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  • Bighoff
    The Bird is the word
    • Jul 2002
    • 5312

    #16
    Re: Never thought it would happen to us

    Trick my condolences go out to you and you wife. I'm sure right now it seems like things will never get better but over time things will start to improve. You just have to stay strong and be there for you wife. Just take things one day at a time and you'll get through this difficult time.
    I've heard this "patience is a virtue" junk all my life. I'm happy to say I have no virtue, no scruples, and no desire to wait too long for anything. In my humble opinion instant gratification takes too long!

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    • joshuar9476
      MVP
      • Feb 2006
      • 1880

      #17
      Re: Never thought it would happen to us

      the same happened to my wife and i ... it was awful .... but time healed those wounds and a year later we have the most precious gift in the world.

      stay strong, be there for each other, and you will smile again.
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      • Scottdau
        Banned
        • Feb 2003
        • 32580

        #18
        Re: Never thought it would happen to us

        Originally posted by bighoff63
        Trick my condolences go out to you and you wife. I'm sure right now it seems like things will never get better but over time things will start to improve. You just have to stay strong and be there for you wife. Just take things one day at a time and you'll get through this difficult time.
        How are you doing bro? Hope you are doing better.

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        • Qb
          All Star
          • Mar 2003
          • 8797

          #19
          Re: Never thought it would happen to us

          My thoughts & prayers are with you guys. My wife & I are expecting (about 8 weeks) and it will be our first. I can't imagine... I'll be thinking about you guys for a while.

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          • Trick_
            Rookie
            • Dec 2005
            • 293

            #20
            Re: Never thought it would happen to us

            Originally posted by Qb
            My thoughts & prayers are with you guys. My wife & I are expecting (about 8 weeks) and it will be our first. I can't imagine... I'll be thinking about you guys for a while.
            congratulations! are you guys going to find out? We didn't with out first...up until he came out I knew he was going to be either a girl...or a boy with ADD....we got the latter...and i'm glad it happened that way.

            I wrote a letter to the baby...hope you guys don't mind me posting it up here. if theres a problem mods please delete.

            Dear Baby,

            I longed to feel you kick inside your womb. I wanted see your face in the ultrasoundpictures. And most of all I wanted to be the first person you saw when you opened your eyes. Now I will never get that. For some damn reason God had you go before you could be further conceived...maybe to save us some heartache...maybe to spare you. Either way it doesn't lessen the pain. I will always wonder if you were going to be Elijah Nathaniel or maybe you would've been my little dollface...Evan Elizabeth or Solomei...I guess we didn't decide on a girls name yet. Though the presence of you was very short....it has imprinted me forever. They say hearts can be mended...but mine will always have a hole where its missing you! When we found out that you died....a big part of me died. Though lifes cruel circle will force everybody to go on and even though your mom and I feel like we can't....you've made us stronger...and even for a brief moment in time...you made us feel worthy and blessed. Sweet child of mine may you rest in peace.


            Love always and forever
            Daddy (Patrick Justin Murakami)

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            • jim416
              Banned
              • Feb 2003
              • 10606

              #21
              Re: Never thought it would happen to us

              Sitting here with tears in my eyes after having read that. That will help you, and believe me I know what you just went through. My only daughter was killed when she was seven. My son was miscarried also, 38 years ago, and it's still there, although some things happened in my life to let me know that I had been forgiven, but that took many, many years of guilt.

              You did nothing wrong. This will make you stronger for your other child. Love your wife, and keep the faith.

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              • auburntigersfan
                Release the Kirchen
                • Aug 2006
                • 4737

                #22
                Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                My condolences go out to you and your wife.

                My mother has had 2 miscarriages, even years afterward when they are somehow brought up I notice how sad of an experience it is. You will make it through it and it will make you stronger.
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                • CaptainZombie
                  Brains
                  • Jul 2003
                  • 37851

                  #23
                  Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                  Originally posted by Trick_
                  We had a miscarriage. We thought everything would go through smooth much like the first. I know only time will heal us...but I don't know if I could try to have a kid again with the chance of having to go through this again. If I was my wife I'd probably die having to go through everything. Her body is releasing everything...and I feel helpless. I don't know what to say so I just sit there...holding her and doing whatever she needs me to do. But every commercial on tv is a pregnancy test...or showing babies on tv etc. This is my only way to vent I guess...sorry.

                  If anybody has some real advice I'd appreciate it.
                  Trick, I am sorry to hear that and best thing to do is be there for your wife. I wish the best for both of you and the letter you wrote was very nice.
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                  • Trick_
                    Rookie
                    • Dec 2005
                    • 293

                    #24
                    Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                    thank you guys again for your support...it has made today better than i could've imagined.

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                    • Orion
                      Rookie
                      • Sep 2004
                      • 155

                      #25
                      Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                      My condolences Trick. All I can say is to be there for each other. A miscarriage is no less painful. Your letter was beautiful and moved me to tears. No doubt you're a great Dad.

                      I wish you all the best. Love your family, because everything else is nothing. God Bless.

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                      • callmetaternuts
                        All Star
                        • Jul 2004
                        • 7045

                        #26
                        Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                        Sorry to hear that man. Just bunker down with the wife for a while and try to help each other get through it.
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                        • TheMatrix31
                          RF
                          • Jul 2002
                          • 52904

                          #27
                          Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                          That letter was.....wow.

                          I'm sorry, Trick. We're all here for you, man.

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                          • ExtremeGamer
                            Extra Life 11/3/18
                            • Jul 2002
                            • 35299

                            #28
                            Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                            My condolences. If you need to talk, shoot me a PM. Over the last 2 1/2 years, my wife and I had 2 miscarriages, one at 10 weeks, one at 6. It was brutal for both of us. But we talked it through, kept communication up and realized we still wanted to try. Our son is due on September 4th, but may be induced tomorrow. So it can and will work out.

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                            • Qb
                              All Star
                              • Mar 2003
                              • 8797

                              #29
                              Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                              Originally posted by Trick_
                              congratulations! are you guys going to find out?
                              Thanks and yes, we are going to find out the sex. My wife wants to make sure we get all the right stuff...

                              As for the second part, I'm glad I have my own office, as I'm holding back the tears as I type. I don't even know what to say, man. Bless you two (three I guess) and I'll pray that you find peace...

                              And EG, I hope all goes well with the birth.

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                              • CaptainZombie
                                Brains
                                • Jul 2003
                                • 37851

                                #30
                                Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                                Originally posted by Qb
                                Thanks and yes, we are going to find out the sex. My wife wants to make sure we get all the right stuff...

                                As for the second part, I'm glad I have my own office, as I'm holding back the tears as I type. I don't even know what to say, man. Bless you two (three I guess) and I'll pray that you find peace...

                                And EG, I hope all goes well with the birth.
                                Congrats QB, my wife is due the beginning of March with our 4th baby, but they will be taking the baby end of February via c-section. I feel for you guys that have had miscarriages with your wives pregnancies, it is just devastating, but keep your prayers and hopes up as things will only get better.
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