Re: Negativity in Gaming??
Well I applaud you doing what was smart and necessary to protect your mental health, it doesn't seem as if a lot of people are ever that much into self-evaluation of their own selves, they prefer to instead evaluate others endlessly unfortunately.
Ditto with you on the sliders. I used to go into them and just fiddle and never get it right because I think you start out-thinking yourself and it just gets so complicated you even wonder what in the world you were thinking going down this rabbit hole? LOL, so I really super do try to never mess with sliders anymore.
I'm 53 and so I've been around pre-internet, the internets start, growth, etc. I started my IT career working at a computer store so I've been on this thing since day one pretty much.
We are currently going through the keyboard warrior-self hatred phase apparently. And if you hate yourself, or maybe not your entire self, but something about yourself, then it seems obvious that you have anger, and that anger is fed some solace by insulting someone else and, hopefully, really also making their day bad cuz F***** them!!
That's the greatly shared attitude I see and I too was caught up in it, although I honestly never went personal, I'd often try to make people look bad if they disagreed and I just realized, with therapy, that it was hurting me personally and my own mental health because i'm not a person who really enjoys hurting others, as corny as it sounds, I compared it to a sort of suicide bomber who is willing to inflict some pain or death on himself if he hurts, or kills others. It's just a really, really bad thing to get sucked into and so I have stopped arguing. I'll debate but if it goes into arguing I move on or simply say something nice, if I can, to that person.
I also had the same issues with gaming and me thinking how awful things were, how Madden was never going to be where I wanted it, and just total disenchantment with the industry. So honestly I took about 6 or 7 months off from gaming and just thought about it all. And when I decided to return I came back on board with new eyes, as if I was sort of new to gaming again.
I was then really able to appreciate the positives and the great amount of choice and amazing worlds, that's right WORLDS, not games that these guys and gals who grew up on games were now making. I have found since I just kinda roll with the punches, as they say, and try to laugh off some bugs, not get fixated on them, however I can deal with it.
It's not like I just say all games are great and ho hum bugs are cool too. Because if I find something, say a bug, that really is detrimental to me enjoying a game, I won't go to a forum or Facebook or Twitter, I go to the company's website and submit a ticket or comment.
I have no issues at all with folks like say LBzRule, who can offer true constructive criticisms...or even explain what they have issues with a game about, but it's just being negative to try to rain on others parades is what I take some issue with, as if the goal is just to really get people to agree with you that the game has absolutely no redeeming value and how dare you like it?
I have found too that the biggest thing to being happier is to really stop trying to sell anything, or anyone, in any way shape or form to someone else. Especially those who are resistant to it. So like I might say to my friend Bob "Hey Bob Forza Motorsport is awesome" and he'd say "Oh it's horrible, the car physics are absolute trash (someone said this to me for real btw, LOL)" and my response would be "Oh ok, so where do you want to get lunch?"
Because why do we really do that? Why do I want Bob to like the same game that I like? It seems instinctual really. I think it's the desire that, when you find something fun, you just want others to have that fun too.
But there is no logic in really trying to bully someone into having fun "your way" if you stop and think about it. The problem though is it's an emotional, cave-man type way of thinking that gets into even the best of our heads. Once you can realize the folly of that way of thinking though, man your life becomes so much easier. It's not easy though, I am still working on this myself..
Well I applaud you doing what was smart and necessary to protect your mental health, it doesn't seem as if a lot of people are ever that much into self-evaluation of their own selves, they prefer to instead evaluate others endlessly unfortunately.
Ditto with you on the sliders. I used to go into them and just fiddle and never get it right because I think you start out-thinking yourself and it just gets so complicated you even wonder what in the world you were thinking going down this rabbit hole? LOL, so I really super do try to never mess with sliders anymore.
I'm 53 and so I've been around pre-internet, the internets start, growth, etc. I started my IT career working at a computer store so I've been on this thing since day one pretty much.
We are currently going through the keyboard warrior-self hatred phase apparently. And if you hate yourself, or maybe not your entire self, but something about yourself, then it seems obvious that you have anger, and that anger is fed some solace by insulting someone else and, hopefully, really also making their day bad cuz F***** them!!
That's the greatly shared attitude I see and I too was caught up in it, although I honestly never went personal, I'd often try to make people look bad if they disagreed and I just realized, with therapy, that it was hurting me personally and my own mental health because i'm not a person who really enjoys hurting others, as corny as it sounds, I compared it to a sort of suicide bomber who is willing to inflict some pain or death on himself if he hurts, or kills others. It's just a really, really bad thing to get sucked into and so I have stopped arguing. I'll debate but if it goes into arguing I move on or simply say something nice, if I can, to that person.
I also had the same issues with gaming and me thinking how awful things were, how Madden was never going to be where I wanted it, and just total disenchantment with the industry. So honestly I took about 6 or 7 months off from gaming and just thought about it all. And when I decided to return I came back on board with new eyes, as if I was sort of new to gaming again.
I was then really able to appreciate the positives and the great amount of choice and amazing worlds, that's right WORLDS, not games that these guys and gals who grew up on games were now making. I have found since I just kinda roll with the punches, as they say, and try to laugh off some bugs, not get fixated on them, however I can deal with it.
It's not like I just say all games are great and ho hum bugs are cool too. Because if I find something, say a bug, that really is detrimental to me enjoying a game, I won't go to a forum or Facebook or Twitter, I go to the company's website and submit a ticket or comment.
I have no issues at all with folks like say LBzRule, who can offer true constructive criticisms...or even explain what they have issues with a game about, but it's just being negative to try to rain on others parades is what I take some issue with, as if the goal is just to really get people to agree with you that the game has absolutely no redeeming value and how dare you like it?
I have found too that the biggest thing to being happier is to really stop trying to sell anything, or anyone, in any way shape or form to someone else. Especially those who are resistant to it. So like I might say to my friend Bob "Hey Bob Forza Motorsport is awesome" and he'd say "Oh it's horrible, the car physics are absolute trash (someone said this to me for real btw, LOL)" and my response would be "Oh ok, so where do you want to get lunch?"
Because why do we really do that? Why do I want Bob to like the same game that I like? It seems instinctual really. I think it's the desire that, when you find something fun, you just want others to have that fun too.
But there is no logic in really trying to bully someone into having fun "your way" if you stop and think about it. The problem though is it's an emotional, cave-man type way of thinking that gets into even the best of our heads. Once you can realize the folly of that way of thinking though, man your life becomes so much easier. It's not easy though, I am still working on this myself..
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