Tempted by the fruits of another....

[Jistic]

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As a happily married man I have two words for ya..



.... HIT IT!

[Acid]

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hopefully she doesn't jack it.

[Brandwin]

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See IMO there was no reason to even have this conversation. It might be me, but I don't do that. I don't need to know about another womens life, especially an attractive one, just like my girlfriends doens't need to know about another mans life.

I think it's just a respectful thing to do. But there are some who will allow a man to buy them a drink, flirt etc... as long as it's not cheating, but to me THAT is cheating. If I am out somewhere I won't talk to another women, I won't dance with another women, why? What's the point? Why put yourself in that position.

Sorry getting a little OT.

[aholbert32]

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See IMO there was no reason to even have this conversation. It might be me, but I don't do that. I don't need to know about another womens life, especially an attractive one, just like my girlfriends doens't need to know about another mans life.

I think it's just a respectful thing to do. But there are some who will allow a man to buy them a drink, flirt etc... as long as it's not cheating, but to me THAT is cheating. If I am out somewhere I won't talk to another women, I won't dance with another women, why? What's the point? Why put yourself in that position.

Sorry getting a little OT.

I only agree with that if you are one of those guys who cant control yourself. I've never cheated on a girlfriend and I have way more friends that a girls than guys. I can talk to another girl about sex and relationships and not sleep with her.

Its all about control and if you refuse to talk or dance with another women because u are afraid you might cheat, you need to look at yourself and your relationship.

[Brandwin]

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Nah not because I might cheat but because my girlfriend and I have talked and we think it's disrespectful (in our eyes) to do those things.

I don't have a need to dance with another woman, just how I feel. Not saying you're wrong and I am right, just guidelines we have in our relationship.

[mgoblue]

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I only agree with that if you are one of those guys who cant control yourself. I've never cheated on a girlfriend and I have way more friends that a girls than guys. I can talk to another girl about sex and relationships and not sleep with her.

Its all about control and if you refuse to talk or dance with another women because u are afraid you might cheat, you need to look at yourself and your relationship.

I agree with you! I've never cheated, and if I ever felt like cheating I knew that there was something we had to address in the relationship (sometimes that means just ending it). Sure, you see other women and think they're attractive, but it's different to want to bang them.

Probably my best friend is female too, but no way I could have sex with her, she's like my sister now. One thing I've never understood is that some guys can't have good female friends without sex.

[Coach Bryant]

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See IMO there was no reason to even have this conversation. It might be me, but I don't do that. I don't need to know about another womens life, especially an attractive one, just like my girlfriends doens't need to know about another mans life.

I think it's just a respectful thing to do. But there are some who will allow a man to buy them a drink, flirt etc... as long as it's not cheating, but to me THAT is cheating. If I am out somewhere I won't talk to another women, I won't dance with another women, why? What's the point? Why put yourself in that position.

Sorry getting a little OT.

That is some good advice. Don't put yourself in a position for something to happen. The conversation we had couldn't have been avoided because we were both performing our jobs, and got lumped together. I thought I was rock solid, but I think she put a hex on me or something! The entire 9 years that I have been married this has never happened to me before. Like I said before, I'm around attractive women, and have conversations....there was just something mysterious about this particular girl. The bottom line is that I'm not going to cheat on my wife...I think I just needed to confess.

[Brandwin]

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yeah just chalk it up to something rare and keep it moving.

[MassNole]

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I agree with you! I've never cheated, and if I ever felt like cheating I knew that there was something we had to address in the relationship (sometimes that means just ending it). Sure, you see other women and think they're attractive, but it's different to want to bang them.

Probably my best friend is female too, but no way I could have sex with her, she's like my sister now. One thing I've never understood is that some guys can't have good female friends without sex.

I agree cheating is bad, I've never cheated on a girlfriend/wife. That being said, marriage is one helluva a commitment and I honestly believe sometimes a one time fling with another could be a good thing. Oddly enough one of my biggest regrets in life is not cheating on my long term college GF when I had the chance.

[mgoblue]

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I agree cheating is bad, I've never cheated on a girlfriend/wife. That being said, marriage is one helluva a commitment and I honestly believe sometimes a one time fling with another could be a good thing. Oddly enough one of my biggest regrets in life is not cheating on my long term college GF when I had the chance.

For me it's just a trust issue...I don't want my girlfriend or future wife to be sleeping with other guys behind my back. Would you want Mrs. MassNole getting it on with some guy at work? I dunno, for me personally it's just something that would be tough to get through. Maybe people can make it work, but that's a serious breach of trust. Like you said, marriage is one hell of a commitment.

I really just question what people want with these flings though. I seriously think that most of the time people are unhappy with their relationship in some way and don't want to admit it. If you're perfectly happy, why cheat?

[aholbert32]

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Nah not because I might cheat but because my girlfriend and I have talked and we think it's disrespectful (in our eyes) to do those things.

I don't have a need to dance with another woman, just how I feel. Not saying you're wrong and I am right, just guidelines we have in our relationship.

I understand where you are coming from. I just couldnt live that way. My whole thing is about trust. If I'm in a relationship with someone it means I trust them. So if they go out to the club and accept a drink from someone or dance with someone, I trust that they wont cross the line. My girlfriend should feel the same way about me.

I'm pretty upfront with girls I date though. I tell them staright out that I'm still friends with girls Ive dated and some of my exes and that they arent going anywhere. I'm not going to cheat but dont think im going to put aside my friends just because I'm dating someone new.

[Brandwin]

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Nah I agree what you said about trust. For us though, if we go out, she said there is no reason for her to accept said drink for a man and I agree. Good thing for us we both have the same type of views.

[MassNole]

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For me it's just a trust issue...I don't want my girlfriend or future wife to be sleeping with other guys behind my back. Would you want Mrs. MassNole getting it on with some guy at work? I dunno, for me personally it's just something that would be tough to get through. Maybe people can make it work, but that's a serious breach of trust. Like you said, marriage is one hell of a commitment.

I really just question what people want with these flings though. I seriously think that most of the time people are unhappy with their relationship in some way and don't want to admit it. If you're perfectly happy, why cheat?

My wife and I have discussed this, as I said she has given me permission to do whatever I want. She has flat out told me if I sleep with someone else she'd be okay with that. I would be honest to my wife if I ever did, hell I tell her whenever some other girl flirts with me. I guess as long as I know she's coming home to me at night and plans on being with me for life then I'd be okay with her sleeping with another person as a one time thing. I love my wife to death, in fact I actually almost cheated with her when I was with my college GF (although she's not the girl from a previous post). Maybe we're just different, I don't know.

[Freelance]

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Keep in mind, too, that there are a lot of girls out there that are only jazzed by men they can't have. I've had buddies leave their wives for these "perfect" women, only to find that once that woman has them, they lose interest and start chasing another married guy.

[mgoblue]

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My wife and I have discussed this, as I said she has given me permission to do whatever I want. She has flat out told me if I sleep with someone else she'd be okay with that. I would be honest to my wife if I ever did, hell I tell her whenever some other girl flirts with me. I guess as long as I know she's coming home to me at night and plans on being with me for life then I'd be okay with her sleeping with another person as a one time thing. I love my wife to death, in fact I actually almost cheated with her when I was with my college GF (although she's not the girl from a previous post). Maybe we're just different, I don't know.

Yeah, I understand where you're coming from...I just don't think I could do that, at least not at the "sleeping with other people" level. We all are different, no way to really explain it.