2k and Relationships

[Shakedowncapo]

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You lucky SOB.

She's a keeper.

I'm not married and don't live w/ my gf but some of these responses are starting to worry me. How does a man become so powerless that his woman applies strict rules that limit his gaming time? 1 hour a day? WTF?

Glad I'm not married...

The day I settle down, will be the last I play videogames. Just means I've moved onto something else better like traveling.

But until that day!

[shawnpatrick78]

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I've been married for almost three years now, have a 18 month old and a new one on the way. I'm a mostly sports games guy and Call of Duty games. Love video games always have. My wife, girlfriend at the time, actually bought the XBOX 360 for me. Ever since we bought a house and had kids she gets upset and bossy about play games. I understand her ground we have less time for each other between work, kids, family and friends. I have just found time for myself we she is not around. Mostly at night, she goes to bed early and I'm gamin til midnight, 2 or 3 on the weekends.

As for your situation, as long as the bills are paid and your not putting yourself in debt, I don't see a problem with spend a little on yourself. The fact is you probably argue about where your money is going. She doesn't want you spending and you don't want her to. Trust me she'll find ways to buy things for herself without you knowing, so why not buy something for yourself. If she gets made, apologize and she'll get over it.

[shawnomega]

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When I was dating my girl she tried to control me, I don't need a girl to sit there and watch me play. As well as the fact that I don't play all the time, but the way I figure it is it's about communication, and moderation. If you keep blowing here off to play your game then I can understand, but the minute she started tossing out when I could hang out with my friends and how long I could game? Well lets just say ask she was done I told her " I don't even let my own mother talk to me like that, we are done " lol. Anyways I think the girl of my dreams will understand that I game, I think the biggest key is to lay out your expectations in the beginning. Because when it comes to control, it may start with video games but then it evolves into a full on control when they see they can control that they go for bigger and better things.

[shawnpatrick78]

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I'm not married and don't live w/ my gf but some of these responses are starting to worry me. How does a man become so powerless that his woman applies strict rules that limit his gaming time?

It's called responsibility. If you want kids and a family, it means less time for yourself. If you want more time for you, don't get married and don't have kids, be single for the rest of your life, and bang random chicks. You'll probably be happier single until your 50 and lonely.

[CMH]

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My wife thinks I'm a nerd when it comes to video games. She calls the OS group my Cyber-Buddies. I told her she was just jealous. Gotta a Lovely Wife and I would not trade her for the world except Nba 2K11.

Love it.

I don't have friends that visit message boards and I'm not sure I'll have a gf that does either.

This one girl I am talking to said she hates video games. I don't care what she hates, she's not stopping me from gaming. I barely get enough game time in as it is (without her even in the picture) because of work and other interests.

I'm always about making time for somebody, but I've always made it clear to women that there is me time and you time. The important thing is mostly making sure you are creating enough you time for them. I also don't like to date women that have zero independence. A girl that makes her entire life about spending time with me is not someone I can chill with on a daily basis. I want them to be able to do their own thing because I want to do my own thing too.

In my opinion, a woman is a compliment to my life. I don't need one to be happy. I'd just like one to add to what I already have. If she can't understand that, I'll move on. NBA 2K11 will never get angry with me.

[threes_co]

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It's called responsibility. If you want kids and a family, it means less time for yourself. If you want more time for you, don't get married and don't have kids, be single for the rest of your life, and bang random chicks. You'll probably be happier single until your 50 and lonely.

What the hell does your wife restricting your playing time have to do w/ responsibility? If I pay bills, give the wife attention, etc., there is no way I'm going to let my spouse walk all over me. If you enjoy your spouse setting limits for you, good for you, but I would not tolerate that.

To each his own.

[TarHeelPhenom]

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My girlfriend loves the Wii so she plays a little; but she will not ever understand how hardcore gamers play so much. She is a quality time type lady and I know that we will have some misunderstandings when i get my hands on this game lol.

That was one of the positives with living the single life; you never have to worry about sharing your time. You could just ball as much as you wanted. But, i wouldn't trade her so I must compromise.

P.S. I cannot believe I just said that. it must be older age talking.

[hlhbk]

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I may not be the best example here but I had a lot of issues with previous girls telling me I coudn't continue gaming since "it's for kids". I already decided I wasn't going to stop gaming unless i lost interest so I would tell them that they couldn't read or whatever their favorite hobby was and we would break up.

When I met my wife (who doesn't love games, but doesn't hate them either) I told her two things: 1. There was a good chance to get a job in IT I would be leaving the state soon, and 2. I was a gamer and was not gonna stop doing it. I told my wife if she wasn't ok with those two things we shouldn't even start dating.

Needless to say we are still together and I am picking up NBA 2K11 on Tuesday, and then Fallout New Vegas, and The Force Unleashed 2 in the next couple weeks.

If the girl truely loves you then she will accept all aspects of what you enjoy and want to do with your life. If you really love gaming make it known you aren't going to change and she needs to deal with it. If you don't you will end up having issues down the line.

That all being said you need to be ok with everything she loves doing before you say that to her. You also need to make sure your life is balanced so you can make time for her and your job, etc etc.

[big_larry]

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My girl hates video game, I cant even play them while she is at my house, I either have to play them while she is sleep or gone. But she will buy them for me.

[JWiLL02]

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Damn.

I realize even more now how lucky I am after reading through this thread! I knew that already but wow, some of you guys need to sack up. I joke, I joke.

My girlfriend bought me my PS3, PSP and 2nd 360! Not because I couldn't afford them, but her exact reasoning was something like "I wanna play!" She picked up Surf''s Up, LEGO Batman and LEGO Harry Potter and is completely content playing those 3 games about once every 2 weeks. LOL

When she has a big test/assignment (which is often with biomedical sciences) and needs to concentrate she instructs me to "Go play 2K".

Life is good.

[TajDeni]

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Luckily for me my current gf couldnt give a hoot if i play,i actually got her into some DS games which she plays on and off,She still calls me a nerd tho i dont understand why?

you know my girl calls me a nerd sometimes....why? only she knows...i think its like a nice way of making fun of us 4 playing games...cause thats what alot girl invision so called nerds doing with their time....i guess they'd mostly figured we'd out grow it...but like i tell my girl sometimes, kids cant play the games i play, they're too sophisticated and not targeted towards young kids...

anyhow when she says ima nerd, in my head i be like..whatever! But to her i be like but you love this nerd tho...she be like yes i do...then i say, well get over here and show a nerd just how much you love nerds...i get my kiss, smack her on the @ss...and say, now beat it i got nerdy things to do, and i get right back to gaming

the nerd thing is funny tho

[x_irish6]

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My wife calls my "obsession" with basketball (& basketball games) my porn. She's like, "you're looking at your porn again/playing with your porn again".

If she does complain a little, I'll say to her, is it really that bad of a vice to have. I'm at home here with you, heck a lot of other guys go out drinking all night drinking, cheating, have gambling problems. When I put it into perspective for her, then she gets it. She may not love it, but she understands it & knows that's just part of my makeup that was in me before she met me & won't change.

These days, I go on & off gaming, play quite a bit for 2 weeks straight, then won't touch the PS3 for up to a month. Obviously around this time of year, I'll be playing a bit more.

For me, it's give & take with her. We now have a baby together, so there's additional give & take now. If I'm playing, it'll be for no more than an hour or two. Anything more would cause major issues because I'm not spending anytime with my daughter. Besides, there isn't much spare time on weeknights anyways between getting home from work, dinner, etc before bed to get any more than about an hour in anyways. Weekends are better for it.

I'm not going to go tell you to dump the gf like others have. I will say this though, she can't complain about you spending your hard earned money if she's out there shopping for new shoes or whatever else. That would get on my nerve.

I actually have used her input into games like CH 2k8, FIFA 10 & NBA 2k games. I'll ask what team she thinks I should use for Association/Legacy. Whether I should make a deal? She's picked up enough basketball acumen over the last 5 years to know who David Lee is & that she thinks Lebron is arrogant. She doesn't like Kobe at all, but knows he's a good player. She thinks commentators overrate John Wall

[KodeRed2Klub]

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I'm married. My wife doesn't hate videogames, but she doesn't understand why I have to get this game when I have 2k10 already. But, to me this game shouldn't be a problem to any relationship unless there is no balance and the game takes away from time spent with ur gf, wife, etc. My wife has her reality shows and Next Top Model and I have my NBA 2k11.

[NDAlum]

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I believe I have a great situation. I found a girl who is an incredibly awesome person. I've dated quite a few girls and none have come close. I want my space and she wants hers. I like to plays sports video games and she likes to read. She calls me a nerd, but she only does it to tease me and she laughs when she says it.

I could not be with somebody who wanted me to stop doing something that I enjoyed.

[tomzenns]

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My fiancée thinks video games are awesome. She also loves sports. She watches me play Madden and gets into it. She gets interested in the whole season and how things are going. She doesn't play sports games, but plays Halo and Oblivion when I'm not there. I made the decision not to get 2k11 on the release date as previously planned because of money issues. I'll still have it before the season starts, just not on Tuesday. She actually WANTED me to get it no mater what, because she knows how long I have been talking about this game, but I made the call in the end. So what does she do? Well she works at target and at her store 2k10 is only $19.99, I had traded copy in for the pre-order on 2k11, so when she came home from work she handed me another copy of 2k10 to hold me over until I start my new job and have more money. She rules. She's my best friend, and thats why I love her.

I could never date anyone who thinks video games are a "waste of time". How fun or awesome could they possibly be?