Here goes.
I'm 29. I had a best friend named Abby (I know, gay name) from 4th grade to maybe the age of 24ish. We talked all the time, hung out all the time, etc......everyone liked Abby. I also have a very, very good friend named John who me and Abby met in HS. We've been real tight ever since.
So about 5 yrs ago Abby who developed a serious gambling addiction asked me if he could borrow money cause he owed about 16k to the bookie, but if he was able to get the bookie 9k within a few days he'd be cleared off the books. So I gave him my ATM card and told him to take out whatever he could which was only $500. I didn't think twice about doing that for him, as he wouldn't have had he had to do it for me.
So I never brought up the money cause I didn't need it and I knew he was good for it. About a month goes by and he tells me he bought NYRanger season tix with a friend and he's so pumped for the season, etc.....Still I don't ask for the money. Then he buys something else really big and I finally ask him for the money but he tells me he doesn't have it. I ask him a few weeks later and I get the same BS answer. So I finally tell him that if he doesn't give me the money he's cut. We pretty much "broke up" I guess you can say. So we stopped talking but he's obviously still friends with all of my other friends which is cool. I just avoid him. While this is going on me and John start chillin all the time. Going to bars, hooking up with tons of girls, etc.... Probably one of the best times of my life.
Now about 2 or 3 yrs ago Abby, John and a bunch of other guys rent a party bus to go bar hoping in the Hamptons for a day trip for someones bday. They go and get wasted. Everyone at the end of the day piles into the bus and is waiting for the driver. John falls asleep on the bus. Abby somehow gets the keys, jumps in the front seat and takes off with everyone on the bus. Some kids think its funny cause they're so drunk and others are telling him to stop. So he crashes it really bad into a pole and they all run except John who is sleeping, the dude who rented it who is a good friend of mine and two other guys. Cops come and arrest the 4 who stayed. They spend the night in jail and have to spend over 10k in lawyer fees while Abby disappears cause they have a warrant out for him. Everyone tried getting in touch with him to turn himself in but he ignored everyone. So John and pretty much everyone else cuts Abby off. Abby moves to a different neighborhood and he was still spotted from time to time, but that was it. From what I know he never got in trouble.
Since this time, John has been my main man. I feel like I'm too old to say I have a best friend but John would def be it at this point.
Fast forward to 3 weeks ago. My cell rings and its Abby. I was excited to hear from him and he was excited to hear from me. He told me he wants to invite me to his wedding in Oct and he heard I was getting married and he def wants to come and I said sure. We hung out a couple of weeks ago and had a good time him and his fiancee came over the house and we met and Abby met my fiancee for the first time and everything was good. But the thing is he calls me everyday just to talk like we were in HS. He has alot of spare time at work so he calls me to kill time. I don't want to talk on the phone. I got my own **** to handle.
And, he def wants to come to my wedding and bach party which I said yes to when I first talked to him, but I didn't think about how John and my other friends who were on the bus would feel when they see him. They've been there all this time and Abby just pops up out of nowhere. They also had to go through all that crap because of Abby and they are all extremely pissed at him. IDK how it would work out if they were all together and thats not something I want to worry about at my wedding.
IDK how to handle the whole thing. I want to tell him not to come to either, but he seems really excited about coming to the wedding.
WTF should I do?
I'm 29. I had a best friend named Abby (I know, gay name) from 4th grade to maybe the age of 24ish. We talked all the time, hung out all the time, etc......everyone liked Abby. I also have a very, very good friend named John who me and Abby met in HS. We've been real tight ever since.
So about 5 yrs ago Abby who developed a serious gambling addiction asked me if he could borrow money cause he owed about 16k to the bookie, but if he was able to get the bookie 9k within a few days he'd be cleared off the books. So I gave him my ATM card and told him to take out whatever he could which was only $500. I didn't think twice about doing that for him, as he wouldn't have had he had to do it for me.
So I never brought up the money cause I didn't need it and I knew he was good for it. About a month goes by and he tells me he bought NYRanger season tix with a friend and he's so pumped for the season, etc.....Still I don't ask for the money. Then he buys something else really big and I finally ask him for the money but he tells me he doesn't have it. I ask him a few weeks later and I get the same BS answer. So I finally tell him that if he doesn't give me the money he's cut. We pretty much "broke up" I guess you can say. So we stopped talking but he's obviously still friends with all of my other friends which is cool. I just avoid him. While this is going on me and John start chillin all the time. Going to bars, hooking up with tons of girls, etc.... Probably one of the best times of my life.
Now about 2 or 3 yrs ago Abby, John and a bunch of other guys rent a party bus to go bar hoping in the Hamptons for a day trip for someones bday. They go and get wasted. Everyone at the end of the day piles into the bus and is waiting for the driver. John falls asleep on the bus. Abby somehow gets the keys, jumps in the front seat and takes off with everyone on the bus. Some kids think its funny cause they're so drunk and others are telling him to stop. So he crashes it really bad into a pole and they all run except John who is sleeping, the dude who rented it who is a good friend of mine and two other guys. Cops come and arrest the 4 who stayed. They spend the night in jail and have to spend over 10k in lawyer fees while Abby disappears cause they have a warrant out for him. Everyone tried getting in touch with him to turn himself in but he ignored everyone. So John and pretty much everyone else cuts Abby off. Abby moves to a different neighborhood and he was still spotted from time to time, but that was it. From what I know he never got in trouble.
Since this time, John has been my main man. I feel like I'm too old to say I have a best friend but John would def be it at this point.
Fast forward to 3 weeks ago. My cell rings and its Abby. I was excited to hear from him and he was excited to hear from me. He told me he wants to invite me to his wedding in Oct and he heard I was getting married and he def wants to come and I said sure. We hung out a couple of weeks ago and had a good time him and his fiancee came over the house and we met and Abby met my fiancee for the first time and everything was good. But the thing is he calls me everyday just to talk like we were in HS. He has alot of spare time at work so he calls me to kill time. I don't want to talk on the phone. I got my own **** to handle.
And, he def wants to come to my wedding and bach party which I said yes to when I first talked to him, but I didn't think about how John and my other friends who were on the bus would feel when they see him. They've been there all this time and Abby just pops up out of nowhere. They also had to go through all that crap because of Abby and they are all extremely pissed at him. IDK how it would work out if they were all together and thats not something I want to worry about at my wedding.
IDK how to handle the whole thing. I want to tell him not to come to either, but he seems really excited about coming to the wedding.
WTF should I do?
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