How do you forget your baby in a car?

**ExtremeGamer** · 03-26-2009, 09:45 AM

Re: How do you forget your baby in a car?

Overnight?!!?

I could see it happening if you ran into a store (never would with me, but some people are idiots), but how do you come home from being out and go to bed forgetting to tuck your 7 month into the crib?! I mean, WTF?!

Lock her up and throw away the key.

**MC Fatigue** · 03-26-2009, 09:57 AM

Re: How do you forget your baby in a car?

Originally posted by ExtremeGamer

Overnight?!!?

I could see it happening if you ran into a store (never would with me, but some people are idiots), but how do you come home from being out and go to bed forgetting to tuck your 7 month into the crib?! I mean, WTF?!

Lock her up and throw away the key.

Exactly. I could easily see forgetting a quiet baby in the car going to a store when you were really busy, and had lots of chores to do and your mind was just filled up... But overnight? That's bull****.

**CMH** · 03-26-2009, 10:22 AM

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Weird case. She already had two children. Is the 3-year old getting out of the car on his/her own? Not sure. You have to wonder how she could raise two children with seemingly no problems and then suddenly forget her 7-month old child.

I'm not trying to give her a pass, but it just seems like it's more than her just not caring.

**Heelfan71** · 03-26-2009, 10:27 AM

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you would be surprised how often it happens. I hear about these stories a lot.

**fistofrage** · 03-26-2009, 10:33 AM

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Originally posted by Timmay

Exactly. I could easily see forgetting a quiet baby in the car going to a store when you were really busy, and had lots of chores to do and your mind was just filled up... But overnight? That's bull****.

I can't even see forgetting a baby when you go into a store. Thats a crime and they'll take your kids away for that too. You can't leave a baby unattended in a car not even for a minute.

Anyway, most 7 months olds are on a feeding and sleep schedule. Even if you did forget the kid in the car, you'd certainly have to know that 6pm bottle, 7pm diaper check, 7:30 bath and 8pm night time were critical times. Believe me, you know when your kids aren't around instinct kicks in.

Whatever excuse this lady comes up with is bunk. Its one thing to turn your back in the park for a split second and a tragedy happens when the kid runs out in the road as you were trying to round up the other children. Tragic, but unfortunately it happens. This can't be explained.

**trobinson97** · 03-26-2009, 04:05 PM

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Originally posted by fistofrage

Anyway, most 7 months olds are on a feeding and sleep schedule. Even if you did forget the kid in the car, you'd certainly have to know that 6pm bottle, 7pm diaper check, 7:30 bath and 8pm night time were critical times. Believe me, you know when your kids aren't around instinct kicks in.

This. When you have a child that young, or even children period, you're on a schedule and it really becomes second nature. She would have to have a real serious problem mentally to actually forget something like that, it isn't like forgetting to pay the phone bill.

**Trevytrev11** · 03-26-2009, 04:28 PM

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I have one child, so obviously my focus is on her and assume it would be the same with multiple kids though I understand with three kids, the focus is spread thinner, but my wife and I constantly have an eye on our daughter just in our house (and ten times more away from it)...if we don't hear her for a minute or two, we go looking for her. Regardless of what we are doing, we are almost always completely aware of what she is doing. To forget about her for an entire night is just beyond me. Every parent has lapses, but they are almost always temporary.

Makes me wonder if she went through something tragic and her mind just shut off (loss of a family member or something) or was she just a terrible parent whose mistakes finally caught up with her. As others have said, it would click that "Hey, I need to feed the baby"

As for leaving a kid in the car while you run into the store, I guess it used to be more socially acceptable, but today, it's not even an option. When I go the grocery store or Target or something, I debate whether to put her in the car before returning the cart to the rack or taking her with me to do it.

Did it say how the baby died? Ususally it seems when these kids are left in their car, it's in the middle of the summer with the windows rolled up and they die from the heat, but in this case, it was night time, so would it be suffocation from lack of air in the car or something?

**MC Fatigue** · 03-26-2009, 05:11 PM

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Originally posted by fistofrage

I can't even see forgetting a baby when you go into a store. Thats a crime and they'll take your kids away for that too. You can't leave a baby unattended in a car not even for a minute.

I don't know if you have a kid, but I do and I can easily see it happening.

I can't tell you how many times I was taking my daughter to daycare and forgot she was in the back, and started driving to school or work and then had that "doh!" moment and had to turn around.

It's not hard at all when they're being totally quiet, and you've got a lot of other things on your mind.

**fistofrage** · 03-26-2009, 05:24 PM

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Originally posted by Timmay

I don't know if you have a kid, but I do and I can easily see it happening.

I can't tell you how many times I was taking my daughter to daycare and forgot she was in the back, and started driving to school or work and then had that "doh!" moment and had to turn around.

It's not hard at all when they're being totally quiet, and you've got a lot of other things on your mind.

Yeah, I have a kid. But I always know when she's in the car which is every night. And it seems like most nights I have to run to the store but I never forget her.

After reading the story about the lady who almost lost custody of her kid because she got out of her car to give the slavation army some change at Christmas, I've always had that in the front of my mind. Its ridiculous, but that would be my luck.

**Blzer** · 03-26-2009, 06:51 PM

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Not defending the mom at all, but I actually didn't realize 7 month olds were that fragile. At most he was probably in the car for 14 hours. No food, water, or diaper changes for that short can kill him? I'm just surprised at the fact.

At any rate, throw her to the wolves!

**nc0ffey** · 03-26-2009, 07:06 PM

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...I had a baby??!

**ChubbyBanana** · 03-26-2009, 08:57 PM

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http://news.cincinnati.com/article/20080911/NEWS01/809110381

Not the first time this has happened.

**fistofrage** · 03-26-2009, 10:21 PM

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Originally posted by Blzer

Not defending the mom at all, but I actually didn't realize 7 month olds were that fragile. At most he was probably in the car for 14 hours. No food, water, or diaper changes for that short can kill him? I'm just surprised at the fact.

At any rate, throw her to the wolves!

They aren't that fragile if attended to. However, they often burp up and can choke if not attended to. They could get tangled in something, or something else could block their airways. But at first sign of danger they usually start to scream rather loudly, you have to be on watch for that.

There are plenty of infants that simply die in their sleep for many reasons and there is nothing you can do about Sudden infant death syndrome. It happens unfortunately.

But thats why these laws are in place to have an adult tending to children at all times because their life is so fragile.

I would tend to think that if a parent can completely forget about their 7 month old kid for an entire night, they were probably neglected at other times too.

Its hard to explain, but when you are a parent, that child comes first. Period. They just can't look after themselves.

My wife's co-worker had an 18 month old drown last summer. The dad thought she was inside with her Mom. The Mom thought the dad was playing with her outside. He was cleaning the grill and 20 minutes later they found the child face down in a pond. My heart sunk, I couldn't believe it. The family was devasted. These are good people who loved and cared for their children.

Bad things happen to the best of parents, its very sad. But I just can't imagine forgetting about a 7 month old, go to bed sleep through the night and then finally realize the kid was missing. You pretty much have to interact with a child constantly up until bedtime and then every couple of hours a 7 minth old is usually going to have to be fed and changed throughout the night. The story just doesn't make sense.

6pm Bottle/spoon feed baby food
6:30 change
7pm Bath
7:30 til 8 get ready for bed, tuck them in
Midnight feeding and change
4am change

would be a typical night, no way should you just "forget" to do those things, it doesn't add up.

**Jistic** · 03-27-2009, 08:50 AM

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As a parent of a 3 year old, if my child is out of my sight for more than a minute I ask my wife immediately where the boy is. I NEVER assume he's fine unless I can see it. I'd rather be too careful.

Lives can change, and end in an instant. I'd rather get my *** up and see for myself that he's ok. We've never house proofed our house when he was a baby, instead we stayed on top of him all the time. It's a lot of work, and it's work you don't always want to do.

I see women all the time at the grocery store gabbin on their phone while their kid is running around the parking lot. I had to grab one once because he was about to run in front of a truck.

Mom of course just yelled at her 5 yr old then went back to her conversation. Accidents happen, no doubt. There's also a lot of lazy, selfish parents.

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