Alright... I'm at a loss for words right now. I came here because I don't know who to tell or if I can even tell anybody.
I just graduated from TCU (originally from a state in the midwest) and am going to medical school next year. My younger sister just finished her sophomore year at TCU and is pre-dental, doing well in school.
My father, who has been working all along, has been adamant for the past year about wanting to bring my little sister out of TCU to go to school at home. He cites money issues (I had a full ride scholarship), which we do have, but it seems like that shouldn't be prohibitive. My mother was always against this and just recently got a job in order to pay for her education if my father refused to support her any longer. My sister is obviously very rooted down here now and forcing her to leave would be disasterous in a lot of ways for her. My mother had been 100% supportive of her the entire time. My parents have an awful marriage that probably won't last any longer than it has to.
Well, my sister got a call yesterday from my father who told her that she had to come home or take out loans to pay for the rest of her education, go into huge debt, possibly screw herself over, etc. The shocker? My mother had SUDDENLY done an about face and agreed with my father that she should come home. This completely shattered my sister's confidence in her parents and really shook her up, as my mom had been her backbone through all of this.
The problem is that I think I know why my mother did an about face, and I'm the only one who knows. I think she's been cheating on my dad, and he found out. (Don't ask why I know that.) I think that he set my mom down and told her that he'd tell all the kids what she's been doing unless she sided with my dad and got my sister to come home. It's not at all because she thinks it's a good idea - she doesn't, but she's backed herself into a corner, been blackmailed, and doesn't want the kids to resent her.
So now - in one day, new job and all - she's also stopped supporting my sister in her efforts to stay down here (which is baffling to everyone except me), and both parents have demanded that she come home from TCU and go to a commuter college in our hometown.
I don't know what to do.
I just graduated from TCU (originally from a state in the midwest) and am going to medical school next year. My younger sister just finished her sophomore year at TCU and is pre-dental, doing well in school.
My father, who has been working all along, has been adamant for the past year about wanting to bring my little sister out of TCU to go to school at home. He cites money issues (I had a full ride scholarship), which we do have, but it seems like that shouldn't be prohibitive. My mother was always against this and just recently got a job in order to pay for her education if my father refused to support her any longer. My sister is obviously very rooted down here now and forcing her to leave would be disasterous in a lot of ways for her. My mother had been 100% supportive of her the entire time. My parents have an awful marriage that probably won't last any longer than it has to.
Well, my sister got a call yesterday from my father who told her that she had to come home or take out loans to pay for the rest of her education, go into huge debt, possibly screw herself over, etc. The shocker? My mother had SUDDENLY done an about face and agreed with my father that she should come home. This completely shattered my sister's confidence in her parents and really shook her up, as my mom had been her backbone through all of this.
The problem is that I think I know why my mother did an about face, and I'm the only one who knows. I think she's been cheating on my dad, and he found out. (Don't ask why I know that.) I think that he set my mom down and told her that he'd tell all the kids what she's been doing unless she sided with my dad and got my sister to come home. It's not at all because she thinks it's a good idea - she doesn't, but she's backed herself into a corner, been blackmailed, and doesn't want the kids to resent her.
So now - in one day, new job and all - she's also stopped supporting my sister in her efforts to stay down here (which is baffling to everyone except me), and both parents have demanded that she come home from TCU and go to a commuter college in our hometown.
I don't know what to do.
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