Dealing with a ****** 'past'...?

[Emjay]

Re: Dealing with a ****** 'past'...?

My thing is this: Why do people think their gf/bf lives began the day that they got together? Everyone has a past whether good or bad. If you ask about it you may hear some things you like and things you won't like. If something like past relationships are sensitive to a person, they shouldn't ask about it, IMO. Sounds like your bro has a good woman and not to be harsh, he needs to get over himself and not let someone good get away.

[RubenDouglas]

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maybe in his eyes, shes no longer the perfect girl becase she fell for some old guy with money. i can see the appeal factor falling quite alot if you know certain things about the past.

if i knew this girl was messing around with this other guy who was a complete jerk who just didnt give a damn about anything and the girl still stayed in the relationship, i can see where you can lose that appeal. its like , i love you the way you are now, but i cant help but look at the past and wonder why the hell you went out with so and so." its like an unthinkable act.

it can really lead to a lonely life

[Court_vision]

Re: Dealing with a ****** 'past'...?

maybe in his eyes, shes no longer the perfect girl becase she fell for some old guy with money. i can see the appeal factor falling quite alot if you know certain things about the past.

if i knew this girl was messing around with this other guy who was a complete jerk who just didnt give a damn about anything and the girl still stayed in the relationship, i can see where you can lose that appeal. its like , i love you the way you are now, but i cant help but look at the past and wonder why the hell you went out with so and so." its like an unthinkable act.

it can really lead to a lonely life

You know, I think that's where he's at. Like, he thought she was great...but then started to think "hey, you slept with this old guy for a year...how could you?" etc.

I spoke to him the other day...he said he saw a photo CD at her place. Showed her and the older ex out at a picnic, holding hands near a waterfall he said.

I think that helped him. He saw them as a "couple", doing "couple" things.

I think all he saw before that was some older dude pumping away etc...

I am telling you...I have a lot of male friends and a lot of female friends. Women just don't get hung up on this stuff.

Fellas though...it bugs them BIG time.

[3rdAnswer]

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I'm reminded of a line which I read in Malcolm X' autobiography; I had always kind of managed my relationships with the same credo or attitude (this was in HS when I read it), but it was very interesting to see it there in print, being offered as advice. He said something to the effect of, "Never ask a woman about her past sexual history... Either she'll tell you a lie, and you still won't know, or she'll tell you the truth, and you may not have wanted to hear it in the first place."

THM always provides us with the best post of the thread.

[Quick6]

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No offense but it sounds like you brother is kinda a douche.