Ever fallen for the wrong woman?

[CaptainZombie]

Re: Ever fallen for the wrong woman?

Calling for the poster Graphik. Calling Graphik, do you read me? Graphik, where are ya?

I wonder how Graphik's relationship is going? Wasn't he dating the younger girl that her parents didn't know his age?

[Court_vision]

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I wonder how Graphik's relationship is going? Wasn't he dating the younger girl that her parents didn't know his age?

Yeah, he was dating a schoolgirl...told her folks he was 21, instead of 31. I think that was it.

He's now in jail being bashed each night. Hasn't sat down for a month.

[TarHeelBorn]

Re: Ever fallen for the wrong woman?

i think I fall in love with the wrong girl every weekend.

[Admiral50]

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Well nearly 2 weeks on and I'm still in a hole, emotionally. Damn.

Really weird though, we've become even closer and I think and even some of our friends have said, that it's like we are doing everything 2 people in a relationship would do (minus the physical contact) without actually being in a relationship.

I know that probably means we're best friends but I think we both have thoughts of what would happen if you actually took it any further.

It's just scary. The consequences, if it didn't work out, would be huge for me at least. Man, it's now turning into a best friends VS boyfiend/girlfriend thing.

Ughh.

[Graphik]

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Yeah, he was dating a schoolgirl...told her folks he was 21, instead of 31. I think that was it.

He's now in jail being bashed each night. Hasn't sat down for a month.

Yea, I now go by the name of "Poo-Easy".

[Graphik]

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Calling for the poster Graphik. Calling Graphik, do you read me? Graphik, where are ya?

I must of missed this thread. I am now infamously known as the OS Molester. My status grows stronger and stronger with each passing moment. Instead of hijacing Admirals thread, I'll update you in mine. I'll also comment in this one after I'm update. Hit you guys with a little predatorial knowledge.

[Graphik]

Re: Ever fallen for the wrong woman?

Alright man, after reading this entire thread and all of your comments, I've got to tell you what I think. I dont know the entire story of course but what I noticed in your very first post was that this lady friend of yours was pretty much trying to throw you the cooch.

Exhibit A: She's quite the extrovert and extremely vain, but for some reason it doesn't bother me. Then the things that do bother me, like the fact that she is pretty open with her sexuality and need for 'booty calls' still aren't enough to put me off.

Ok, so this lady is freindly, outgoing and is a little full of herself right? Well she just got out of a relationship and was looking for a rebound dude to fufill whatever she was missing out of her last relationship IMO. You dropped the ball when you put yourself into the friendship zone.

Exhibit B:2 weekends ago we talked on the phone for 10 hours in the one day. That was followed by 6 hours the next day and catching a movie, lunch and a walk in the park the day after.
Everyday for the next week we were on the phone again for 3-6 hours every night. Pretty much opening up about anything and everything, both more than we've ever told anyone before strangely.

WTF are you nuts!?? You put yourself in the position you're in now by being a tad bit on the friendly side. Nothing wrong with having a long fufilling talk the first few days. Of course you gotta get to know eachother outside of the workplace. But you went on a date, lunch and a nice walk without making the slightest of moves I bet. You say you want to treat her like a princess? F dat, be a man. She probably explained to you every single bad thing her ex ever did and I bet you tried to do the exact opposite which in turn makes you phoney. Well not phoney but you tried to hard to please her since she was going through a rough time and you liked her. I've been there before so I know. I bet during that entire time, not once did you tell her how you really feel about her. Friends for life? Not gonna happen.

Exhibit C: In the beginning there were signs that she wanted to be more than friends but she actually said to another friend of mine that she would like to date me but is worried she'd break my heart and even that I knew she would.

That window of opportunity is closed my friend. Once you reach the friend zone, there is no way out. Actually there is but the work you would have to put in is'nt worth it in my opinion. She actually thought about dating you for a while but playing the sensitive friend role probably made her realize that you were to pudding pop for her. You just said she was vain and extrovert. She needs to be checked every once in a while. I'm not saying to flat out diss her but by talking to her a week straight made you availible whenever she wanted you and that turns most females off. You should of been a challenge.

Well nearly 2 weeks on and I'm still in a hole, emotionally. Damn.

Really weird though, we've become even closer and I think and even some of our friends have said, that it's like we are doing everything 2 people in a relationship would do (minus the physical contact) without actually being in a relationship.

I know that probably means we're best friends but I think we both have thoughts of what would happen if you actually took it any further.

It's just scary. The consequences, if it didn't work out, would be huge for me at least. Man, it's now turning into a best friends VS boyfiend/girlfriend thing.

Ughh

If you really want to be with this girl..... I dont know if you do because you seem content on being just a good friend, I say ignore her for a while. Make her miss you and your friendship. You should have opened up and tell you whats really on your mind from the jump. If you wanted to get the cooch, she probably would of gave it to you without the hassle. If you wanted it to be more serious, you should of played your cards right in the beggining. Now you've fallen back to the friend zone.

and finnally....Exhibit D: that it's like we are doing everything 2 people in a relationship would do (minus the physical contact) without actually being in a relationship.

To me this spells "Cuddle-Bitch".

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Dont get offended though, this is just what I see based off the information you gave us so far. For all I know I could be completely wrong. And as far as credibility goes, yes I know that I am dating a HSer but dont let that discredit what I do know. I've been studying the female mindset for years now and I dont have a girl problems. Relationship problems? Yes. Dating scene problems? Not at all.

[Admiral50]

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Nah not offended at all.

It's not really your fault because you don't know everything and although you do make some decent points, a lot of it is actually way off. I guess it's not easy summing up people or situations in a few lines.

Anyway, we had a pretty deep chat last night. Talking about how we have brightened each other's lives and the possibility of actually moving forward into a proper relationship. Off to work in a couple hours so I guess we can continue it over lunch.

I guess it's hard to explain, but it's definitely the first time in my life where I would accept a close friendship or proper relationship with someone, rather than trying to settle for one. Maybe that means I do love her in some way or that we still have learning to do about each other. We'll see.

[RoyalBoyle78]

Re: Ever fallen for the wrong woman?

First things first... yes I have recently ended my 4 year relationship/engagement, but it was a fairly mutual agreement in the end and although it's gonna hurt, regardless because of the amount of time and effort we put in, I can say pretty confidently that I'm not on the rebound so to speak.

Anyway, I've grown really close to this woman I work with. Really quickly too. As friends I guess.
2 weekends ago we talked on the phone for 10 hours in the one day. That was followed by 6 hours the next day and catching a movie, lunch and a walk in the park the day after.
Everyday for the next week we were on the phone again for 3-6 hours every night. Pretty much opening up about anything and everything, both more than we've ever told anyone before strangely.

Pretty serious and intense I guess. But the thing is, she is so different from me. Almost opposite's I guess.

She's quite the extrovert and extremely vain, but for some reason it doesn't bother me. Then the things that do bother me, like the fact that she is pretty open with her sexuality and need for 'booty calls' still aren't enough to put me off.

She's just finalising her divorce to a guy who treated her badly and by the sounds of it has never been treated like a princess and wouldn't know how to take it if she were. Me on the other hand, have always treated girlfriends like that I guess and she knows that.

I'm would be totally content with having her as a best friend for life (something we've already talked about) because she is that much of a special person to me but I am really falling for her. There's just a different connection with us and an extremely deep feeling of mutual understanding and care.

I'm 30 years old and think this stuff is for teenagers, yet when I am with her at work, my stomach just churns and my heart beats a hundred miles an hour. It's crazy.

So yeah, some of the stuff she says and does, can bother me but why I am still crazy about her?

In the beginning there were signs that she wanted to be more than friends but she actually said to another friend of mine that she would like to date me but is worried she'd break my heart and even that I knew she would.

Now though, I'm getting a lot of signs that she is really backing off.

Anyway, that's not the important thing. If she doesn't want more than a friendship that's cool, but it's not making my pain any better. I'm a grown man who's falling for possibly, the totally wrong woman. I don't get life.

do your thing and get out, your 30 and your in your prime, go out date, don't get caught up to fast, in the end you will just get yourself hurt again. Let her be your booty call and thats all..Trust me.

[Graphik]

Re: Ever fallen for the wrong woman?

Nah not offended at all.

It's not really your fault because you don't know everything and although you do make some decent points, a lot of it is actually way off. I guess it's not easy summing up people or situations in a few lines.

Anyway, we had a pretty deep chat last night. Talking about how we have brightened each other's lives and the possibility of actually moving forward into a proper relationship. Off to work in a couple hours so I guess we can continue it over lunch.

I guess it's hard to explain, but it's definitely the first time in my life where I would accept a close friendship or proper relationship with someone, rather than trying to settle for one. Maybe that means I do love her in some way or that we still have learning to do about each other. We'll see.

Thats good and all but I dont really believe in guy/gal friendships. Nothing wrong with having them in the workplace but as far as outside of the wrokplace, its nothing I like doing. What happens when you or her get into another relationship? No matter how much you can explain yourself to a significant other, they will never understand you having a close friend of the opposite sex.

Anyway, let me know how it turned out with you two yesterday. Sounds interesting the direction yall are headed.

[Coach Bryant]

Re: Ever fallen for the wrong woman?

Alright man, after reading this entire thread and all of your comments, I've got to tell you what I think. I dont know the entire story of course but what I noticed in your very first post was that this lady friend of yours was pretty much trying to throw you the cooch.

Exhibit A: She's quite the extrovert and extremely vain, but for some reason it doesn't bother me. Then the things that do bother me, like the fact that she is pretty open with her sexuality and need for 'booty calls' still aren't enough to put me off.

Ok, so this lady is freindly, outgoing and is a little full of herself right? Well she just got out of a relationship and was looking for a rebound dude to fufill whatever she was missing out of her last relationship IMO. You dropped the ball when you put yourself into the friendship zone.

Exhibit B:2 weekends ago we talked on the phone for 10 hours in the one day. That was followed by 6 hours the next day and catching a movie, lunch and a walk in the park the day after.
Everyday for the next week we were on the phone again for 3-6 hours every night. Pretty much opening up about anything and everything, both more than we've ever told anyone before strangely.

WTF are you nuts!?? You put yourself in the position you're in now by being a tad bit on the friendly side. Nothing wrong with having a long fufilling talk the first few days. Of course you gotta get to know eachother outside of the workplace. But you went on a date, lunch and a nice walk without making the slightest of moves I bet. You say you want to treat her like a princess? F dat, be a man. She probably explained to you every single bad thing her ex ever did and I bet you tried to do the exact opposite which in turn makes you phoney. Well not phoney but you tried to hard to please her since she was going through a rough time and you liked her. I've been there before so I know. I bet during that entire time, not once did you tell her how you really feel about her. Friends for life? Not gonna happen.

Exhibit C: In the beginning there were signs that she wanted to be more than friends but she actually said to another friend of mine that she would like to date me but is worried she'd break my heart and even that I knew she would.

That window of opportunity is closed my friend. Once you reach the friend zone, there is no way out. Actually there is but the work you would have to put in is'nt worth it in my opinion. She actually thought about dating you for a while but playing the sensitive friend role probably made her realize that you were to pudding pop for her. You just said she was vain and extrovert. She needs to be checked every once in a while. I'm not saying to flat out diss her but by talking to her a week straight made you availible whenever she wanted you and that turns most females off. You should of been a challenge.





If you really want to be with this girl..... I dont know if you do because you seem content on being just a good friend, I say ignore her for a while. Make her miss you and your friendship. You should have opened up and tell you whats really on your mind from the jump. If you wanted to get the cooch, she probably would of gave it to you without the hassle. If you wanted it to be more serious, you should of played your cards right in the beggining. Now you've fallen back to the friend zone.

and finnally....Exhibit D: that it's like we are doing everything 2 people in a relationship would do (minus the physical contact) without actually being in a relationship.

To me this spells "Cuddle-Bitch".

*********

Dont get offended though, this is just what I see based off the information you gave us so far. For all I know I could be completely wrong. And as far as credibility goes, yes I know that I am dating a HSer but dont let that discredit what I do know. I've been studying the female mindset for years now and I dont have a girl problems. Relationship problems? Yes. Dating scene problems? Not at all.

LoL! Be a man! Before I got married I was always known as a heart breaker!

[Admiral50]

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Hey guys, a week and a half later ... we are now a couple and having an amazing time. I've never had such a special relationship with someone both mentally and physically.

It's almost as if all the tension built up and when we laid our feelings on the line and later acted on them, we just kept (and continue to do so) growing closer to each other.

It took a couple of awkward and hilarious hours to finally get to the first kiss, but when we did, we kept doing so. 3 hours of kissing and 2 orgasms later (not through sex) and we were both in shock and amazement. A week and a bit on, and the usual 'awkward first time together' theory was blown out of the water, so to speak.

We then spend the next 24 hours, still totally into each other and still being just as stimulated through talking, laughing and doing things together.

And we've been 100% honest with our feelings (good or bad) and concerns etc. It's so odd.

It's just blown my mind that a relationship where two people can be so fulfilled in so many ways (not just sexually) can even exist.

I am in such a happy place right now. I know life isn't perfect and there'll be some tough times, but I truly hope this lasts a long time.

[WTF]

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Congrats...

[oakfan162]

Re: Ever fallen for the wrong woman?

Congrats. Little bit TMI in there but Congrats. Good luck with your relationship.

[WTF]

Re: Ever fallen for the wrong woman?

Yeah, should have posted a "Warning: This post contains nut busting information. Read at your own risk." or something along those lines...