment. Like life it is subject to change because life happens.

- Sorry St. C for hi-jacking your thread.

[lordscarlet]

I could go do something at the drop of a hat if I wanted to. The only thing limiting my ability to do such things are being a homeowner and pet owner, not being a husband.

[Noop]

Originally Posted by lordscarlet

I could go do something at the drop of a hat if I wanted to. The only thing limiting my ability to do such things are being a homeowner and pet owner, not being a husband.

Owning a home doesn't factor in taking a trip to bahamas for the weekend. Can you go to Bahamas tonight just cause you felt like it? Without your wife getting mad? Honestly.

[lordscarlet]

Originally Posted by Noop

Owning a home doesn't factor in taking a trip to bahamas for the weekend. Can you go to Bahamas tonight just cause you felt like it? Without your wife getting mad? Honestly.

But I can't decide to move to Europe and work there for a year.

Yes, I could. My boss wouldn't like it much, though. Nor would my cats if it was more than a couple days.

[Lathum]

Originally Posted by Raiders Army

Fuck that shit. You need to marry young. We were talking about this the other night (I was 23, she was 20). At that age, you're still malleable enough to change. You get to your 30s and people are who they thought they were. If you don't get married young, you have to wait until you're 50-something to get someone willing to change.

*this post is posted while I've had some beer, so take it for what it's worth

no offense to you or your wife but if you have to change to get married should you really be getting married?

[Schmidty]

Editing because I'm trying, once again, to not be such a grumpy jerk.

[Schmidty]

Originally Posted by Noop

Well I will be honest I doubt I would marry a woman my age if I am in my 40's but I agree with you.

Why would you even consider marrying in the first place if, as you said earlier, you "learned not to attach myself to people other then my family"?

[Noop]

Originally Posted by Schmidty

Why would you even consider marrying in the first place if, as you said earlier, you "learned not to attach myself to people other then my family"?

Thats more about dealing with being single and dealing with the reality of dating where sometimes you might like someone more then they like you.

As for Lordscarlet why no mention of you wife? Its not about moving to Europe to live but if you wake up in the morning and felt like going to Bahamas could you do it(yes you can) but being in a relationship means considering the other person and the life you have with that person.

I kinda of like the idea of being able to do things like that because my weird logic says if I wanted to go out of town for a weekend I could go. I wouldn't have to tell anyone or ask for permission I would just go. Or something less extreme if i wanted to purchase a brand new car just because I wanted it, I could without having someone telling me why I shouldn't. As a married man I am sure I can do those things but then I wouldn't be a good husband or a good father because I would be selfish. Just Saying.

[DaddyTorgo]

Originally Posted by Noop

Thats more about dealing with being single and dealing with the reality of dating where sometimes you might like someone more then they like you.

As for Lordscarlet why no mention of you wife? Its not about moving to Europe to live but if you wake up in the morning and felt like going to Bahamas could you do it(yes you can) but being in a relationship means considering the other person and the life you have with that person.

I kinda of like the idea of being able to do things like that because my weird logic says if I wanted to go out of town for a weekend I could go. I wouldn't have to tell anyone or ask for permission I would just go. Or something less extreme if i wanted to purchase a brand new car just because I wanted it, I could without having someone telling me why I shouldn't. As a married man I am sure I can do those things but then I wouldn't be a good husband or a good father because I would be selfish. Just Saying.

but if you're "broke" you don't have the money to do those things anyways

[Lathum]

Originally Posted by Noop

Thats more about dealing with being single and dealing with the reality of dating where sometimes you might like someone more then they like you.

As for Lordscarlet why no mention of you wife? Its not about moving to Europe to live but if you wake up in the morning and felt like going to Bahamas could you do it(yes you can) but being in a relationship means considering the other person and the life you have with that person.

I kinda of like the idea of being able to do things like that because my weird logic says if I wanted to go out of town for a weekend I could go. I wouldn't have to tell anyone or ask for permission I would just go. Or something less extreme if i wanted to purchase a brand new car just because I wanted it, I could without having someone telling me why I shouldn't. As a married man I am sure I can do those things but then I wouldn't be a good husband or a good father because I would be selfish. Just Saying.

I thought the same thing when I was in my early 20's but I now realize it is much more fulfilling being able to share those experiences with someone I love.

[tarcone]

I couldnt take care of myself until I was 29. I was married by 31. Had to mature and I found the right girl.

[lordscarlet]

Originally Posted by Noop

Thats more about dealing with being single and dealing with the reality of dating where sometimes you might like someone more then they like you.

As for Lordscarlet why no mention of you wife? Its not about moving to Europe to live but if you wake up in the morning and felt like going to Bahamas could you do it(yes you can) but being in a relationship means considering the other person and the life you have with that person.

I kinda of like the idea of being able to do things like that because my weird logic says if I wanted to go out of town for a weekend I could go. I wouldn't have to tell anyone or ask for permission I would just go. Or something less extreme if i wanted to purchase a brand new car just because I wanted it, I could without having someone telling me why I shouldn't. As a married man I am sure I can do those things but then I wouldn't be a good husband or a good father because I would be selfish. Just Saying.

Huh? You asked if she would prevent me, and the answer is "no." As for moving to europe for a time to work and live there, she would be all for it, so that is not an obstacle.

[Flasch186]

not sure why I felt this video appropriate.

[gkb]

Originally Posted by oliegirl

You know, we really aren't all that bad...I'm just saying

I have to agree. I love women. I love the way they walk, the way they smell, and their boobs. I love the fact that they can largely get past looks in a guy and appreciate a sense of humor or intelligence.

Not all women are great, but not all men are either. I'd rather live with them than without and I've had some truly shitty relationships.

That is all...carry on.

[st.cronin]

I'm back to just the 99 problems. Turns out the prozac wasn't necessary.

[sterlingice]

Originally Posted by lordscarlet

If you marry while you're broke you'll hopefully at lease double your income.

Not only that but halve your debt. Or at least that's what I did

SI

[korme]

women are the reason i motivate myself to do anything (be it productive or destructive)... it's sad.

[DaddyTorgo]

neh...i'm done with women.

And I don't mean that in a "i'm all for dudes" kind of way.

I mean...i'm done with women...unless i'm objectifying them or paying them off or otherwise degrading them.

[korme]

[Radii]

Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

I mean...i'm done with women...unless i'm objectifying them or paying them off or otherwise degrading them.

sounds like someone has it figured out!

[Karlifornia]

I'm not in a mental state that would be conducive to getting married. That could be because I haven't found "the one for me", or it could be because I sabotage things in order to keep my freedom.

Getting married is a good thing for some people. I think some people need to get married in order to feel validated. It's like religion....some people need salvation to make their life worth living. I just wish more people would wait before getting married. I don't care much about the sanctity of marriage, but maybe that's because I don't believe in the sanctity of putting all your money on black at the roulette table. There are too many rash decisions being made. I remember being 19 and thinking I had found my one true love. I'm only 24 now, and I still don't claim to know shit about dick, but I do know that was foolish. It should be easier to put things into perspective as you get older, as you have more experiences. Then you can step back and say "This may not be my one true love, but she is/he is my one true love for this moment, and I know better than to commit to anything more than today"

[Eaglesfan27]

Originally Posted by Noop

Owning a home doesn't factor in taking a trip to bahamas for the weekend. Can you go to Bahamas tonight just cause you felt like it? Without your wife getting mad? Honestly.

Yes. Of course, she would want to go with me, and I'd want her to go with me because she would make the the trip more enjoyable.

[DaddyTorgo]

Originally Posted by Radii

sounds like someone has it figured out!

pretty much. That's what i'm thinkin

[nole4sho]

I agree with Marvin.

[chesapeake]

Originally Posted by Eaglesfan27

Yes. Of course, she would want to go with me, and I'd want her to go with me because she would make the the trip more enjoyable.

One of the ways you know you have found "the one" is that you discover that you would much rather go to the Bahamas with her than without her.

[CamEdwards]

Originally Posted by chesapeake

One of the ways you know you have found "the one" is that you discover that you would much rather go to the Bahamas with her than without her.

I think you've actually found "the one" when she asks you to go to Hedonism with her and her female best friend.

[sabotai]

Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

neh...i'm done with women.

And I don't mean that in a "i'm all for dudes" kind of way.

I mean...i'm done with women...unless i'm objectifying them or paying them off or otherwise degrading them.

Damn, that's a complete 180 from some months ago. Did she turn out to be a total psycho?

[korme]

Originally Posted by CamEdwards

I think you've actually found "the one" when she asks you to go to Hedonism with her and her female best friend.

I had to wiki hedonism but now I will vehemently agree with this statement

[DaddyTorgo]

Originally Posted by sabotai

Damn, that's a complete 180 from some months ago. Did she turn out to be a total psycho?

*nods*

details forthcoming - apparently i'm not important enough to pick up the phone and talk to, unlike the guy who she's been playing 4 hours of online gin with (and if you think that's all they were doing I have some lovely oceanfront property in arizona to sell you) over the last 2 days - and talking to for god knows how long before that (i have my suspicions though).

so we still have yet to...have it out - which frankly everyone is telling me to not even bother doing at this point, because she's clearly proven herself to be a lying, cheating, round-heeled bitch.

but such is life.

[DaddyTorgo]

dola - and confirmed

*shrugs*

(and yes I went to the trouble of making a SN as a girl and sending the guy she was talking with fake pics and saying I was very bi and noticed him talking to her and what was the story with that...etc, in order to get the confirmation)

why you ask? because i'm a sick bastard and i dunno...it has something to do with closure I guess.

[lordscarlet]

That sounds like a rather gullible idiot.

[DaddyTorgo]

Originally Posted by lordscarlet

That sounds like a rather gullible idiot.

yes he is. And I didn't reveal it to him, so I still have him as a source of info (idk what more I could possibly need, but I have him).

[MikeVic]

That sucks. Women suck.

edit: not all of them, but some.

[st.cronin]

My girlfriend washed and waxed my car yesterday. That's not a euphemism.

[Noop]

Originally Posted by MikeVic

That sucks. Women suck.

Love Head.

[MikeVic]

lol.

[cartman]

Originally Posted by st.cronin

My girlfriend washed and waxed my car yesterday. That's not a euphemism.

She did this at the drive-thru car wash with the top down so the interior could be cleaned as well, right?

[path12]

My grandpa told me once that one of the happiest days of his life was when he stopped thinking with his dick.

I didn't press for details.

[M GO BLUE!!!]

Originally Posted by path12

My grandpa told me once that one of the happiest days of his life was when he stopped thinking with his dick.

I didn't press for details.

I guarantee he remembers that day so well because the next day he was right back where he started.

[DaddyTorgo]

I should start a new thread and refrain from hijacking this one

[Kodos]

Originally Posted by Ronnie Dobbs2

Women from Wellesley are fucking crazy anyway.

Right on! A girl that I dated who graduated from Wellesley dumped me twice, because once wasn't good enough. It's okay, cuz she cared more about her actuary job than anything else in her life. My current wife refers to her as the dumbest person on the planet for dumping me (but then she may be biased).

[DaddyTorgo]

Originally Posted by Kodos

Right on! A girl that I dated who graduated from Wellesley dumped me twice, because once wasn't good enough.

actually i've known some decent wellesley women and some batshit ones.

nope...the blame for this one falls squarely on ohio. Fuck you buckeye state.

edit - for continuing coverage of the debacle see my thread I just made with the unoriginal title

[Kodos]

Heh. I've also dated some psychos from Ohio. My special hint is never to date girls who work at McDonald's. The grease fries their brains or something...

[M GO BLUE!!!]

Originally Posted by Kodos

Heh. I've also dated some psychos from Ohio. My special hint is never to date girls who work at McDonald's. The grease fries their brains or something...

Date women that work at chicken joints like KFC, Popeye's or better yet Church's! They always have big asses.

[terpkristin]

I'd like to jump in here and say that we're not all bad.

/tk

[M GO BLUE!!!]

Originally Posted by terpkristin

I'd like to jump in here and say that we're not all bad.

/tk

Thanks for the commentary.

You are welcome to start a thread about what uncaring assholes us men are. Of course there will be fewer posts, but it should be fun!

[DaddyTorgo]

Originally Posted by M GO BLUE!!!

Thanks for the commentary.

You are welcome to start a thread about what uncaring assholes us men are. Of course there will be fewer posts, but it should be fun!

hey now...TK is right. My best-friend has a WONDERFUL girl. She's amazing.

course there prolly only a even hlaf-dozen truly "good" girls in any guy's life at any point in time. And the challenge is that as you get older, more and more of them are unavailable.

You know...this is actually a really interesting point...and I think there's some validity to it.

[terpkristin]

Originally Posted by M GO BLUE!!!

Thanks for the commentary.

You are welcome to start a thread about what uncaring assholes us men are. Of course there will be fewer posts, but it should be fun!

HAHAHAH.
But I don't think that. Then again, I'm still single, so what do I know? I think all humans have their quirks.

/tk

[Kodos]

Originally Posted by DaddyTorgo

course there prolly only a even hlaf-dozen truly "good" girls in any guy's life at any point in time. And the challenge is that as you get older, more and more of them are unavailable.

You know...this is actually a really interesting point...and I think there's some validity to it.

I always theorized that there was a finite supply of decent girls, and once those in your age group were scooped up, you had to draft younger to find one. Personally, I never dated anyone who wasn't younger than me. But then I'm immature, and chicks my age never dug me.