Ever been cheated on in any of your past relationships?

[WTF]

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A woman that has kept her legs closed for 8 years to any other man isn't exactly loose. You aren't a hoochie and stay monogomous for 8 years. If that ish happened after 8 years, something happened as far as how emotionally connected she was to him. A woman doesn't screw around when she feels wanted and loved by the man she wants and loves... unless she's a hoochie, it's that simple.

I'm calling BS again. I was w/ my ex for 7 years... we were getting married, and a month before, I had found out she was sleeping w/ someone else. Even she said, it was nothing I did, or didn't do. She wanted to "hold off" until marriage... but that didn't stop her from going out and doing things behind my back. Needless to say, we split, and she has regretted it every since.

It is not always the man's fault... I don't care what your "reasoning" is for thinking that.

[TarHeelMan]

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Some dudes are just odd like that. My brother in law's friend's wife stepped out on him, too. Difference between him and my brother in law, was that he actually caught his wife. He had come home for some reason during lunch, and about halfway down the block, he saw this cat coming out of his house. He went and rang the doorbell, and the wife, thinking it was loverboy, started to say something like, "back for more" or something like that. When she saw her husband standing there, she was just floored... When my wife told me the story, I was sure she was a goner... No way a trick like that could be kept around. Especially since she had just had their baby, and she's allowing this dude to creep in their house, around the baby. Who knows, he was probably playing with the kid, getting it all confused. I went nutz when I heard he was keeping her around, forgiving her. I always thought dudes like that were desperate, like they couldn't get any other woman... My brother in law and his homeboy, they're regular cats who could pull a chick if they put their mind to it. Go figure.

[the_future420]

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Never been cheated on. I broke up with my last GF after I cheated on her, but only because I knew she was going to cheat on me sooner or later and the relationship was going sour. If a girl cheats on me though, she's done. I really can't see a girl cheating on me as long as my game is tight though. Last year, it wasn't. Not getting into another relationship until it is.

[Dallasin2K3]

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I'm not really sure if I have (LOL). I've never been cheated on in a serious relationship that I wanted to go somewhere, I can say that much (as far as I know). I've also never cheated on a significant other. I will say that although I do tend to be a bit "outgoing" (), once I make the decision to be exclusive, that's that, and there's no two ways about it until the relationship is over. Additionally, assuming there were no kids or anything to complicate the relationship, I would never tolerate cheating for a second - I'd throw her out immediately. I hold my partner to the same standards I hold myself.

[Dallasin2K3]

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I'm calling BS again. I was w/ my ex for 7 years... we were getting married, and a month before, I had found out she was sleeping w/ someone else. Even she said, it was nothing I did, or didn't do. She wanted to "hold off" until marriage... but that didn't stop her from going out and doing things behind my back. Needless to say, we split, and she has regretted it every since.

It is not always the man's fault... I don't care what your "reasoning" is for thinking that.

Agreed. I would not say "once a cheater, always a cheater", because women (and men, for that matter) will view different relationships differently. Sometimes, they don't view it as serious and have no problem cheating. Other times, they view it as serious and would not consider it.

I will say, though, that once a woman or man has taken the step to view a relationship in such a light that cheating is an option for them, that light never goes away in that particular relationship. If she's put the relationship in that category, either forget about it or ask yourself if you're okay with that **** happening again... because it will.

[Dallasin2K3]

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My ex-girlfriend in college, who i had been with since high school, was at a party with me. I turn around and she is making out with my best friend! Man, that sucked. Luckily we broke up and I met my wife a few weeks later, and now I am lucky enough to have the greatest son in the world.

So, while it may seem bad at the time, theres no reason to be with someone who would sink as low to cheat, and things are always ten times better when you step back and look at whole situation a few weeks later.

That's why they say hindsight is 20/20 and sometimes things happen for a reason. At the time, you can't see it, but give it some time.

[MassNole]

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If you got that feeling in the pit of your stomache, and you know the one I'm talking about....She did it.

I know

We saw the guy at a bar like a year later, thankfully our friend was sober enough to convince us jumping him was a bad idea. To make it worse, he was one of my teammates on the lacrosse team.

[eXperiment63]

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It is not always the man's fault... I don't care what your "reasoning" is for thinking that.

Well thank you Captain OBVIOUS! Nobody ever said it was...

Usually when a woman cheats, especially after that long, it is the guy's fault.

Where do you happen to see always in there?

[jmood88]

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A woman that has kept her legs closed for 8 years to any other man isn't exactly loose. You aren't a hoochie and stay monogomous for 8 years. If that ish happened after 8 years, something happened as far as how emotionally connected she was to him. A woman doesn't screw around when she feels wanted and loved by the man she wants and loves... unless she's a hoochie, it's that simple.

Women are not perfect and it's not the man's fault if she cheats.

[jmood88]

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Well thank you Captain OBVIOUS! Nobody ever said it was...

Where do you happen to see always in there?

How can you say that usually it's the guys fault? What kind of sense does that make?

[eXperiment63]

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How can you say that usually it's the guys fault? What kind of sense does that make?

No, women aren't perfect, and neither are men.

And how can I say it's usually the guy's fault? Women generally cheat due to emotional factors and attraction rather than the physical side, which is what guys tend to cheat over. That is not saying there are not any women who cheat over physical attraction, there are. They are just exponentially outnumbered by those who do it for emotional attraction. If a women becomes emotionally attracted to a man other than her own, obviously that man isn't satisfying her emotional needs. That is not to say that is always the case, but it generally tends to be.

[JohnnytheSkin]

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While I've never been cheated on (to my knowledge ) I was the cheater my freshman year of college.

A girl I was dating the last part of my senior year of high school and over the summer went to CSU (Ft. Collins, CO for you non-geography cats) and I was in Golden (home of the Coors Brewery). While we saw each other for grope fests and other unsavory things every other week or so, I ended up going on the side with a girl who was a long time family friend that bloomed into a beautiful rose (can post pics if you want...natch). So while the weekly visits from the Rams chick started to fade, the heat was rising on the local babe (30 minutes is a MUCH better drive than an hour and a half plus).

Sure I felt bad, and things fell apart locally as well as abroad (the whole "long distance" thing) and I wouldn't advocate it. My studies suffered HARD my second semester, in no small part to the female drama. While it was fun, it's definately NOT advisable.

The ironic thing is that I'm still great friends with the "other" woman, while my actual girlfriend at the time and I last communicated four years ago (it all went down eight years ago).

[TheMatrix31]

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I don't think that's cheating. They weren't together anymore. Now, I do think it's wrong to hook up with a friend's ex...so soon anyway and without his blessing.

Yeah, but this guy was my best friend. Not just any friend. He was my BEST friend. And when things were going rough, all he would do was try to "get me through it" and "support" me. So basically he would be one way with me, then go behind my back and do that ****. Not only that, HE had a girlfriend at the time he made out with my ex, so he was cheating on his GF also (not the first time he had done that).

The guy was a POS, and the writing was on the wall, but it's good that I got it out of the way.

I haven't talked to that ******* since he told me that her and him were basically going to start going out (a few months after that trip). I found out that they hooked up just a few months ago....

[Graphik]

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No, women aren't perfect, and neither are men.

And how can I say it's usually the guy's fault? Women generally cheat due to emotional factors and attraction rather than the physical side, which is what guys tend to cheat over. That is not saying there are not any women who cheat over physical attraction, there are. They are just exponentially outnumbered by those who do it for emotional attraction. If a women becomes emotionally attracted to a man other than her own, obviously that man isn't satisfying her emotional needs. That is not to say that is always the case, but it generally tends to be.

I agree. Only other case being that its not the guys fault is if your girl was a nymph to begin with. If its not that, its usually the guys fault.