Never thought it would happen to us

Collapse

Recommended Videos

Collapse
X
 
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts
  • Trick_
    Rookie
    • Dec 2005
    • 293

    #1

    Never thought it would happen to us

    We had a miscarriage. We thought everything would go through smooth much like the first. I know only time will heal us...but I don't know if I could try to have a kid again with the chance of having to go through this again. If I was my wife I'd probably die having to go through everything. Her body is releasing everything...and I feel helpless. I don't know what to say so I just sit there...holding her and doing whatever she needs me to do. But every commercial on tv is a pregnancy test...or showing babies on tv etc. This is my only way to vent I guess...sorry.

    If anybody has some real advice I'd appreciate it.
  • trobinson97
    Lie,cheat,steal,kill: Win
    • Oct 2004
    • 16366

    #2
    Re: Never thought it would happen to us

    Damn man, sorry to hear that. All I can say is continue to be there for her.
    PS: You guys are great.

    SteamID - Depotboy



    ...2009, 2011, 2012, 2015, 2017, 2020....
    What a run
    Roll Tide




    Comment

    • Scott
      Your Go-to TV Expert
      • Jul 2002
      • 20030

      #3
      Re: Never thought it would happen to us

      My advice would to just be there for your wife, whatever she needs...I'm sorry to hear about what happened.
      PSN-Shugarooo
      Steam-ScottM.816
      Twitch.tv/Shugarooo
      Want to follow my Franchises? Join my discord: https://discord.gg/nHbNCWmmGs

      Comment

      • RAZRr1275
        All Star
        • Sep 2007
        • 9918

        #4
        Re: Never thought it would happen to us

        Sorry to hear that.
        My latest project - Madden 12 http://www.operationsports.com/forum...post2043231648

        Comment

        • Herky
          Working for the weekend
          • Jun 2004
          • 4715

          #5
          Re: Never thought it would happen to us

          Sorry to hear that man. I've been there before and it sucks. My gal had one 4 years ago. All you can do is be there for each other and things will get better.
          GT: Herkyalert
          PSN: Herkyalert

          Iowa Hawkeyes
          Northern Iowa Panthers
          Minnesota Vikings
          Chicago Cubs
          Minnesota Twins
          Boston Celtics
          Minnesota Timberwolves

          Comment

          • SPTO
            binging
            • Feb 2003
            • 68046

            #6
            Re: Never thought it would happen to us

            I'm so sorry to hear that. As others have said just be there for your wife and be as supportive as you can.
            Member of the Official OS Bills Backers Club

            "Baseball is the most important thing that doesn't matter at all" - Robert B. Parker

            Comment

            • countryboy
              Growing pains
              • Sep 2003
              • 52709

              #7
              Re: Never thought it would happen to us

              I am very sorry to hear about your loss. They say time heals all wounds, and its true. Just be there for one another. It may not seem like it now, but things will get better.
              I can't shave with my eyes closed, meaning each day I have to look at myself in the mirror and respect who I see.

              I miss the old days of Operation Sports :(


              Louisville Cardinals/St.Louis Cardinals

              Comment

              • JMMTX1978
                Rookie
                • Aug 2008
                • 51

                #8
                Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                My thoughts are with you and your wife. I would not wish anyone go through something like that.

                Your emotional support is the best thing you can give.

                Comment

                • SlimKibbles
                  Supporter
                  • Apr 2004
                  • 7276

                  #9
                  Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                  That's awful news, man. You and your wife stay strong. Just be there for her like the others are saying. You'll get through it in time.
                  MLB: Cincinnati Reds
                  NFL: Cincinnati Bengals
                  NCAA Hoops: Xavier Musketeers
                  NCAA Football: Miami Hurricanes
                  NHL: Calgary Flames

                  "All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing." - Edmund Burke

                  "The wisest men follow their own direction." - Euripides

                  Comment

                  • Scottdau
                    Banned
                    • Feb 2003
                    • 32580

                    #10
                    Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                    You are doing the right thing. Just hold your wife and be there any way you can. How far along was she? My sister had one and she is finally getting over it. It is tough, just surround yourself with love ones. Good luck bro.

                    Comment

                    • Trick_
                      Rookie
                      • Dec 2005
                      • 293

                      #11
                      Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                      Originally posted by Scottdau
                      You are doing the right thing. Just hold your wife and be there any way you can. How far along was she? My sister had one and she is finally getting over it. It is tough, just surround yourself with love ones. Good luck bro.
                      we just found out same day...she had all the symptoms...weird cravings...random tiredness (like needing naps...which she usually doesn't do) and of course nausea. she woke up on friday with heavy bleeding and cramping...went to the gyno and they told her she needed a blood test for either A)miscarriage or B)ectopic pregnancy (baby inside tubes) either way it was a lose lose situation.

                      We got the results same day...and it was A. Better for my wife's health in the long run...she was 5 weeks. We have been planning for about that long. (This would have been #2, our first had no problems whatsoever thank God)

                      Thanks for the support guys...i'm at work (wish i didn't have to be but can't afford not to be) and I can't focus and I don't want to talk to my co-workers about it because it will spread like wildfire.

                      Comment

                      • Scottdau
                        Banned
                        • Feb 2003
                        • 32580

                        #12
                        Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                        Originally posted by Trick_
                        we just found out same day...she had all the symptoms...weird cravings...random tiredness (like needing naps...which she usually doesn't do) and of course nausea. she woke up on friday with heavy bleeding and cramping...went to the gyno and they told her she needed a blood test for either A)miscarriage or B)ectopic pregnancy (baby inside tubes) either way it was a lose lose situation.

                        We got the results same day...and it was A. Better for my wife's health in the long run...she was 5 weeks. We have been planning for about that long. (This would have been #2, our first had no problems whatsoever thank God)

                        Thanks for the support guys...i'm at work (wish i didn't have to be but can't afford not to be) and I can't focus and I don't want to talk to my co-workers about it because it will spread like wildfire.
                        Oh OK. Well, one good thing is at least you didn't lose it farther along. Not that is doesn't hurt any less, but my sister lose hers at 5 months. It was just a bad thing and she had a shower already. Your family are in my prayers. Yeah don't share it with too many people. It is not something you want to spread. The best way to get over it is to try to move on. It will be hard, but if you surround yourselves with love ones it will be easier. We had a scare with my last one. We thought she had a topical pregnancy, but she didn't it. She was 2 month along when we got that scare. I think if I had choice I rather have a miss carriage than to lose my kid as an infant. My aunt lose her kid. She was only 1 month old. Very sad. Any ways try to get a lot of rest, because even though this is heavy for you it is a lot more heavy for your wife. You have to be the strong. And watch her moods. She can go into a depression. Just be alert.

                        Comment

                        • Trick_
                          Rookie
                          • Dec 2005
                          • 293

                          #13
                          Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                          thanks alot. I agree its hard now...but it would've been much harder had we started to get to the know the baby.

                          Comment

                          • ChubbyBanana
                            Don't Trust Influencers
                            • Oct 2003
                            • 7071

                            #14
                            Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                            Trick let me first tell you how sorry I am to hear about your family's loss. I have a feeling you feel like your world is falling apart around you, but things will definitely get better.

                            Just remember that time will help you heal. If TV is making it too hard to function try talking to your wife, seeing how she feels. Also the internet is a good resource. Anything is better than sitting around all day thinking about it.

                            Communication can also help a couple heal.
                            Not A Moderator
                            Extra Life 2017
                            Twitter

                            Twitch Stream

                            Comment

                            • Scottdau
                              Banned
                              • Feb 2003
                              • 32580

                              #15
                              Re: Never thought it would happen to us

                              Originally posted by Trick_
                              thanks alot. I agree its hard now...but it would've been much harder had we started to get to the know the baby.
                              YEah it will be hard for a while, but it will get better. Just hang in there and watch your wife. To make sure she doesn't slip into a depression.

                              Comment

                              Working...